She said covid opened her eyes to the importance of family. He is her #1 family member and she realised, she was not his #1 family member.She had plenty of time to reach that conclusion tho. She was with that man for years and engaged to him. What did she expect? That comes with the territory dating someone with kids. shyt, had she married him then his kids are apart of the family. So I guess he supposed to shack up with her and leave his kids out to dry?
To bring up the semi-adult kids thing suggests she thought them being older would mean he wouldn't be so involved but she realises now - as a nonparent - that is not the case.
Some men would prioritise the new wife over the existing kids without neglecting the kids. That happens all the time. His not wanting children with her also suggest he's not interested in building that same dynamic with her either. So that is his family and he'll have his wife.
She's not in the wrong. She's up there in years but can still get what she wants.