I think the problem is nowadays everyone has a rom-com "happily ever after" notion of marriage and "soul mates." People just aren't conditioned to deal with the commitment and partnership.
Do you believe in marriage?
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I do. however, I think people should define what type of marriage they want before they commit. Not everybody values the same things and not everyone wants the same things out of marriage. I also think marriage should only take place between two mature (emotionally and mentally) adults.
I agree. Our culture is slightly to blame. We as a whole value individuality over collectivity and community. Most people just don't have the skillset needed to create and sustain marriage.
Marriage is alot of give with some take. People seem to think its alot of take with some give. But in return you have a life partner.. Its not all roses and sunshine. But like anything you want commitment from you have to work for or with it.
Be smart about your choices, and realize that people go through highs and lows that last more than a few weeks or months. Divorcing someone because you don't like the way they do or say something, or because they aren't as romantic as they use to be shouldn't even be a option in your brain. Once you said I do it should be to death unless the other person screws up and cheats or does something else terrible.
Be smart about your choices, and realize that people go through highs and lows that last more than a few weeks or months. Divorcing someone because you don't like the way they do or say something, or because they aren't as romantic as they use to be shouldn't even be a option in your brain. Once you said I do it should be to death unless the other person screws up and cheats or does something else terrible.
I think to each its own
I don't judge the GMB brehs on here
I lol at it and I understand "some" of the reasons why the idea turns ppl off
But believe this
The man or woman who doesn't fall victim to temptation is a rare and strong person
It may not happen right away
It may be 20 years down the road
It may be premeditated
It may be an urge
But the shyt happens. On both sides
Don't matter who you think you with people are humans and humans fucc up
So to be single and have them kinda thoughts obviously scares some from commitment
I'm married with a small daughter and everyday I wake up with them reminds me of all the shytty lonely hungover etc days and nights when I was single or just casually dating/fuccin and I can say I'm truly a happier man and a more mature man than ever before. Not cuz of the "married" title. I think we could've been straight just still "dating" exclusively almost 7 years deep but Like I said
To each its own
I don't judge the GMB brehs on here
I lol at it and I understand "some" of the reasons why the idea turns ppl off
But believe this
The man or woman who doesn't fall victim to temptation is a rare and strong person
It may not happen right away
It may be 20 years down the road
It may be premeditated
It may be an urge
But the shyt happens. On both sides
Don't matter who you think you with people are humans and humans fucc up
So to be single and have them kinda thoughts obviously scares some from commitment
I'm married with a small daughter and everyday I wake up with them reminds me of all the shytty lonely hungover etc days and nights when I was single or just casually dating/fuccin and I can say I'm truly a happier man and a more mature man than ever before. Not cuz of the "married" title. I think we could've been straight just still "dating" exclusively almost 7 years deep but Like I said
To each its own
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Sure, but I don't really believe spending $50K to celebrate it and dropping $10K on a rock.
Yes. I've grown up in a family of nothing but 40+ year marriages. My mom and dad, aunts and uncles on both sides of the family. I can't even imagine what a real relationship would look like outside of marriage.
The problem I see is that people build up ridiculous expectations and/or horror stories of marriage instead of experiencing it for themselves. That's what I like to call existential laziness. You live vicariously through hearsay and duck tales of other people's lives. Why? B/c ur too lazy to create a reality for yourself.
When it comes to marriage all I hear is fearmongering. Even if it's the worse thing in the world, that doesn't mean it has to be that way for U. Reality, much like biology, isn't destiny.
So stop the excuses. But feminism, but divorce, but cheating...but anything.
If your not a monogamy person then cool. But if you love someone, love them enuff to commit in every single way. Love takes courage.
The problem I see is that people build up ridiculous expectations and/or horror stories of marriage instead of experiencing it for themselves. That's what I like to call existential laziness. You live vicariously through hearsay and duck tales of other people's lives. Why? B/c ur too lazy to create a reality for yourself.
When it comes to marriage all I hear is fearmongering. Even if it's the worse thing in the world, that doesn't mean it has to be that way for U. Reality, much like biology, isn't destiny.
So stop the excuses. But feminism, but divorce, but cheating...but anything.
If your not a monogamy person then cool. But if you love someone, love them enuff to commit in every single way. Love takes courage.
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I think ultimately most people are just not willing/Able to make the SACRIFICES that come with Marriage.
Me and my wife are knocking on our 5 year anniversary and I couldn't have married a better ride or die woman. She's also a GREAT mother which is very important as well.
I know I'm not always the easiest man to be with, but she puts up with my crazy ass and I love her.
Me and my wife are knocking on our 5 year anniversary and I couldn't have married a better ride or die woman. She's also a GREAT mother which is very important as well.
I know I'm not always the easiest man to be with, but she puts up with my crazy ass and I love her.
Yes it takes work. But if you do it right its very rewarding.
If you have no intention on giving a person your honest best, then you shouldn't get married
If you have no intention on giving a person your honest best, then you shouldn't get married
Any proof of this? I think this is by and large fallacy people use to show disdain toward other folk.
Show me where people are out here thinking life is a rom com?
Neither does the majority of humans