Brehettes don't care about MONEY..SWAG/CHARISMA>>>>MONEY
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Thurgood Thurston III
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Nobody wants to say it but looks play a HUGE part in how women perceive you. It's called the halo effect.
If she not demure, pleasant, and very open to you. She don't like you. 
Confirm all that before you book that reservation at Maestro's.
Confirm all that before you book that reservation at Maestro's.
If it isn't STEM, it isn't real education....
Why do so many dudes want to make themselves into trick so badly.
I dont see anything inherently wrong with wanting someone you find interesting and attractive.
Why shouldnt a woman be as attracted to you as you are to her? Is that so wrong?
What I feel like bothers a lot of yall is the thought that some of these girls could be working low skilled jobs, boring themselves, and essentially not justified at all in saying an "accomplished doctor" is too "boring" for them.
My rebuttal, is that in all of these situations, the guy either asked the girl out, or agreed to go out with her. In both situations, its established that he's attracted to her, because why else would he agree to spend time with her?
Shes good enough for him, so its only fair that he's good enough for her as well.
Its simple, the attraction should be mutual, if its not why tf wouldnt she walk away?
Why shouldnt a woman be as attracted to you as you are to her? Is that so wrong?
What I feel like bothers a lot of yall is the thought that some of these girls could be working low skilled jobs, boring themselves, and essentially not justified at all in saying an "accomplished doctor" is too "boring" for them.
My rebuttal, is that in all of these situations, the guy either asked the girl out, or agreed to go out with her. In both situations, its established that he's attracted to her, because why else would he agree to spend time with her?
Shes good enough for him, so its only fair that he's good enough for her as well.
Its simple, the attraction should be mutual, if its not why tf wouldnt she walk away?
Real shyt....she needs to be feelin u from the jump. If she just think u ok or not feeling any chemistry from u and u not an ugly dude....u need to move on and find a woman who likes u for u.
That LSA post...I can tell those women didn't feel any or only felt very little physical and sexual chemistry from those men even tho they looked good "on paper." If a woman think u sexy...she will deal with more of ur "shortcomings" and if ur sex game A1....she will deal with even more BS and cons just to keep u around.
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A man has to have so much yet a woman have so little.Average woman doesn't have personality,humor,deep intellect I'm talking real good convo type.Basically after average man pumps and dumps,get a cooked meal cycle repeats itself.Women have unrealistic ass expectations
The Coli told me if I get my money up the bytches will follow
The coli types a bunch of compound stupidity and the women who write pieces like this are just as ass backward
To me it's a simple as if 2 people like each other they make wise and fair decisions to make it work
North American culture makes someones career their total identity...more compound stupidity.
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These men that are deemed as boring just need to find women that they match with plain and simple. I always find it stupid how people are quick to call others boring because they don't have things in common with them. That doesn't make them boring necessarily, especially considering how dry a lot of airhead women are. The dude that does nothing but party, drink and smoke every week can be boring to some people just like the dude that goes to art museums and watches documentaries for fun can be boring to some people.
The whole article sounds like an entitled female bytching because she wasted time on dudes that she doesn't match with.
The whole article sounds like an entitled female bytching because she wasted time on dudes that she doesn't match with.
Also I read some repsonses in the OPs post and two dudes involve good jobs in finance and IT. First of all, how u gonna expect men let alone black men in jobs that requires analytical skills and having to use ur brain all day to have exciting edgy personalities of a class clown....and lets not get into engineers. I worked with engineers before and a lot are bland, socially awkward, introverted, boring, and/or super smart types. Don't get me wrong....u will find some analysts, engineers, and IT workers with lit personalities but not many. And being a black man (or black woman) in that field...u gotta know yo shyt if u wanna move up but it may be different for cacs. Those women should realize this if they were more worldly and experienced. U can't expect everyone to be perfectly well rounded, especially given certain situations.
A lot of people operate the same as this woman! People need an instant spark! People need to be attracted to a person before they can do anything with said person.
I am sure the woman in question wants a financially secure man, but she also wants to be happy. I have been on both sides of the coin and I understand how things go...
I just hope that the woman did not waste his nor her time trying to grow into things because that may never happen and I have learned if a person isn't feeling me or the inverse, then somebody will eventually get their feelings hurt or become disappointed.
Lastly, not all dates will be a success. Instant spark can happen but with that, "the quicker the flame the quicker the burnout". I am glad she was honest about her feelings, I just hope, once again, that she related her sentiments to her date in a respectable manner and kept it movin'...
