Dime piece who refuses to go 50/50 explains what she has to offer. Does she make a valid point?

[Crude]

I see this is the hot topic of the moment.

I will always say do what works for your household.

That will look different from one household to another.

That said, a lot of men play themselves trying to take care of women and provide provision for women that really don’t want to pull their weight in the marriage/relationship and want a man to take care of them.

A partnership where one partner is shouldering 90-100 percent of the financial burden when the other partner is able bodied and doesn’t want to contribute is NOT a partnership.

No relationship is ever truly even or 50/50. Sometimes it will be 60/40, 70/30, 80/20, etc. Sometimes those odds will be in your favor other times they’ll be in your partners favor. If you got someone that truly cares about you beyond what you can provide financially they’ll take up the slack at times when you can’t.

 

[JLova]

Weak.

Both men and women should know how to sell themselves. That broad sounded retarded. If you're pretty you can get away with that, if you're average/mid you can't be stumbling with weak shyt.

 

[god shamgod]

They aren't talking about paying for dates. They are talking bout being a stay at home wife/mom or a woman who pays no bills and just uses her money on whatever she wants.

Oh , that shyt ain’t happening

 

[Commish]

What is she talking about??

All the stuff she said should come standard and doesn't equate to contributing zero financially..

Here is my take on this 50/50 iish..

I believe the average man isn't requiring a women to contribute half of all the finances, but men want a woman to contribute a portion even if it isn't much.

Not all men is able to take on all of the financial load, especially in HCOL states.

Gotta live within one's means...

As for the woman, she has a right to want whatever she wants, but it will come @ a cost!

Said cost may very well be her being by herself where she will accrue 100% of the cost.

I just don't believe that a man should have to pay for iish that should come standard.

Practically everything she said she brings to the table a man can do for himself.

Fellas, if you wanna deal with a woman like this, then knock yourself out!

Couldn't be me!! *shrugs*

 

[Scaaar]

I think 2 whole people should bring themselves instead of looking for someone else to do something for them.

If you have an agenda you'll over look the lack of compatibility to get your need met which is why the vast majority of relationships fail.

People love to date someone lacking so they can have leavage which makes relationships toxic.

If you need nothing from me and I need nothing for you then we can see if we are actually compatible. That's why you see so many unhappy couples. In it for the wrong reasons. If you don't need anything from anyone it's easy to walk away from relationships that don't serve you.

But we live in the age of users and lack of self reflection. That's why these people deserve the relationships they get. How can a user be a victim? I don't feel sorry of either side.

Facts! So many people dating from a place of need these days that it's crazy. Everyone is looking to get something from someone and it's all based on superficial things.

 

[DaHNIC82]

All the shyt happening in the world and black people still arguing over this high school bullshyt

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Dime piece

 

[TEH]

These women must be dating dumb men. It speaks volumes as to why they’re even on this show.

 

[TEH]

I see this is the hot topic of the moment.

I will always say do what works for your household.

That will look different from one household to another.

That said, a lot of men play themselves trying to take care of women and provide provision for women that really don’t want to pull their weight in the marriage/relationship and want a man to take care of them.

A partnership where one partner is shouldering 90-100 percent of the financial burden when the other partner is able bodied and doesn’t want to contribute is NOT a partnership.

No relationship is ever truly even or 50/50. Sometimes it will be 60/40, 70/30, 80/20, etc. Sometimes those odds will be in your favor other times they’ll be in your partners favor. If you got someone that truly cares about you beyond what you can provide financially they’ll take up the slack at times when you can’t.

This

That real love doesn’t even care about money.

Money is just a tool they use to live together happily.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Lady, I can do all that by myself I even know how to clean a house up to a woman's standard

 

[BlackMagnus514]

Lmao this chick is thinking these dudes are Pookies or something.

Imagine telling a guy you’re not going 50/50 and all you’re gonna do is write emails.

 

[cyndaquil]

And I would tell you I am not interested in putting my life on the line and being attached to you for 20+ years to build the family you want.

You're one of the people I'm talking about.
Looking to use a woman to fulfill something you want.

WW3 is about to break out, there is about to be no department of education, racism is about to ramp back up, natural disasters are everywhere and depending on what state you live in she may not even be able to get proper natal care.

But fukk all that, she needs to be able to mule for your snotty nose kids in a fukked up world.

Anyone with sense would not have children with you. No consideration for the world you're even bringing these children into.

God forbid you actually just want a partner that has her own goals and dreams. Straight selfish.

Ok then you arent looking to be an actual partner to anyone. Marriage and starting a family comes with risks and sacrifice thats part of it. Whoever I end up with would want those same things. I am not looking to use anyone. Thats your own fukked up world view. You sound cynical and jaded.

One person cannot start a family by themselves. On the other end of the spectrum would the woman be using me because she wants to start a family and have kids with me? No. Hence I would tell her what I'm looking for and she'd tell me what she's looking for. Our goals and dreams would overlap.

I see how my family has raised me and my cousins is it not fair to want just as good or better for my own children? You act like people are only choosing people by what they have. Chemistry, connection, lifestyle choice are all important and would be a factor.

Just because YOU aren't looking to have kids and a family doesn't mean everyone else isn't. It's not selfish you're projecting your own trauma onto other people.

 

[mrfortune]

no

 

[Marlow Stanfield]

i hate this conversation so fukking much

if im talking to a woman and she knows what 50/50 even is, just off the phrase, im out

It's circular, goes nowhere, and ultimately leaves the people who engage in it single af. The horse has been atomized at this point.

 

[Lexx Diamond]

C'mon plei boi, you already know what it is. It all about what that mouth of hers do.