Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"

[sanityovar8ted]

The word to describe this shouldn't be submission though

That's my whole point. No adult should ever submit to another adult. Especially ones that are on equal footing in a relationship


What decisions for your family?

I have asked for real life examples up and down this thread and none of the clowns responded @chris b

what we spend our money on, family trips, how i discipline the children ( i ask him how i should handle the situation but i do all the discipline), i just pretty much let him make the decisions on anything i think i would fucc up, which is pretty much everything cuz i dont always think before i act. only thing i make decisions on is groceries.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Well then don't use that word if you don't want to. It's only negative if you want it to be. I wouldn't have a problem saying I was submissive or I submit to my husband and I wouldn't care what anyone had to say about it.

Decisions for my family may include large purchases like a new car, relocation, rennovations, taking on new expenses like school tution or something...mainly financial decisions. I would say those things would utimately be up to the husband to execute on even if that meant the couple agrees that the wife take the lead on it.

I think this is what's confusing to so many people. In this scenario, is the man not "submitting" to the wife? If that's the case then "submission" would be a mutual understanding dependent on which partner had the most knowledge and experience in the given situation.

But at that point, is it really "submission"?

 

[Rawtid]

Except that historically gender roles have put decisions in the hands of men...so yes..gender roles have a direct correlation to submission.

Historically is the key word. I don't think there is any correlation anymore. I can still be submissive to my husband while he cooks dinner and cleans for his family. I can still be submissive to my husband and make more money than him. Again it's a state of mind, not a set of actions.

 

[Dwolf]

I cant continue with this thread any longer... most of(if not all) the responses ive gotten was that this is the kind of woman that you want to wife in order to have a long lasting marriage:


and when it comes down to sex



So thanks Destiny's Child for teaching me that i dont need a man & can be independent, but flipped it years later to this...

What happened to the power of the p-u-$-$-y?

I didn't say anything about what type of women I want, but ok cool.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

Lets not learn how to be women through demonic corporate sponsors, friend.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

All those decisions should be made 50/50 with a 100% agreement between both partners

Why would you let a another adult make the final decision on relocating, the car you want to drive, renovations,school, etc

If it's not in line with what you want to do.

Both should have the final say so. That's the only way it should be

because what if there's a stalemate and there is a timeframe in which you have to make the decision? Even if it's 50/50 ... if someone relenquishes their desires for the good of the group... someone still submitted.

a relationship is 50/50 ... but you don't get what you want all the time, and most of the time it's for the better.

All this new age shyt reminds me of how every kid gets a trophy when they play sports even when they were dead fukking last.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

I will like you back up this statement with facts

He doesnt know what hes talking about, friend.

A Cambridge study showed that the income of women on average drops 30 percent immediately following divorce. So women could do better alone? Doesnt seem that way.

Infidelity? Statistics that we've all read show women cheat as much as men.

So whats the problem. Maybe they just felt like it?

Its so demonic, friend.

 

[Remote]

Historically is the key word. I don't think there is any correlation anymore. I can still be submissive to my husband while he cooks dinner and cleans for his family. I can still be submissive to my husband and make more money than him. Again it's a state of mind, not a set of actions.

No.
Submission is an act. It's not a state of mind.
Again, I've repeatedly expressed that people should do whatever works for them. For you, for Candace Bure...whomever.
All the best.
But we're not going to re-define words here.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Can Beyonce really teach you how to treat a man. I mean really? Lets be honest.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

I didn't say anything about what type of women I want, but ok cool.

Well i that to said most of the responses i got, not just you. i just said it to ur response..

 

[Remote]

Can Beyonce really teach you how to treat a man. I mean really? Lets be honest.

not anymore than a man can teach a woman how to be a woman.

And yet, the coli is filled with thread replies dictating how women should behave.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

And all of that has to do with social conditioning and not hardwiring.

Nah, not all.. social conditioning creates neural pathways.. Hardwired pathways are different because you're born with them and it can predispose you to enjoy different things, because you see the same shyt differently. Girls and boys are not the same.

 

[CrimsonTider]

what we spend our money on, family trips, how i discipline the children ( i ask him how i should handle the situation but i do all the discipline), i just pretty much let him make the decisions on anything i think i would fucc up, which is pretty much everything cuz i dont always think before i act. only thing i make decisions on is groceries.

Whatever works for you

I think this is what's confusing to so many people. In this scenario, is the man not "submitting" to the wife? If that's the case then "submission" would be a mutual understanding dependent on which partner had the most knowledge and experience in the given situation.

But at that point, is it really "submission"?

Exactly

 

[Milk N Cookies]

Can Beyonce really teach you how to treat a man. I mean really? Lets be honest.

Well i'd like to know HOW she's keeping Jay around. She doing something right... like i said im 25, so i grew up listening to Destiny's Child...as well as getting school by my mom, aunties, and etc...

 

[sanityovar8ted]

Whatever works for you

Exactly

its working pretty good too