I am sure the woman in question wants a financially secure man, but she also wants to be happy. I have been on both sides of the coin and I understand how things go...
I just hope that the woman did not waste his nor her time trying to grow into things because that may never happen and I have learned if a person isn't feeling me or the inverse, then somebody will eventually get their feelings hurt or become disappointed.
Lastly, not all dates will be a success. Instant spark can happen but with that, "the quicker the flame the quicker the burnout". I am glad she was honest about her feelings, I just hope, once again, that she related her sentiments to her date in a respectable manner and kept it movin'...
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Dating Black men who look great on paper but no chemistry :(
"Has anyone else dated a Black man who was very educated with one of the "big, sexy jobs" (doctor, engineer, lawyer, etc), but there was just no chemistry between y'all? I just had a date with one and he seems interested in me and wants to see me again, but I'm just not really feeling him...not yet at least. I met him on an online dating app, and I just had so many expectations, but when we went out to dinner for our first date (mistake in itself), there was just a lot to be desired. I enjoyed all our text conversations leading up to the date (smiled like a school girl every time he would text me), but when we finally met, I was let down by our interactions. There was no spark, really. I was kind of bored for the most part. He's such a gentleman though and the date was PERFECT as far as him doing everything he was supposed to do. I don't doubt he's the type of guy to take care of you, but idk if I want to pursue a relationship with him.... "
"Girl you better give that man a shot... He could be it. Next thing you know your next 12 boyfriends will be in between job f-bois and unemployed mama's boys... you'll be begging for somebody like him."
^That chick must've been ran through...she knows game
"I can’t continue dating men with whom I feel no chemistry. I feel like I’m wasting my time (because I am). I’ve passed up on some good-on-paper guys. Most recently an attorney, but I don’t regret it because I know the type of connection I’m looking for and it’s not one where I cringe when he tries to kiss me."
"A lot of these types of men think their degrees and/or prestigious jobs is all they need to bring to the table because so many women would get caught up in those things that they don’t even realize a lot of those types of guys are actually boring as hell and/or pompous pricks. I’ve ran into quite a few of these types, the most recently being in December at a holiday party. I matched with him a while back on Tinder, but nothing really popped off I think we exchanged a few messages. Anyway, we chatted up at the holiday party, and he was about as interesting as watching paint dry. Mind you, this is a fine tall chocolate man with an Ivy League MBA and a great career in finance. At this point, I’m about to give up on these types of men because they can be a lost cause. No amount of money or clout can fix a bland ass personality."
"Omg! Your situation sounds similar to mine. Me and this guy met via social media and finally went on a date last weekend. He was such a gentleman, well-dressed and respectful. He currently works in IT for some big company and I know it pays well. He plans on going back to school this summer for his Masters also. The date was cool but I didn’t get the “it” factor from him, though. It was just ehhh and he even offered to get my nails done for me lol.
I was open to going on another date with him UNTIL he told me he moved back in with his mother and has been there ever since he graduated in 2016. I was like ummm, ok? That just turned me completely off and I get he’s doing it to save money at the moment but I can’t date a man who lives at home, sorry. He’s been texting me after our date and I ignored him a few times and have been short with the replies smh. I feel bad but that’s not what I’m looking for. "
"Chemistry is everything! There is something about that instant spark and trusting your instincts. Don't be attracted to players because they are predictable to you. Are you being too picky? Give the unpredictable brotha a chance. Get to know him and feel him out.
If you stay platonic friends or keep in touch with him he could introduce you to the brotha that is the one."
"Yes, this dude approached me nearly 4 years ago and he was so sweet, so respectful, so on and so forth but I was not attracted to him at all. I kept trying to like him but it became a burden, hanging out with him literally felt like a chore. He wasn't boring but I just felt nothing. I felt so bad too because here's a good dude which is honestly and truly rare, never mind being a good Black man (he was Black btw), just a good man is nearly impossible to find, and I can't bring myself to like him. But I'm not gonna settle because that's just gonna grow resentment and it's not fair to him. I'd literally be using him if I settled. I think after 3 years he eventually got the hint that I wasn't interested and kind of disappeared. Haven't heard from him in months. I hope he's okay but I'm not willing to hit him up to find out. :/ "
Breh read this book it will probably change your life.
A lot of corporate brothas have been stripped of certain aspects of their masculinity from working in cac environments.
