Charging girlfriend rent on a property you own outright. Who’s right/wrong?

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Doesn’t seem like she had a issue helping with bills. It’s the fact that he added “rent” to it. Rent is something you charge a roommate. You can either be roommates or be in a relationship. You can’t do both. You just can’t

Same applies to parents who charge their kids rent, but want to still regulate their entire life. It’s either we have a Landlord and Tenant relationship, or we’re parent and child. Can’t do both.

That makes sense, I didn't read about the house being paid off. But when you think about it,

Property taxes, Groceries, house insurance, maintenance, utilities, and cable. That's about $1500/month.

Property taxes $200
Utilities $200
Groceries $500
Home insurance $100
High-speed internet/ Cable $300
Maintenance???
Emergency repairs???

 

[Sterling Archer]

This relationship is doomed already.

First of all, a 10% increase on $1800 rent is not $2000.



Second of all, charging your SO a fee just to line your pockets with pure profit is some straight hoe shyt. Split the expenses 50/50. All the expenses (taxes, utilities, maintenance, everything). Personally, if I was moving in with my girl to her paid off house, I’d offer to pay 100% of the utilities, half of the maintenance and none of the taxes (it’s her house)

I agree, I'd do that or something similar to what you suggested but I won't call it hoe shyt. He just isn't willing to compromise and assume the risk I guess. Not for her at least.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

staying over a few days in a row isnt the same as a year. To each their own

yeah its not. but if you cant pick up on certain things that are deal breakers in less than a year of staying with someone all day and night

 

[FeverPitch2]

Wouldnt have offered to move her in in the first place
That would be part of the marriage package
A house is a huge responsibility
Paying it off takes some serious doing
I'm not about to just give all that hard work away.

 

[NkrumahWasRight Is Wrong]

yeah its not. but if you cant pick up on certain things that are deal breakers in less than a year of staying with someone all day and night

I suppose

Sometimes people are good at masking shyt

You have to see how they manage the ups, the downs..the in betweens..see if there are little pet peeves you have to address early etc

Idk marriage before living together is too risky for me

 

[krackdagawd]

Breh is gonna buy her a ring with her own money.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

That makes sense, I didn't read about the house being paid off. But when you think about it,

Property taxes, Groceries, house insurance, maintenance, utilities, and cable. That's about $1500/month.

Property taxes $200
Utilities $200
Groceries $500
Home insurance $100
High-speed internet/ Cable $300
Maintenance???
Emergency repairs???

I’m sure she’d contribute. Again, she doesn’t seem to have a problem with that. It’s him telling her she’s being charged rent.

I had no problem contributing to my parents household when I was with them. But then my mom came to me to tell me she was charging me rent. But in the same breath trying to tell me I couldn’t have guest after 7, and I needed to be home by 11. Nah, you’re either my landlord or my mother. You can’t be both.

They should’ve sat down, and came to a agreement about what she would contribute, but he should’ve left the word “rent” out of the convo entirely. Charging your s/o rent makes the relationship very impersonal. I can’t be your roommate and your girlfriend. You have to choose.

 

[Egomaniacal1]

Ain’t no right or wrong just differences in mindsets.

The traditional mindset is where you don’t charge a chick that you serious about because you want to have total control. Remember the old saying, Gotta pay the cost to be the boss? Ppl like this ain’t taking no shyt and will be quick to tell their partner to get on down if they not pulling their weight in the areas they deem worthy. Usually it’s a men who are like this have to find women who embrace gender roles where the woman is subservient and in turns wants to take guidance from her man.

The non-traditional is the other side where you gonna charge a chick something...most ppl do a hybrid of the two mindsets and make a chick pay half on bills and maybe get all the groceries and household items. This mindset has become more prevalent because it’s more working and independent type chicks out here these days. Btw most women would jump at that deal in the hypothetical because women ain’t stupid. She’ll either start living her best life with that extra $1000 a month and/or she’d start squirreling it away as her break up/move out knot if things go south. If y’all was really HOH y’all would tell her to render unto Caesar bish, I want the full $1800!!

Have your main bish looking at you like *insert Mekhi Phifer gif* brehs

 

[Ashley Banks]

What’s the point in having a man if he makes you pay for stuff?? Next he’s gonna make me pump my own gas and wash my own car. Might as well be single.

 

[analog]

Be ungrateful at your partner saving you a thousand per month brehs.

Some of you criticizing the man, but he is the one offering her a lifeline here. If she was smart she'd accept the deal, pay rent, and reap the benefits of securing a relationship with a man that has his shyt together.

She has more to lose in this relationship and would taking the L by letting her emotion compromise her well being.

 

[MaxPain]

What’s the point in having a man if he makes you pay for stuff?? Next he’s gonna make me pump my own gas and wash my own car. Might as well be single.

That’s the only point of having a man? So you won’t have to pay for stuff?...


Ahmed lost.

 

[birdgang91]

The rent part is what makes this story messy. Especially on a house you own. She should be paying bills though.

When my wife moved into my place I owned when we were dating, she was handling all bills related to the home and groceries. I just paid for insurance and taxes. In fact she actually paid for some changes like a bathroom remodel. We sold it a few years later when we got married and used the money as a downpayment on our forever home.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

His mortgage is paid off so she shouldn’t be paying no rent. The best he could do is make her pay the property taxes if it’s that serious.

 

[SadimirPutin]

doesn't make sense, if the house is paid for what am i paying rent for? what does he need my $800 for?

we could be saving HEAVY to purchase a second property to rent out

oh I am sure you could.....you are the one saving money

but I will bite.....tell me how you would approach this "saving for a second property" scenario

 

[Phantum]

She already had plans for that extra 1800 a month, and it didn't include him