Finding out something about your s/o that makes you very uncomfortable unappreciation

[Blown Moon]

Join the club breh, I can't even remember the last time my nuts weren't status. My balls get drained so much you'd think I stay leaving them at 3 point contests.

 

[Gallo]

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I'm glad that you confirmed this. Just a minute ago you gave me a long-winded rant about how you aren't a b1tch(which is essentially a simp). I mean, you and I both know that you are. It's no secret and it's understandable that you felt an obligation to fight my accusation. But it's great that you finally publicly acknowledge that fact, bytch.

 

[bouncy]

She did say she comes harder when u know... She told me she's turned on by being helpless and treated like a "thing"; she also loves to think about being tied up an beaten, whenever she can tell someone has put the cute and innocent tag on her. She has more fantasies but I have no problems with them at all! Now that I think about it, those fantasies are all things that will get the adrenaline pumping e.g. giving me head under a table while I'm talking to alot of uppity old people but then again, fantasies are supposed to be wild right? I just don't think someone having wild fantasies will lead them to being unfaithful. I also asked if her cousin doing what he did had some effect and she said she only thinks about it when he's in town and she said she enjoys making him very uncomfortable by giving him a cold emotionless stare down. So I'm thinking it's just her being a super freak but you've brought up some very good points and I'll run them by her and see what she says.

That fantasy is a lot different from being beat up or something that can change your life(being pregnant by someone else or body damage). It's not so much about having fantasies leading up to being faithful but the type of fantasies because if it releases a lot of dopamine and it isn't from the actual act of sex, eventually she will need something else to give her that same powerful orgasm. You just started so you don't see it yet but give it 6-12 months and watch her start asking for more freakier things that are out of the norm because it sounds like she gets off of things she "shouldn't be doing" and that are considered taboo in her circle of family and friends. I bet she will ask you to let her play with your booty hole and I'm being serious because she likes the taboo type of sex.

I think this comes from being from a conservative type family and people thinking she's a square broad and she loves the fact that she can play both sides but I think she is taking it too far because it will eventually go into something else BUT if she does the exercises I mentioned and eat right as well as learn how to quiet her mind, where you're at now can be good enough once in a while just don't make it an everyday thing because that can turn it into a getting freaky thing to normal sex routine that's NEEDED to get off. Have fun.

 

[Blown Moon]

I'm glad that you confirmed this. Just a minute ago you gave me a long-winded rant about how you aren't a b1tch(which is essentially a simp). I mean, you and I both know that you are. It's no secret and it's understandable that you felt an obligation to fight my accusation. But it's great that you finally publicly acknowledge that fact, bytch.

Yeah yeah, you right, I am a bytch ass nikka and my girl is probably sucking semen out of some homeless mans penis as we speak, I should go get tested but I'm like fukk it, I'm gonna stay with her no matter what she gives me

That fantasy is a lot different from being beat up or something that can change your life(being pregnant by someone else or body damage). It's not so much about having fantasies leading up to being faithful but the type of fantasies because if it releases a lot of dopamine and it isn't from the actual act of sex, eventually she will need something else to give her that same powerful orgasm. You just started so you don't see it yet but give it 6-12 months and watch her start asking for more freakier things that are out of the norm because it sounds like she gets off of things she "shouldn't be doing" and that are considered taboo in her circle of family and friends. I bet she will ask you to let her play with your booty hole and I'm being serious because she likes the taboo type of sex.

I think this comes from being from a conservative type family and people thinking she's a square broad and she loves the fact that she can play both sides but I think she is taking it too far because it will eventually go into something else BUT if she do the exercises i mentioned and eat right as well as learn how to quiet her mind, where you're at now can be good enough once in a while just don't make it an everyday thing because that can turn it into a getting freaky thing to normal sex routine that's NEEDED to get off. Have fun.

Seeing that I was trying to get at her when she was in her last relationship and she told me to stop or she was going to end our friendship and add the fact that she said she'd take a polygraph test at anytime, I'm pretty sure she wont cheat. I agree with you about her liking to do things that she shouldn't and that it probably comes from how people view her and I really am going to run the points you made in your last post by her. As far as the exercises go she's already in LA fitness 4 times a week ing.

