Coli brehs AITA or is my girl trippin?

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

Saturday I was at my girl crib chillin and was gonna stay the night, somehow her whole damn family almost was over there. It was about midnight and she had work in the morning, and I low key hate her bed because of how soft the mattress is and I wasn't tired so I was gonna go sit on the couch and play a game on my laptop. Somehow her mama homegirl(they been cool since they was teenagers) had got over there and she started talking to me. Took me about 5 seconds before I realized this bytch was full of that liquor and was gone off some powder. At first she was like 'I think y'all real good for each other, y'all a beautiful couple.' which was fine. Then she went left and said "You didn't have no history before you got with her, so I went and stalked your facebook page and saw that you have a son. I was like ok he got a son so what else is he trying to hide?' Mind you my son comes over there all the time to hang out with her nephew because they the same age, and my son lives with me now and I had to fight to be in my son's life, so the bytch was out of line.

So being that that's her mama homegirl and I wasn't trying to push it there, instead of cussing that bytch out I packed my shyt up and left. I told my girl when she asked why I was leaving that I just wanted to go sleep in my own bed. I wasn't trying to fukk up the peace of the house, and start no shyt between her and her mama homegirl cause what she said was disrespectful as shyt. So the next morning, my girl was like I'm feeling some type of way about you leaving at midnight. I'm still over here trying to maintain the peace and I just tell her I just wanted to sleep in my own bed. My girl ends up finding out the truth about what happened because her sister was in the bathroom ear hustlin the whole time this was going down. So my girl asked why I didn't just tell her and I told her I was just trying to maintain the peace, she been a family friend to y'all since y'all was babies so I didn't even wanna open up that can of worms.

This morning my girl message me saying she still upset with me and that I lied about that even when she told me that she felt some type of way. Said it makes her feel like she wants to put her guard up around me because 'I thought we could talk about anything, and you lied about something simple and that she was still upset with me.' It was a big ole wall of text. I just simply replied with 'Ok' and called it a day and we haven't talked since. Am I trippin cause I feel like my girl needs to let this shyt go cause at the end of the day I'm the only victim in this situation and I been trying to be the bigger person here. I really don't feel like I'm wrong in what I did, and I was perfectly justified in how I handled the situation. Am I the a$$hole or is my girl trippin?

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

your girl could have told her he wasn't a secret
you could have just told her he wasn't a secret
she could have just asked your girl about seeing him on facebook
everybody communication lacking on all sides. everybody the a$$hole

 

[RiverCity916]

Scared to tell a broad the truth? fukk keeping the peace.
"I felt disrespected by you mom's friend and your mattress is too soft."

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

Scared to tell a broad the truth? fukk keeping the peace.
"I felt disrespected by you mom's friend and your mattress is too soft."

She been knew this. Like I said it was midnight and everybody besides this cokehead was settling down. I just know me, if I woulda said something it woulda caused a big ass scene which I wasn't trying to do. Next time though, fukk it I'm gonna go in on whoever the fukk it is.

your girl could have told her he wasn't a secret
you could have just told her he wasn't a secret
she could have just asked your girl about seeing him on facebook
everybody communication lacking on all sides. everybody the a$$hole

My girl was sleep, she wasn't finna tell her nothing I guess I could have communicated it better, but I didn't want to start no shyt. Honestly I didn't know until after the fact my girl mama been trying to cut ties with the broad since last year when they went to the casino and she was on that powder trippin. If I would've known that I would've handled the situation very differently. I just don't see why my girl is mad at me still after knowing the whole story.

 

[Regular Developer]

I feel like "tryna to keep the peace" never winds up working out like that. What did you actually feel like telling her mom's friend? Maybe you shoulda said that.

Edit: Sorry, had to re-read. I thought it was your house. Maybe you didn't need to say what you wanted to say, but you coulda told your girl that her mom's friend is an annoying, disrespectful, nosey stranger, who's drunk and on something and you're leaving.

