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Ciara is trending on Twitter and catching flack for apparently being a hypocrite
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I got that Stem Stimulus breh and I will never look back.
A "decent dude" TO ME is someone who's out here that's really about what
they say they're about. They've already graduated college or they're attending school
gaining some form of higher education whether that's a degree or some sort of vocational
skills that can carry over into a higher paying job that wouldn't be attainable with simply
a high school diploma.
They work a job that at least pays 40K a year and/or are on track to do so once their
education is finished and they aren't trying to get stuck on government assistance and
living a half step from squalor.
I won't and really truly cannot speak on women in general but I can speak on my personal experience's and some women really just want a dude they can roll up blunts and drink with,that'll accept their multiple kids and their $12.00 an hour a job and general lack of motivation to be "Great" in life.
I've always tried to look at women as people first and foremost ignoring social class and the income tied to it or even children they've had before they met me but the strange similarities between the group which DIDN'T have a college degree and never really planned to do so was to hard for me not to notice.
They'll deal with a dude who will or has ALREADY cheated on them.
- Even if you're a certified GOOD dude who isn't looking to have three or four women
or even have an inclination for cheating, they'll look you over for the FAMILIAR.
Some of em truly do not know any better and they seek the men they saw their
mother's,aunt's, sister's, grandmother's, girlfriend's and so on with.
They'll have a CHILD for these same cats or already do and they're looking
to have a second or a third with either that same dude or someone with a similar mindset.
- You can be a guy that isn't seeking to have a bunch of kids with different women or even
looking for children RIGHT NOW but because of that you aren't looked at as "Ready" for them.
Some regularly have to indulge in some kind of mind altering substance whether
it's smoking weed, drinking alcohol or something harder than those two to have a "Normal" day.
- I don't really smoke or drink and in my personal experience that's perceived as "Boring".
So when I want to go do shyt like see a Jazz show or hit the Museum of Modern Art over going
to the club, bar or sitting at their apartment getting drunk/high they don't "get" it.
Being college educated, fit and goal oriented doesn't mean much to some women,
and that's just the way it is.
For the record :
I'm not a locker room regular and whenever I visit I usually have disdain for the misogyny here but in my personal experience dating single mothers or low income broads or wanna be "Hood" chicks. I would immediately get the sense that they're where they're at for a reason and will likely stay where they're at long after I've passed through and shot my shot.
just described me and my drawbacks in the dating world perfectly...
True.
A lot of Black women don't get serious about mating until they're close to 30 or past 30. Then, they want to accelerate things. The "I need to be heading toward marriage in six months" shyt. Which turns a lot of men off. What man, in his right mind, is going to marry a woman after only one year of courting in this current climate? But, because those women have a "clock" ticking in their mind, they sabotage a lot of their own relationships.
Which leads to a lot of frustration.
Their non-Black counterparts get serious about that shyt in their early 20s.
What is "wife material" then?
So women who care about having a successful career and an education that they could be proud of have "baggage" and are masculine.
Being docile is feminine.
Black women wait to think about marriage... that's the narrative we're running with now huh?
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If you've got to ask, that means you haven't been schooled by older Black women who have been wives.
We don't have enough older Black women schooling younger Black women.
Black mothers are sending their daughters off to college to get a job.
Non-Black mothers send their daughters off to college to get an education and to find a husband or potential husband.
A man shouldn't have to tell a woman what "wife material" is. A woman should know how to carry herself, as she's been schooled by women who've gotten wifed up and have had long marriages.
A woman shouldn't have to tell a man what "husband material" is. The man should know how to carry himself, as he's been schooled by men who've carried on long marriages with women.
That's what we're missing in the Black community. Nobody knows what they're doing in the mating game.
Not all true. These females would marry the nikka that broke their nose before they would a decent man
Nikka please
I'm African. You think I'm actually looking to learn from you goofies? I'm asking for his opinion because the words have been thrown around here and almost no one wants to be honest and state what they REALLY mean by "wife material." They would rather be intellectually lazy by demonizing women with education and careers.
I can't say I can agree with that.
They want a good man when it suits them, which is when they are ready to settle down. Which is usually around 30!
Whereas their non-Black counterparts get serious about mating before 25, typically.
That's because older non-Black women in other cultures school the younger women.
Nikka please
You think I'm actually looking to learn from you goofies?
Oh. You Africans do everything better than us "goofies"?
If that's so true, why don't you all stay over there and build up elite nations with your expert mating practices?
Oh. And take care of that little slavery problem in Libya while you're at it. That's not a good look.
Maybe. Only because other races looks fade quicker. But typically a hood chick want a hood dude. It's all they know; all they can relate to
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Knowledge is the Greatest gift
What i dont understand is why do Women who actually want to be married or want a LTR and dont want to be stuck with a life of flings, random dikks, and online dating allow the thot mindset to run rampant because like at @CorporateTrapper said Men win regardless nowadays theres really no point for us to wife up Women until we hit our late 30s to 40s since women are loose with their bodies in their 20s and even then if you have a stable job, in good shape and not entirely 
you should have no trouble bagging a chick in her late 20s.
My pops is 42 somewhat good shape slightlybut not to bad, makes close to 6 figures a year and literally has a new chick every couple months hes the reason why my whole outlook has changed i used to want to settle down now i dont see a reason to,my plan is to stack up in my 20s travel in my 30s and find a woman in her mid to late 20s to settle down with.
Dont complain brehs, simply play the game
you should have no trouble bagging a chick in her late 20s.My pops is 42 somewhat good shape slightly
but not to bad, makes close to 6 figures a year and literally has a new chick every couple months hes the reason why my whole outlook has changed i used to want to settle down now i dont see a reason to,my plan is to stack up in my 20s travel in my 30s and find a woman in her mid to late 20s to settle down with.Dont complain brehs, simply play the game
Oh. You Africans do everything better than us "goofies"?
If that's so true, why don't you all stay over there and build up elite nations with your expert mating practices?
Oh. And take care of that little slavery problem in Libya while you're at it. That's not a good look.
If you're gonna play the deflection game, don't be so transparent with it. I do not partake in those stupid ass "African VS. AA" wars so stop.
I meant that growing up in a West African culture, marriage is very stressed so your whole response to me is nonsense and false (but I suspect you knew what I meant).
