Dating a younger woman as an old nikka?

[Gloxina]

If dudes don't wine and dine, they won't get any woman at all, let alone young.

I think you fail to mention the dynamics don't suddenly change with older women. Maybe if that woman is desperate. Older women want the same thing as younger women, especially since they're serious about settling down. A 35 yr old woman who is not putting up with a 35 yr old coli janitor breh with no life goals.

The commodity you speak of common sense

Of course older women want the same thing, but a younger woman has more options. Why why stick around with an older man who is doing the same stuff as guys your age? That was my point.

 

[Gloxina]

That makes sense. In fact I've noticed that a lot of girls who engaged in a lot of casual sex in their 20s start becoming more spiritual and posting bible quotes on IG in their 30s. And mentioning how they want a solid and stable dude much more frequently. Lol even Draya was talking about ignoring her DMs and praying to God for guidance before going on dates in a Shaderoom interview last year, before all the stuff with Jalen Green lol. It's really interesting.

Mmhmm because they wake up and realize all the dudes they engaged with saw them as fun girls and they have nothing to show for it. If you already got these lessons from your elders, you would know that it’s in your best interest to not sleep with a bunch of dudes and have regrets as time goes on.

 

[2 Up 2 Down]

At least you not this nikka. He 57 years old knocking an 18 yr white girl

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Mentally they are probably close.

 

[skyrunner1]

I maaaaaaaay get in on the faceless YT grift, but probably not from this angle LOL

There is too much $ being made on social media right now

Glo I been gave you the game over a year ago..

You out here playing and home girl touched Ms off selling poles... Its not a game out here..


Actually missed this thread and read thru it, one of the few threads the ladies actually tried to lace brehs with no slant so salute to them..

 

[#1 pick]

My sister got on my ass pretty bad about this.

Pretty much said it only should’ve been sex and SOME dates here and there. Not EVERYTIME we saw each other. She feels as if I set myself up to be strung along and manipulated.

My sister also pointed out how the girl would be “hot and cold”, gaslight me, and not introduce me to her friends or family.

Ultimately, my sister felt as if the girl was just using me until the person (younger) that she really wanted came along that could take my place. Possibly demonstrating bad behavior in hopes that I would have ended the relationship, so that she could come out looking like the good guy.

She said that the girl fukking me good meant nothing due to this generation being ok with having casual sex. It was a tool to keep me locked in and she never “loved” me per say.

asked how I can be so stupid at my old age lol

Everything that The Coli said.

She said I should’ve BEEN opened up to her and she would’ve told me what was up. She only knew of the positives about the girl and her young age, which was a bad idea… & not the entirety of the situation.

She doesn’t think that the girl cheated, but she was already entertaining the dude to see if he would be a good replacement. Once she confirmed that, then that’s why she was ok with leaving over the smallest disagreement.

She just jumps from situation to situation instead of fukking multiple people at the same time.

I’m just an extremely private person when it comes to my business and people that I date, but maybe I should share more with my family.

Sharing more is better for decision making. You aren't liable to do something stupid if you have to bring it up to others you don't want to let down

 

[Heavy_Handz]

Y'all are different generations, won't work. Age difference shouldn't be more than 5 years imo.

lol @ 5 years

 

[#1 pick]

And they oddly underestimate the attractiveness of young men. For a normally adjusted young woman, a young handsome man will always beat out an older handsome man all things being equal. The same reason cougars seek out young men. If all you’re doing is fukking you may as well get prime looks and stamina. You really need money and game to beat out the thrill and primal attraction of youth. The true currency of an older man (or woman) is literally actual currency. If you’re looking for long term love, you need someone equally yoked. This is why most relationships and marriages are close in age.

It’s wild how she seemed to have more game and self awareness than he did and he almost has two decades on her.

As we get older, we get more stupid.

I know 21 year old me was a superior fukk to 30s me. 30s me is way more skilled, a lot more patience but 21 year old me could fukk all day. Bust multiple nuts. My dikk got hard if it was a slight breeze outside. 18-23 year Olds just got superior stamina. Now I am way more experienced and skilled now but if you want 4 hours, go Holla at the 21 year old me

 

[#1 pick]

Most def…

She’s a really sweet person and she has her head on straight. She did go through her NFL & athlete phase which was around 21 or so and I understood that she was young and needed time to experience life.

And like my dad always told me you get more bees with honey meaning that you never burn bridges unnecessarily because you never know down the line when or where you might run into people or might need their assistance.

