Ricky Fontaine
Superstar
LOL that is cheating.
Cheating Husband And Best Friend - I'm so sad...
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LOL that is cheating.
Bruh, it took me YEARS to figure this out. Old heads tried to tell me and I brushed that shyt off.
Show me who you have with and I'll show you your future
You need a whole new circle of positivity OP, you have no clue on how better it makes life for you with folks going down the same path with similar interests
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
Ditto for myself.
When you're in a relationship with someone (any kind of relationship), you are building something together.
When you do dirty with them, you're sabotaging what you're building. That's not just to their detriment, but yours.
So OP, it's on you to decide if you want to break your building with your husband totally...but if it was me, I'll be TRIPLE DOG-DAMNED if I stay with someone who practices (not "did" - "practices"; and talks like they will continue to practice) something without regard for my feelings because "everybody's doing it".
Absolut da poet ®
Jubilado
Not everyone cheats
I have cheated in the past (teen - early 20s) but I don't now.. and won't in the future
Your friend has Ho tendencies ..don't leave your man around her
You should leave the husband
I have cheated in the past (teen - early 20s) but I don't now.. and won't in the future
Your friend has Ho tendencies ..don't leave your man around her
You should leave the husband
ShackZilla89
All Star
I never cheated and I had opportunity with attractive women. Don't believe that bs that everyone does it, that's just an excuse to be a scumbag.
Henny and_ HotWings
A well seasoned nikka
THIS!
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Same here.
I have learned that that as men, we LOVE getting the attention of females...but every bit of attention shouldn't lead you astray from someone you've pledged your loyalty to.
I like sleeping peacefully at night knowing I'm whole...even if I don't like being invisible.
Eternally Jaded
Superstar
In my experience, you don't have to chase unhappy women.
Give em a shoulder n an ear to listen, soon enough they'll transfer it ALL onto you.
Even if you don't want them like that.
Be handsome n heartfelt n be good.
Then you get the chance to do bad
Henny and_ HotWings
A well seasoned nikka
My husband cheated on me, (I made a weak sappy thread about it...)
He ssys I should forgive and forget coz EVERYONE cheats...
Anyway I didnt discuss my betrayal with anyone as I wanted to be sure of what I really want to do before i discuss it with anyone...
I meet up with one of my close friends to finally talk about it. I was ready to go in on how aint shyt men are bla bla bla...
We are having a nice meal and I ask how her man is doing... They are good, the usual inane relationship stuff, she is hoping he proposes or pregnancy, whichever comes first . We are catching up with gossip and stories... Then she lets slip that she slept with someone else. She tries to backtrack but I insist she "spill the beans". It seems her man was out of town for work, he travels a lot, and takes her along whenever its convineint for them both.
While he was away she got horny and bored so she slept with some guy she met on a night out. I suspect there may be more "beans" but I think I have a reputation as a prude so I suppose some people tell me edited versions of stuff.
So now I'm looking at her across the table and decided not to talk about my no good husband.
I dont cheat, I have never felt the desire to cheat or lie to my husband. So there must be many like minded faithful people out there??? So surely there has to be a man who wants monogamy out there... I fear it might be a needle in a haystack type of thing. It seems its impossible to meet a (goodlooking) faithful man?
My question isaside are people or are you cheating that much?
Coz it seema like most posters have stories about side chicks trying to leave the side and take centre stage.
I feel so down, and feel like the only way to avoid the drama is to be single? Even though being single has its own issues...
CLIFFS:
Husband cheated on me.
I decide to talk to friend and discover she has or is cheating on her boyfriend.
I feel down coz it seems no one actually wants or values monogamy.
Your husband ain’t shyt cuz he broke his vowels and it probably wasn’t his first time cheating, it was just the first time he got CAUGHT.... if he is cheating now that you’re married, then that means he was cheating on u BEFORE u got married as well, trust me.
And your homegirl ain’t shyt bcuz while she’s waiting for her boyfriend to PROPOSE AND/or give her a BABY..... she’s hopping on other dikks.... like how u tryna secure a future with Mr. Right but u spending your free time doing wrong??? U want this nikka to get down on a knee, fully commit to u, split half his assets with u and make a family with u but u letting random nikkas u meet at the bar smash the SAME NIGHT even???
