Falling male earnings have led to a drop in marriage and a rise in out-of-wedlock births

[Ol’Otis]

Some loud ass hood rat hopped on Twitter saying that women are better hustlers than dudes these days

 

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Becaude you know what my idea of a good man is?

Tell us.

 

[RoyalQ]

Read the thread title before opening thread as earrings and was

Lose brain cells brehs

me too. Im like "nikkas out here dropping their diamond studs on the floor?"

 

[Ashley Banks]

Tell us.

You made the statement as if you already knew though.

A good man obviously is someone who doesn't cheat, isnt abusive (verbally or physically), doesn't use or lie to people to get what they want from them, and isn't a criminal.

 

[Arithmetic]

A good man obviously is someone who doesn't cheat, isnt abusive (verbally or physically), doesn't use or lie to people to get what they want from them, and isn't a criminal.

If that's the case, there's a lot of good men out here. They might not have 6 certs but they fit the mold.

 

[Ashley Banks]

If that's the case, there's a lot of good men out here. They might not have 6 certs but they fit the mold.

ok

 

[iBrowse]

I flew somethin in from Haiti and aint lose since @Poitier @iBrowse @Malta We cant lose #Importgang

Wow brehs y'all really living the life . @Poitier @Malta

 

[Poitier]

You made the statement as if you already knew though.

A good man obviously is someone who doesn't cheat, isnt abusive (verbally or physically), doesn't use or lie to people to get what they want from them, and isn't a criminal.

and you couldn't find one Black man who embodied those characteristics huh

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

this has no effect on my life whatsoever.

I'll let you guys continue to war with each other.

 

[iBrowse]

Idk why @Ashley Banks is in here protesting when she joined #importgang when she married Jafar

Talk about cognitive dissonance

 

[iBrowse]

and you couldn't find one Black man who embodied those characteristics huh

Lmao the timing...see my post above

 

[Malta]

Wow brehs y'all really living the life . @Poitier @Malta

I sense some hostility

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

I never said that, you guys are the ones that do it when women have standards. For some reason the men on here think women should just get with any guy that has a job. And if you turn him down, it's only because of his job.

And this is the divide we have when conversations of love and finance occur..
Maybe I should have prefaced my comment with speaking in generalities..
But keep it a buck you know some women do this..
Both sexes say things maybe out of past hurt or insecurities which leads us to build walls and take things for granted when they are in front of us..
Good men and women are very subjective but again let's keep it a buck..
People with high paying jobs with titles get the most push in this society(especially men) as being "good people" and "marriage potential.
The bag seems to equate your whole being in today's society, no matter how flawed and shytty you are as an individual..
No momma is out here saying," You better marry Calvin. He just graduated from burgers to assistant manager at McDonalds"
"Girl..
Bookman just got head janitor of the building. Better get that man"
And this is how the game is fukked up and men are ducking marriage because now you want me when I have the resources but when a figga was eating top ramen, working two jobs and taking 15 hours a semester at college/votech just to get on..
Why should I get married when I'm a hot commodity in these streets.
There has been an incredible disconnect between the sexes and learning on how to build not only wealth but in becoming well rounded mates and matches..
I don't know how men and women are ever going to get back on the same page, we both need each other but the chasm is just too huge and our opinions are just varying..
Plus sexes are scared to face real facts when having this conversation..

 

[Poitier]

Idk why @Ashley Banks is in here protesting when she joined #importgang when she married Jafar

Talk about cognitive dissonance

Black women don't care if other women join #ImportGang, its only a problem when men pay that membership fee

 

[Youseenmywork]

When Factory Jobs Vanish, Men Become Less Desirable Partners

I've been said women entering the labor force and the shrinking male-female gap in education and employment have eroded basic institutions of our society like marriage

This of course is even more of a problem in the Black community and shows its not all on Black men for the way the family unit has turned out since the mid 20th century

Women are either going to have to "date down" and stop trying to get a man with endless options or continue being side chicks/lonely cat ladies

I could take this shyt sooo deep I just don't have the time right now.