They all do if they are very attractive. NFL players or college players with NFL dreams. I kid you not, I always knew what my competition was and I always knew I had to do way better

 

[Silkk]

As we get older, we get more stupid.

I know 21 year old me was a superior fukk to 30s me. 30s me is way more skilled, a lot more patience but 21 year old me could fukk all day. Bust multiple nuts. My dikk got hard if it was a slight breeze outside. 18-23 year Olds just got superior stamina. Now I am way more experienced and skilled now but if you want 4 hours, go Holla at the 21 year old me

Sound like you need to get in the gym

 

[LiveFromLondon]

nikka tried to cuff Lots wife and found out the hard way

 

[#1 pick]

Sound like you need to get in the gym

I do

 

[Gloxina]

Glo I been gave you the game over a year ago..

You out here playing and home girl touched Ms off selling poles... Its not a game out here..


Actually missed this thread and read thru it, one of the few threads the ladies actually tried to lace brehs with no slant so salute to them..

I was thinking about that. You sure did lmao

 

[Scaaar]

Personally, I couldn't seriously date a 21-year old (I'm 41). We could have some fun experiences but it would be for a season, not the main reason. Dinner dates, a couple vacations maybe, just doing fun sh*t we both like to do, etc. And if she needs some change to make her life a little easier, go ahead and hold that boo.

At the end of the day I'm giving her a lifestyle 99% of dudes in their 20s can't give her. And I know for damn sure a dude in his 20s ain't f*cking her like I'm f*cking her. He lacks experience and grew up on porn. I've been pleasing women for 20+ years, longer than he's been alive... there's no comparison.

I think that's where alot of brehs mess up they get so caught up on spending money and trying to lock this chic up in the house. Nah you just enjoy your time with her don't put no pressure on her and you live your life and she's the perks of it when she's around you. They be on that controlling wave and lock her up in the house because they scared that the next man might come scoop her up. That just lets me know they're not as confident in themselves lol

 

[Scaaar]

My sister got on my ass pretty bad about this.

Pretty much said it only should’ve been sex and SOME dates here and there. Not EVERYTIME we saw each other. She feels as if I set myself up to be strung along and manipulated.

My sister also pointed out how the girl would be “hot and cold”, gaslight me, and not introduce me to her friends or family.

Ultimately, my sister felt as if the girl was just using me until the person (younger) that she really wanted came along that could take my place. Possibly demonstrating bad behavior in hopes that I would have ended the relationship, so that she could come out looking like the good guy.

She said that the girl fukking me good meant nothing due to this generation being ok with having casual sex. It was a tool to keep me locked in and she never “loved” me per say.

asked how I can be so stupid at my old age lol

Everything that The Coli said.

She said I should’ve BEEN opened up to her and she would’ve told me what was up. She only knew of the positives about the girl and her young age, which was a bad idea… & not the entirety of the situation.

She doesn’t think that the girl cheated, but she was already entertaining the dude to see if he would be a good replacement. Once she confirmed that, then that’s why she was ok with leaving over the smallest disagreement.

She just jumps from situation to situation instead of fukking multiple people at the same time.

I’m just an extremely private person when it comes to my business and people that I date, but maybe I should share more with my family.

Salute to your sister. She gave you some quick game. Now you should have told her about this from the jump and she would have prepped you to save the heartache on the backend breh.

 

[mag357]

I’m divorced early 40’s “dating” a girl in her mid 20’s. Not expecting nothing, just enjoying the moments. I’ve noticed that it really bothers people who know you personally when you date a younger woman. I don’t look old, we don’t get funny looks in public at all. She’s just fine so she always gets attention. But females that I know judge me like I purposely sought out a young woman. They assume you’re being a sugar daddy or getting used for something. Some nikkas do that too. But at the end of the day nothing is guaranteed with older women either, since they wanna compete with young women so bad. A lot of dudes are so out of touch they couldn’t get a young woman off the muscle, so they make themselves tricks and sugar daddies, but younger women love older men who can really teach them something. They are probably the nikkas that taught a lot of the good women y’all with now how to treat you right.

I came into this thread late.
It's crazy reading these responses
Thank you for this lol

To your bolded.
So many older nikkaz are out of touch, don't feel like they look good enough, ain't Poppin enough or have been shamed to NOT even put themselves in the game with younger women.

All the things they are saying about the younger females being with older men, you could say about any female of any age.

They are just out for money. They'll use you as a place holder til something better comes along.

If you are around any age woman and your energy is that of a nikka that is just happy to be in her presence.. Yea, your time will be short.