Same with parents and they been married for well over 30 years
Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"
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sanityovar8ted
OG Moma Coli....dat bytch Thowd!!!
submitting to my husband wasnt as bad as people made it seem especially if u have a good husband
Mr. Somebody
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You must really trust that mans judgement
I feel thats a big part of it. If a woman feels like she has to make most of the decisions in the house and lead, does she really trust her husband to have the best interests of the family in mind for the unforseeable future?
Chesirecatdaddy
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True but usually when people talk about roles in a relationship and being submissive, they're not really talking about the literal definition of being submissive. shyt definitely is confusing because when people see others bring it up that's what they think of. There's also the role of being a "submissive", as in Dominant/Submissive roleplay, which is a whole other topic, I'd probably list it as a fetish. I really do think though that when it comes to relationships people are referring to the same shyt as the article. I wouldn't say people are confused, it's probably a misnomer more than anything else and should be called "Traditional" gender roles.
sanityovar8ted
OG Moma Coli....dat bytch Thowd!!!
i really do, i was with him 7 years before we actually got married, i trust him with my life and i feel he knows me pretty well. and after 2 years of marriage he is doing a dayum good job.You must really trust that mans judgement
Chesirecatdaddy
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There does seem to be some hipocrisy here.
Statistically people are fond of sharing that women initiate divorce 80% of the time.
We know that money is a big issue regarding divorces and unhappy marriages.
I suspect also that many issues arise with women feeling neglected and feeling as though they don't have as much say in the marriage and in making decisions.
If a person is going to argue that submission is the key to a successful marriage, then it stands to reason that they are also arguing that the reason why 80% of women are initiating divorce is because
1) they don't want to submit
or
2) the men they have submitted to have failed in their responsibility to lead.
And if it's #2, well then you have to question the logic of submission to begin with.
Statistically people are fond of sharing that women initiate divorce 80% of the time.
We know that money is a big issue regarding divorces and unhappy marriages.
I suspect also that many issues arise with women feeling neglected and feeling as though they don't have as much say in the marriage and in making decisions.
If a person is going to argue that submission is the key to a successful marriage, then it stands to reason that they are also arguing that the reason why 80% of women are initiating divorce is because
1) they don't want to submit
or
2) the men they have submitted to have failed in their responsibility to lead.
And if it's #2, well then you have to question the logic of submission to begin with.
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Mr. Somebody
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My wife wanted to quit college when i met her. Why? Because of English writing classes, of which she had very poor English writing skills. I helped her develop her writing and saw her through these classes so she could get her degree. From there i assisted her in maneuvering through corporate America and now shes working with a top executive team in the banking industry and really bringing glory to our household so we can provide for our family.
Some people may say *what kind of woman needs help or advice on her career she should already know* but no, everyone needs advice and a mentor, why not your husband, if he knows and if your husband isnt as goal oriented as you, drama could develop. Good for yall though. Im happy when i hear about successful couples.
Mr. Somebody
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Isnt that what a marriage is, friend?
Chesirecatdaddy
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I think it's the money more than anything. A lot of dudes want to be leaders but don't have what it takes to lead... women don't respect that shyt. You have to command respect with your actions, not beg for it. These dudes can't even lead their own lives and have been babied by their mothers way too much. They're not built for this world and it's lead to role reversal going on. Of course there's other factors as well, especially if you're talking about African Americans, there's things like the economy, education, women having bigger roles in the workplace. At the end of the day though men and women are wired differently, you can't beat out nature, we can be equal but you can't rewire everyone...women want to be made to feel like a woman... a lot of dudes can't do it they never learned how... shyt leads to failed marriages... I don't really think any of it stems from the man wanting to dominate the woman. If the man had what it takes, the woman would just get in line... even if she makes more than him ,even if she's more educated, even if she's a dime.
Yes but people in here talking about being submissive and obedient, not a partnership.
Chesirecatdaddy
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Yes because the more you know, the more you know you don't know anything at all. You can always learn from someone... someone will always be superior to you in some aspect.... even your own wife.
My wife wanted to quit college when i met her. Why? Because of English writing classes, of which she had very poor English writing skills. I helped her develop her writing and saw her through these classes so she could get her degree. From there i assisted her in maneuvering through corporate America and now shes working with a top executive team in the banking industry and really bringing glory to our household so we can provide for our family.
Some people may say *what kind of woman needs help or advice on her career she should already know* but no, everyone needs advice and a mentor, why not your husband, if he knows and if your husband isnt as goal oriented as you, drama could develop. Good for yall though. Im happy when i hear about successful couples.
example my mother, she's an excellent business woman and networker. My dad was not, my dad was a brainiac tho, but not a great decision maker. She was his advisor, she was fine with it, she was fine with being submissive to my father... she made him better got his career poppin. It's like a viceroy, Yeah the king is the figurehead and has the power, but the viceroy controls the king but at the same time is a subordinate to that very same king.
sanityovar8ted
OG Moma Coli....dat bytch Thowd!!!
i appreciate that , but i didnt always have this mindset. with my first husband i was the breadwinner therefore i was the head of household and things went drastically wrong. i feel you hafta get to know the person you are marrying and come together and decide this is how things are gonna be. im older than my husband but that never stops me from asking what he thinks about certain situations cuz i know he has my best interest at heart.
My wife wanted to quit college when i met her. Why? Because of English writing classes, of which she had very poor English writing skills. I helped her develop her writing and saw her through these classes so she could get her degree. From there i assisted her in maneuvering through corporate America and now shes working with a top executive team in the banking industry and really bringing glory to our household so we can provide for our family.
Some people may say *what kind of woman needs help or advice on her career she should already know* but no, everyone needs advice and a mentor, why not your husband, if he knows and if your husband isnt as goal oriented as you, drama could develop. Good for yall though. Im happy when i hear about successful couples.