brehettes could you date a man making 10-15 a hour?

[Danny Up]

My husband and I met in college. We are both from middle class families and we were both on our way to professional careers (not hourly jobs).

I'm a chemist and a pharmacist and he's an architect. He makes more money than me but the reality is I'm capable of supporting myself. Given this reality it is not "why are you doing for him?" It is more like what are we doing for each other?

Other than love, our newborn daughter, our nice home in the burbs...we compliment each other. He's a hard worker and I don't mind cooking a meal and rubbing his back several times throughout the week. When I'm stressed out he listens and offers his advice.

At the end of the day we are both happy.

You do know if you make more that $25,500 you are middle class.................

 

[Danny Up]

I'm telling you. Trying to live on your own on $15 is not impossible. Not even impossible to take care of child. If i'm with the mother I wouldn't struggle at all.

 

[Wild self]

Hell no! These slightly above minimum wage ninjas need to be avoided like the plague.

I give two shyts if you are "on the come up"....you ain't there yet.

God forbid something should happened and the chick gets knocked up. Are they going to sit around thinking, "We'll be alright...he's on the come up. Today he's mopping floors...tomorrow it will be fries...and maybe then we can afford some health insurance"? Hell no!

They are going to be thinking, "We fukked up!" She's going to be thinking about a trip to the abortion clinic or settling into a life with a broke ninja and a baby.

In this world we live into today men need to step their game up. There was a time when men took pride in being established and able to provide before having kids, marrying, etc. Now selfish ninjas want chicks to give them all the benefits of marriage without marriage and without having shyt to their names. It don't work that way. Anything you can buy a woman with a job making $10-$15 an hour she can get her damn self.

Post Recession world, that is harder to do. This ain't the 70s no more and people who make near 100k still struggle to finance their kids. Cost of living is extreme lady breh

 

[MurderSheWrote]

Typical female passive-aggressive comment.
I've stated above that the money matters to women.

Clearly you felt the need to take a shot because I pointed out how money plays no important factor in your relationship based on your words above.

It is what it is.

If I were single, younger, or still in the dating world a man coming at me who makes $10-$15 an hour would quickly be dismissed. If my husband were making $10-$15 an hour he wouldn't be my husband. I'm just being honest. Part of his appeal to ME was knowing he was on his way to a professional career...not a low hourly job.

 

[Wild self]

My husband and I met in college. We are both from middle class families and we were both on our way to professional careers (not hourly jobs).

I'm a chemist and a pharmacist and he's an architect. He makes more money than me but the reality is I'm capable of supporting myself. Given this reality it is not "why are you doing for him?" It is more like what are we doing for each other?

Other than love, our newborn daughter, our nice home in the burbs...we compliment each other. He's a hard worker and I don't mind cooking a meal and rubbing his back several times throughout the week. When I'm stressed out he listens and offers his advice.

At the end of the day we are both happy.

So you work 60+ hours per week, hardly see your daughter, and living in a facade that all men should be making 100k.

 

[MurderSheWrote]

Post Recession world, that is harder to do. This ain't the 70s no more and people who make near 100k still struggle to finance their kids. Cost of living is extreme lady breh

I get that...but a lot of folks are living beyond their means. We as a race need to do better. I run across more black people more concerned with the latest iphone/Jordans than a 401k or IRA.

You do know if you make more that $25,500 you are middle class.................

Yeah...in the backwoods of Alabama.

I'm telling you. Trying to live on your own on $15 is not impossible. Not even impossible to take care of child. If i'm with the mother I wouldn't struggle at all.

If you have 7 kids and you make $28k before taxes...what kind of life are you living??

 

[Danny Up]

If I were single, younger, or still in the dating world a man coming at me who makes $10-$15 an hour would quickly be dismissed. If my husband were making $10-$15 an hour he wouldn't be my husband. I'm just being honest. Part of his appeal to ME was knowing he was on his way to a professional career...not a low hourly job.

WTF? Some of these lowly hourly jobs you can make $100G or more. That's more than some people with degrees and careers make. You one of them I want a "title" bytches.

 

[Danny Up]

I get that...but a lot of folks are living beyond their means. We as a race need to do better. I run across more black people more concerned with the latest iphone/Jordans than a 401k or IRA.



Yeah...in the backwoods of Alabama.



If you have 7 kids and you make $28k before taxes...what kind of life are you living??

no in the US, miss high and mighty.

http://money.usnews.com/money/perso.../04/24/what-it-means-to-be-middle-class-today

There is no universally recognized definition of middle class. There are federal poverty level guidelines, so if you happen to wonder if you're poor, you can consult the Department of Health & Human Services (not that you likely need guidelines to tell you if you're poor). But after that, you're on your own to decide if you're lower middle class, middle class, upper middle class or in the fabulously wealthy territory. But to get us started thinking about financial status, a U.S. household with four people living off $23,850 or less is considered poor. (Hawaii and Alaska, with higher costs of living, have different guidelines.)