Some people just wanna have their cake and eat it too smh......
Your homegirl is a hoe, and she’s not even a good friend cuz is she was, she woulda BEEN told you about her side dikk.... regardless of how bad it made her look... sounds like she blurted it out by accident. She’s probably been a thot y’all whole friendship, but u wouldn’t know bcuz apparently she doesn’t keep it 100 with u.
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Eh...I kinda know what you mean.
Had a sista throw it at me in front of my wife last month.
All I was doing was being a good shoulder for her to vent on and ask questions to be answered from a mans perspective.
I didn't entertain it and yet I STILL got in trouble...Wife gonna tell me "I don't want you talking to or going over to S****'s house without me."
Meanwhile I'm like.....
Yeah, any guy can finesse their way into the panties...but will you be able to look at yourself in the mirror the next day and live with it?
Eternally Jaded
Superstar
Eh...I kinda know what you mean.
Had a sista throw it at me in front of my wife last month.
All I was doing was being a good shoulder for her to vent on and ask questions to be answered from a mans perspective.
I didn't entertain it and yet I STILL got in trouble...Wife gonna tell me "I don't want you talking to or going over to S****'s house without me."
Meanwhile I'm like.....
Yeah, any guy can finesse their way into the panties...but will you be able to look at yourself in the mirror the next day and live with it?
No kinda about it breh.
A woman who's unhappy really wants to be heard.
Period.
If the nikka doing the listening is someone she's attracted to, it can easily go there.
Thats why smart people know that if someone is unhappy in a relationship, they've gotta communicate it within the bounds of that relationship.
Telling third party nikkas is exactly how people get caught out there creeping.
If the person they're sharing to is decent n been around the block, he or she will always stress that the unhappy party needs to tell their man/woman this.
If they're out for them tho, it can easily become, "it's a wrap" status
King of Creampies
Hop in. You coming too!
My husband cheated on me, (I made a weak sappy thread about it...)
He ssys I should forgive and forget coz EVERYONE cheats...
Anyway I didnt discuss my betrayal with anyone as I wanted to be sure of what I really want to do before i discuss it with anyone...
I meet up with one of my close friends to finally talk about it. I was ready to go in on how aint shyt men are bla bla bla...
We are having a nice meal and I ask how her man is doing... They are good, the usual inane relationship stuff, she is hoping he proposes or pregnancy, whichever comes first . We are catching up with gossip and stories... Then she lets slip that she slept with someone else. She tries to backtrack but I insist she "spill the beans". It seems her man was out of town for work, he travels a lot, and takes her along whenever its convineint for them both.
While he was away she got horny and bored so she slept with some guy she met on a night out. I suspect there may be more "beans" but I think I have a reputation as a prude so I suppose some people tell me edited versions of stuff.
So now I'm looking at her across the table and decided not to talk about my no good husband.
I dont cheat, I have never felt the desire to cheat or lie to my husband. So there must be many like minded faithful people out there??? So surely there has to be a man who wants monogamy out there... I fear it might be a needle in a haystack type of thing. It seems its impossible to meet a (goodlooking) faithful man?
My question is
Coz it seema like most posters have stories about side chicks trying to leave the side and take centre stage.
I feel so down, and feel like the only way to avoid the drama is to be single? Even though being single has its own issues...
CLIFFS:
Husband cheated on me.
I decide to talk to friend and discover she has or is cheating on her boyfriend.
I feel down coz it seems no one actually wants or values monogamy.
Oh wow. I been here and I can just give you this advice.
It's going to hurt bad sometimes. It's going to really fukk with you as a human but whatever you do....
- Get a hobby. I am so fukking serious.
- Talk to someone. Just one person don't have your business out in the street.
- Run all day go work out everyday.
- Don't get into self medicating on porn, weed, hard rugs, sex just work on healing yourself.
- Leave your husband. He doesn't love you and doesn't know himself as a man. Its time to pack your shyt and go. You can't save them or change them.
- But whatever you do you keep moving and you keep healing.
- Just remember this shyt happens to everyone sometimes and it may not even be you but how you handle it after the event is on you.
- Keep fukking moving. It's literally all about you now.
- You will cry and that is ok but do that in private and in the dark. That is all I am going to tell you.