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

I feel like "tryna to keep the peace" never winds up working out like that. What did you actually feel like telling her mom's friend? Maybe you shoulda said that.

I wanted to cuss the bytch out, stalking my facebook page? Bringing up my son saying I'm trying to hide him. Who the fukk says some shyt like that, my son LIVES WITH ME. This bytch done lost her fukking mind, and worst part about it is she was like 'You don't remember me from such and such kickback?' and I had no idea who this bytch was. hoe sounded fukking crazy.

 

[Regular Developer]

I wanted to cuss the bytch out, stalking my facebook page? Bringing up my son saying I'm trying to hide him. Who the fukk says some shyt like that, my son LIVES WITH ME. This bytch done lost her fukking mind, and worst part about it is she was like 'You don't remember me from such and such kickback?' and I had no idea who this bytch was. hoe sounded fukking crazy.

I adjusted my original comment, lol.

But I mean, you don't have to go nuclear, but she already fukked up the peace cause you felt like you wanted to leave. Peace doesn't just mean not explosive. if you're not enjoying the vibe of a spot when you were, that's disturbing the peace as well.

 

[Belize King]

IMO, you aren’t the a$$hole. Your girl is immature as well. She should respect your boundary.

Drunk, coke heads shouldn’t bother you. YOU know what you are doing with your life. Your Facebook depicts whatever you allow it to show. Why care or be bother by her opinion?

If this woman will always be in your girl’s life, have one conversation, set the boundary, and move on. If you need to go no contact, your girl should respect that. If your girl can’t, on some can’t we all be friends, you move how you want after that.

 

[Gunz&Butta]

Your girl is one hell of a drama queen. How is this your fault?

 

[Turbulent]

Your girl sounds annoying.

You didn't really lie to her. You just didn't tell her the complete story of how you felt. If your girl feels like she's entitled to know how you feel about any and everything at all times, chances are she's a control freak/crazy/codependent.

 

[Womb Raider]

How old is ya girl? That drama queen shyt is for the birds and if she’s childish to the point where’s she’s mad at you for having boundaries, you should distance yourself.

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

Honestly should have asked her mom friend why she was researching you and told her you didn’t like the tone of the conversation. In a respectful manner of course. People been calling me confrontational my whole life. But fukk all that, if I feel a certain type of way or want to know something I’m speaking up. And it’s not what you say or do, but how you do it. So definitely could have been straight up with that lady in a respectful way. I don’t give a fukk how much powder she was on. We about to get some shyt straight about me and my son and my relationship with shorty, respectfully of course.

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

And to answer your question your girl tripping but it ain’t that big of a deal. She just being overly dramatic like a lot of women are. Just tell her she stupid for letting her momma powder head ass friend cause any type of strain in yall relationship. And don’t entertain the shyt no more and move on

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

Your girl sounds annoying.

You didn't really lie to her. You just didn't tell her the complete story of how you felt. If your girl feels like she's entitled to know how you feel about any and everything at all times, chances are she's a control freak/crazy/codependent.

She really not normally like this, Idk where this is coming from. We don't argue very often at all which is why I'm trying to figure out why she is choosing this situation where I am very clearly not in the wrong to try to make an argument out of it.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

My girl was sleep, she wasn't finna tell her nothing I guess I could have communicated it better, but I didn't want to start no shyt. Honestly I didn't know until after the fact my girl mama been trying to cut ties with the broad since last year when they went to the casino and she was on that powder trippin. If I would've known that I would've handled the situation very differently. I just don't see why my girl is mad at me still after knowing the whole story.

as far as your girl, i mean before that night. like.... a family friend that is familiar with you clearly gossiping about you to the family, clearly getting her intel from someone. any dude playing sleepover at my house with my family there, they are going to know "we" have kids lol.
yeah idk how a simple "our kids play together" would start shyt.
i love it when i have a mic drop answer, i be like but it seems like you have a whole story behind the situation so maybe that's why it caught you feeling a type of way.