One helpful yardstick to judge whether you're middle class: Median household income was $51,017 in 2012, according to the most recent U.S. census data. Robert Reich, a professor of Public Policy at the University of California-Berkeley and former Secretary of Labor, has suggested the middle class be defined as households making 50 percent higher and lower than the median, which would mean the average middle class annual income is $25,500 to $76,500.

If you're in the middle of the middle, however – not lower or upper-middle class – that would be an income range between $39,764 and $64,582, says Aaron Pacitti, an assistant professor of economics at Siena College in Loudonville, N.Y.

Again, it isn't official. Nobody gets a membership card to the middle class.

 

[Remote]

If I were single, younger, or still in the dating world a man coming at me who makes $10-$15 an hour would quickly be dismissed. If my husband were making $10-$15 an hour he wouldn't be my husband. I'm just being honest. Part of his appeal to ME was knowing he was on his way to a professional career...not a low hourly job.

Because you want to be a kept woman.
Don't shy away from it. Most women do.

You clearly stated you can maintain yourself and you don't need another man's money.

So a man making $15 per hour shouldn't even matter to you.
But it does. Just admit why it does and keep it moving.

You women are illogical with this independent "I don't need a man for shyt" attitude but at the same time expect him to provide for you.
And not necessarily provide in terms of necessities. A lot of women expect a man to provide the niceties, too.

Because if you were really capable of maintaining yourself without a man's money, and a man who made $15 per hour was maintaining himself without asking you for anything...then really what gripe about his salary could you possibly fukking have, besides him not being able to (or wanting to) shell out money out of his pocket to buy you nice things or take you to nice places?

 

[Wild self]

I get that...but a lot of folks are living beyond their means. We as a race need to do better. I run across more black people more concerned with the latest iphone/Jordans than a 401k or IRA.



Yeah...in the backwoods of Alabama.



If you have 7 kids and you make $28k before taxes...what kind of life are you living??

Yeah, but there are a lot more people that work their asss off with degrees that are barely getting by. Not everyone in America can have the same 5 professions.

 

[MurderSheWrote]

So you work 60+ hours per week, hardly see your daughter, and living in a facade that all men should be making 100k.

Not at all. I cut down on my workload when I had my daughter. My husband's income makes this possible. If I were a single parent or in a less than desirable career this probably wouldn't be possible.

 

[beanz]

Hottest summer of my life was spent in Melrose houses on 153rd

After a month I stopped going over there even in daylight. Everybody was getting shot even stray cats were catching slugs.

 

[Dooby]

Somethings wrong when you take in consideration how much someone makes in whether or not you're going to fukk with them.

 

[MurderSheWrote]

WTF? Some of these lowly hourly jobs you can make $100G or more. That's more than some people with degrees and careers make. You one of them I want a "title" bytches.

Naw, I just want a man who can support! $15 an hour won't do for me.

Because you want to be a kept woman.
Don't shy away from it. Most women do.

You clearly stated you can maintain yourself and you don't need another man's money.

So a man making $15 per hour shouldn't even matter to you.
But it does. Just admit why it does and keep it moving.

You women are illogical with this independent "I don't need a man for shyt" attitude but at the same time expect him to provide for you.
And not necessarily provide in terms of necessities. A lot of women expect a man to provide the niceties, too.

Because if you were really capable of maintaining yourself without a man's money, and a man who made $15 per hour was maintaining himself without asking you for anything...then really what gripe about his salary could you possibly fukking have, besides him not being able to (or wanting to) shell out money out of his pocket to buy you nice things or take you to nice places?

I have no problem admitting I want a man who can support. Not my fault. I learned from the best...thank you Daddy.

Yeah, but there are a lot more people that work their asss off with degrees that are barely getting by. Not everyone in America can have the same 5 professions.

True...but show me an engineer out here struggling. I don't know any.

You know...I find it funny that when black women are settling for bum dudes who can't support ninjas on this site are bytching and complaining....but then when some of us are honest and admit we want a man who can support it is a problem! Really...what's the issue???

It's better for black women to have high standards than low.

 

[Wild self]

Naw, I just want a man who can support! $15 an hour won't do for me.



I have no problem admitting I want a man who can support. Not my fault. I learned from the best...thank you Daddy.



True...but show me an engineer out here struggling. I don't know any.

You know...I find it funny that when black women are settling for bum dudes who can't support ninjas on this site are bytching and complaining....but then when some of us are honest and admit we want a man who can support it is a problem! Really...what's the issue???

It's better for black women to have high standards than low.

I prefer women that want a man that is good with finances and not an attention whore.