I have said this shyt up and down this forum since I got on here.
Black families do not tell their daughters to find a husband; they tell their daughters to get an education because that husband might leave you.
Granted we all know women who have been left, but the emphasis hasn’t been on finding the right kind of guy, as opposed to fearing abuse and divorce.
Even the men in my family are all about women shooting for high paying careers before marriage.
No structure to the family in the West. Throw them out there and hope for the best is all a lot of people do. Got to do more than that.