Brehs who are single, never married and over 35.....................

[Imyremeshaw]

36, single parent so that's already been accomplished but I would love to have son or couple of sons to carry the family name...

As far as marriage, I actually would like to do it but I've been engaged twice and both blew cause of disconnected views on family until I meet someone 80 precent aligned with my views, it is what it is.....

 

[Diyhai]

36, single parent so that's already been accomplished but I would love to have son or couple of sons to carry the family name...

As far as marriage, I actually would like to do it but I've been engaged twice and both blew cause of disconnected views on family until I meet someone 80 precent aligned with my views, it is what it is.....

what were the biggest disconnects?

 

[Cereal_Bowl_Assassin]

I'm turning 40 in July and for the past 10 years I've been in a GREAT relationship. Unfortunately I want kids and she doesn't(she has 2 already, she's older and at one point she would've had kids with me but I wasn't ready financially/mentally).

But I really do want to have kids and that the part that sucks between us. So once we are 100% done I'm going to knock out some major goals and then hopefully find a wife and start a family.

Edit: im not really big on marriage but I understand the reason behind it and thats something I can compromise with.

 

[3rdWorld]

No plans for marriage at all, but wouldnt mind a kid. I may have one on the way due July, will know for certain after the paternity test

 

[Commish]

OP..

I am in my early nifty fiftys and fall into this category.

Any regrets? Hmm..

Idk..

On one hand, I wish I was able to have kids when I was in my early 20s, but I also would have wanted to be a husband first.

It didn't happen because I wasn't ready to be a husband nor a father at the time.

I accepted my fate as being someone who never connected with someone on a deep level.

Now, I am in a relationship with someone who has 2 grown children. Seems like we are evolving towards taking the relationship to the next level. Step parenthood is the most likely scenario for me at this stage of my life and I have accepted it.

Lastly, I hope that younger people will not place childless people into a box because everyone's life journey is different.

Everyone doesn't want kids. Everyone doesn't want marriage. What is meant to be will be!

 

[Imyremeshaw]

what were the biggest disconnects?

Mainly culturally things, I'm originally from Africa but I'm American through & through, and it's reflected in my mentality but I love my original culture as well, in both instances of being engaged they didn't understand my needs too participate in both cultures and that I'm just as easy to get some jollof rice as I am to get some McDonald's....

 

[High Art]

38, I actually would want to get married and have kids. I'm in a serious relationship and she's a great gal. We recently moved in together so we're figuring out all that. Regrets? I used to regret not getting married and doing all that stuff earlier but seeing how down bad my cousins were and realizing that much of that regret was due to pressure from my parents rather than my own feelings made me feel better. That and seeing how crazy some women are these days, I know I would have been trapped or taken for a ride if I had jumped the gun earlier. So no regrets. Ask me again in few years and we'll see.

A for getting old and not having kids, I can't see myself doing that. Since I'm originally African, if it comes down to that, I'm knocking up some village girl and go from there.

 

[KillerB88]

Just some advice for the old heads and the young nikkas.

Whatever path in life you choose - be sure to take care of your health.

You can be like Lionel Richie in your 70s still smashing 30 year olds

Or end up like Kevin Samuels dead in your 50s.

Health is wealth.

We dont have a biological clock and theres not much competition in the streets.

Kevin Samuels had cancer as a young man, which automatically increases the likelihood of heart failure when you’re older.

 

[Henri Christophe]

Kevin Samuels had cancer as a young man which automatically increases the likelihood of heart failure when you’re older.

I know bro.

I'm not throwing shots at the OG.

I'm just saying - health is wealth.

 

[Vancouver Grizzly Fan]

Damn the coli going out sad and lonely.

I see these threads more and more

Lol, y'all got to stop this type of nonsense?

I'm in Vegas for memorial day weekend. Last night, watching the fight at Circa, and hit Fremont st until 2am. Im getting ready for Tao Beach to see Tyga and Bia later on today and have one of these sundodgers feed me grapes in a cabana.

Being single with no kids is a choice, we Far from lonely and sadness. We just value our freedom more than the average and always gonna be active with this passport.

Respect to the men out there grilling with the babies this weekend.

 

[King Poetic]

44 going on 45. Met my girl in 2020. Definitely headed towards marriage, already decided against kids.

No complaints

Same here.. I’m 40 in the same position

 

[TheOptimisticCynikal]

Obama had his first kid at 37 with a 34 year old Michelle Obama

Encouraging. Here I was worried I'm waiting too long heading in my late 20s with no yout of my own

 

[OperationNumbNutts]

OP..

I am in my early nifty fiftys and fall into this category.

Any regrets? Hmm..

Idk..

On one hand, I wish I was able to have kids when I was in my early 20s, but I also would have wanted to be a husband first.

It didn't happen because I wasn't ready to be a husband nor a father at the time.

I accepted my fate as being someone who never connected with someone on a deep level.

Now, I am in a relationship with someone who has 2 grown children. Seems like we are evolving towards taking the relationship to the next level. Step parenthood is the most likely scenario for me at this stage of my life and I have accepted it.

Lastly, I hope that younger people will not place childless people into a box because everyone's life journey is different.

Everyone doesn't want kids. Everyone doesn't want marriage. What is meant to be will be!

It's interesting you said that. I'm 44. When I was in my 20s I really thought my fate would be meeting a woman with kids and being a stepfather with maybe one on my own. I did try it for a while but it didn't work. After that I can't say either was priority.

 

[Voice of Reason]

Encouraging. Here I was worried I'm waiting too long heading in my late 20s with no yout of my own

I think that will be the norm with millennial.


Especially amongst the educated set.

 

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Oh shyt here come peter pan gang

Nah Im playing keep living your best life

What does Peter pan gang allude to ?