This is false. If I was a good guy and I can no longer trust. I'm ruined. You can say no I chose to be untrusting. Which is kinda true, but at the same if I chose to trust another female and I got burned. You'd say I was dumb, I should've learned from previous experience. Now if I chose to take things slower and the woman leaves me because I want to take it slower. I'm alone and miserable, I'm an @sshole for stringing her long. Though I wasn't stringing her along, I was being cautious. So yes, you can be ruined by the "wrongs" of others.