 

[bouncy]

Yeah yeah, you right, I am a bytch ass nikka and my girl is probably sucking semen out of some homeless mans penis as we speak, I should go get tested but I'm like fukk it, I'm gonna stay with her no matter what she gives me



Seeing that I was trying to get at her when she was in her last relationship and she told me to stop or she was going to end our friendship and add the fact that she said she'd take a polygraph test at anytime, I'm pretty sure she wont cheat. I agree with you about her liking to do things that she shouldn't and that it probably comes from how people view her and I really am going to run the points you made in your last post by her. As far as the exercises go she's already in LA fitness 4 times a week ing.

She was younger and new to this sex thing that is extreme like this which means her dopamine was still high. The fact that she was fantasizing and hiding it from you shows she can't just let it go and just have regular sex with you. She was probably fantasizing while you were having sex. I'm telling it grows I seen it with my own eyes. If you want to be with this girl in the long run it WILL happen because her dopamine receptors will get weak and lower and you will start getting with more people who are into sex and being open about it which will put more ideas into her head and one of them will involve group sex.

Even though she works out, she might not be doing it right and exercise actually lowers your receptors when not done right because it happened to me. You need to to eat the right foods and eat them before and especially right after your work out. When I wasn't doing it right after a while I would smoke weed and not feel ANYTHING and I needed stronger herb and it still wasn't the same. It wasn't until I learned what was going on that I made that connection.

Doing resistance training and not just cardio will make sure she can stay aroused for longer off of the normal "boring" sex and still get powerful orgasms because her body will be able to take up and use hormones and neurotransmitters and these are what give orgasms. when you fantasize too much they go to help you think about these fantasies which means less for the actual sex and orgasm.

 

[aqualung]

Maybe she's pansexual too, Bravo.
*grabs dictionary*
I’m pansexual. Deal with it - Salon.com

 

[Xtraz2]

top notch

bravo chap

 

[GhettoTeK]

So my girl would have these red marks on her breast from time to time and I would ask her if something was biting her and she'd always say no. Come to find out, she clamps on clothes pins to her nipples and rubs out to skin diamond flicks when I'm gone. She left her laptop up when she went to the bathroom and I did some snooping around and looked at her favorites list; half of it is skin diamond being tied up, poked and prodded. I was shocked, so I just sat in front of her screen looking like she comes back, sees me on her laptop with this look on my face and without even seeing the screen says "Okay I would've told you about this but your kind of sexually close minded and I was scared you'd think less of me". Without even giving me time to process this, she breaks down that not only has she done bdsm before, shes used to do it all the time with her ex girlfriend and boyfriend and then me about the clothes pin thing. I asked her if she was pleased sexually with me and she said she couldn't be with me if she wasn't but I could please her more if I..wait for it..."fukked outside of the box" I stopped her right there; told her that we should go to sleep and finsih talking about this when we get home tomorrow, which is today. Turned off is an understatement for how I feel about this bdsm shyt. I don't know how I feel about her being into it but I do feel uncomfortable with the fact that she did it with her exes. I thought I was a freak but this shyt is a little out of my leauge, I dont think im "sexually close minded" but my damn, you guys should see some of this stuff she beats off to. She leaves before me, so I wake up with a text saying "I think this is good, I can't wait to put all of my sexual prolivities on the table and I wan't you to do the same. This is just a chance for us to grow closer. I love you" All I could think was..There's more? This could be a serious problem. I've already decided that I'll try this for her but if I'm not comfortable with it, then what?

I can't believe this whole time shes been thinking I'm boring in bed, she didn't say that but she might as well have. Things have been a little too eventful with this girl latley.

Anyways how would yall feel about this and is anyone into bdsm?

Eeehh

 

[Family Man]

I had to stop messing with a bytch that wanted me to fukk her in the ass. She wasn't my chick, but a nice lil piece I met at Hooters. This bytch started tearing up the last time I refused. She couldn't understand why that shyt grossed me out. She used to date white guys.

Send that bytch over to me breh.