Most people like good looking people, period. If a woman or a man is an 8 or above, nothing else matters. Of course they can be curved if their attitude is poor, or if a man really has nothing going for himself, but attractive people will have options. If someone is average looking it really just depends on a mix of things. Yes women love money. But a man's look, height, personality, age, and general compatibility are also important. If other areas are lacking, men do need more money if they are going after a woman that is in high demand. And even then she may spend the money and still bounce. If the woman is an average, normal woman, it's really about looks, personality, height, compatibility, money, and lifestyle. How important any of those things are depends on the woman and what she may be looking for at the time.
Dr. Umar blames Professional Black Men for abandoning the black community
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Most people like good looking people, period. If a woman or a man is an 8 or above, nothing else matters. Of course they can be curved if their attitude is poor, or if a man really has nothing going for himself, but attractive people will have options. If someone is average looking it really just depends on a mix of things. Yes women love money. But a man's look, height, personality, age, and general compatibility are also important. If other areas are lacking, men do need more money if they are going after a woman that is in high demand. And even then she may spend the money and still bounce. If the woman is an average, normal woman, it's really about looks, personality, height, compatibility, money, and lifestyle. How important any of those things are depends on the woman and what she may be looking for at the time.
When has anyone said any guy can get any woman? I have never heard that being said. I have heard any guy can get a woman through "game" and "mouthpiece", but not get any woman. Hell, no man bats 100% getting women. If you are batting 25%, you are doing outstanding. Hell, batting 10-15% is a good month for some brothers.
It’s not a professional black man’s fault the “black community” in some cities means the hood. They aren’t abandoning anything, they are choosing statistically safer neighborhoods which is necessary when leading families.
Pure Water
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The white women at my job be fukking with me tho.
Dameon Farrow
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Is this a parody account?
Marlow Stanfield
Superstar
People date people whom they find attractive. That is a no-brainer. How you look to the other person is what either opens, or closes, the door. Your personality, attitude, temperament, etc. is what determines chemistry and alladat.
The thing is...
What one person finds attractive is not what another finds attractive. Hence my point about there being plenty of black women who are nothing like you say they are. You can line up 20 of them and they each can have a different opinion on whether or not Man A's face is "attractive". Line up MILLIONS of them, and surely more than a handful would find Squidward attractive.
Disillusionment? Oh, well. We live in a time of instant gratification for EVERYTHING. The one thing that remains constant: dating intentionally is a long process. It still takes 50 first dates (maybe more) to find that special someone. That aint never gonna change.
Thurgood Thurston III
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Right, and I agree with this.
The problem is that a lot of people spread the OPPOSITE idea. That's what causes the frustration within a lot of young men now.
They grew up being told that looks do not matter at all and women ONLY care about personality. Even so called redpill dudes spread a similar message "women are into bad boys".
The media is the biggest perpetrator of this with all of those movies and sitcoms where some below average lovable loser gets the hot girl.
On thecoli I'm constantly arguing with folks who wholeheartedly believe that women don't care about looks.
Marlow Stanfield
Superstar
The problem is people look at Man A or Woman B and they see that person through their eyes only. They do not, and cannot, see that same person through their lover's eyes. Because of this, they dismiss the notion of attraction existing and chalk it up to personality, money, etc.
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is true af. One cannot look through anyone else's eyes.
MuzzyP
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So you say to pursue money to leave, but that money usually comes with hard work and a clear goal in mind. You don't coast your way into enough money to afford a brand new life unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth.Europeanized is a large umbrella. But in this instance I just mean black people who have bought into the system,and are deeply indoctrinated. Which is why I said c00ns AND Europeanized. Its usually a very thin line between the two though. c00ns and the europeanized often share beliefs. Like preaching bootsrap rhetoric doesnt make you a c00n. Until you start defending white people and shytting on black people. Telling black people they need to do better to succeed in this country isnt c00nish in itself. However it does tell me you buy in,and believe white supremacy is just a boogey man,and not as bad as advertised.
Only thing you should be pursuing in this country is money to leave to another country. Your playing monopoly to pass go and collect 200$. But when you start trying to buy houses to put on Baltic Ave or Boardwalk? I personally believe that to be a fallacy. If you are pursuing building in this country,you arent pursuing anything. Assimilation is actually pursuing you at cheetah speeds
So how are black people supposed to afford to leave if they aren't working hard in the "white man's system" to accumulate wealth? Rob banks?
BaileyPark31
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I'm a female, but I remember back in college I tried to mentor this hood chick and her son......
Lawd that shyt was difficult. She was a defiant airhead.
I can't imagine her son not growing up to be a statistic .... hope I'm wrong.... Hopefully a man or mentor stepped in to save her.
Lawd that shyt was difficult. She was a defiant airhead.
I can't imagine her son not growing up to be a statistic .... hope I'm wrong.... Hopefully a man or mentor stepped in to save her.
Imagine spending an extra 5 years studying. Then another 5 years climbing the corporate ladder. Putting hardworking and discipline ahead of having fun, and then getting told you need to shoulder the burden of those who did not do what you did.
At what point is time is the hard working black man supposed to live his life, have fun and start a family of his own?
There is something sinister about the message. I've heard these talking points come up in my community from people like Umar. Whenever it is done, it is done by blowhards trying to undermine the accomplishments of other sources of inspiration. They want to be in a position where they define success and value so that they're always at the top of the ladder.
At what point is time is the hard working black man supposed to live his life, have fun and start a family of his own?
There is something sinister about the message. I've heard these talking points come up in my community from people like Umar. Whenever it is done, it is done by blowhards trying to undermine the accomplishments of other sources of inspiration. They want to be in a position where they define success and value so that they're always at the top of the ladder.
has he built that school he was talking about yet? Or did he run off with bag.
A lot of cats in this thread think y’all are members of the talented tenth, news flash you aren’t . Some of y’all aren’t even middle class, but you’re jumping on the chance to speak for us cats that are. The lack of self awareness from posters who admit they’re broke in one thread, always trying to find a way to make it and then in the next pretend like they’re in the 1 percent is sad,but hilarious. I can tell a lot of y’all parents were middle class and y’all have some perverted mindset that y’all still are and have the need to look down on someone so y’all gaze towards the “hood” when most of you are in the same boat as them 
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