This was gospel. I was going to call you breh then noticed you name. Are you a woman? If so, you have no idea how strange it is to see a woman write so on point about all of this & spotlight the honorable, good side of masculinity.
Yep; I’m a woman.
Thank you
And I have no problem doing so, because I have
experienced it. And that’s the tough thing about what many in our community are experiencing…
You can’t speak highly of men and love men and understand men if you haven’t truly been loved and nurtured by men. Like your dad, grandpa, uncles, etc. I am grown and it some ways probably still come off naive and younger than I am because I exist in this western world with the protection of Black men who conquered the system and ensured we’d never have to struggle.
I can’t speak badly about brehs because the brehs who aren’t on their shyt don’t step to me, because from a young age I was taught was is and isn’t acceptable
All men know when they have encountered a woman who wasn’t raised to have standards, and a lot of men will take advantage of that until they encounter the woman they want to actually commit to. <— That’s the trick many girls don’t learn because, unfortunately, many don’t have a dad a around to teach them the game. You don’t have to be the prettiest (although it definitely helps), and you don’t have to have the best body (although, again, it definitely helps). You do need to be a quality chick who knows how to relate to a quality dude. And at that point it’s not about finding “the one”; it’s really a game of numbers, compatibility and shared values.
And then some will still cheat with those other women after they are married anyway (but that’s another story for another day lol).
But the point is it’s hard to see this side of masculinity if you haven’t experienced it.
I watch my little cousin with her dad (there are more men than women in my family) and it’s a joy to see how close they are. He’s an amazing man and I know she will run to him for guidance before anyone else, which will include dating one day. But she’s surrounded by uncles, grandpas, older cousins, etc. She has lots of healthy male relationships which will serve as reference points when she’s making friends and dating.
Having good fathers/paternal figures is CRUCIAL, because it’s a man’s world. I know how good it can be, and how absolutely evil and dismal it can be BECAUSE I have men in my life who protect me and keep it
about men, men’s desires, men’s duties and how bad the world is WITHOUT good men.
That’s why I kind of laugh and don’t get phased by much of this stuff. DEFINITELY some ain’t shyt dudes out here. Definitely. But you can say the same for women. If you have the right people guiding you, you will probably spot out who is trash and move around without getting hurt.
This shyt is funny because we get a DIRECT EXACT example of what 
