Brehette is a parenting expert and goes viral for whaf she says about black boys

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Not pointing a finger but blaming everything on Black women which seems to be the norm isn't really working either. It seems no matter what happens it always comes back to what the woman did, at least that's the narrative that's popular on this board.
No one has blamed everything on Black women. What you seem to have a problem with is Black women receiving any blame at all. We blame Black men every day of the week for our fukk shyt, but "Lord have mercy!" if we blame Black women for theirs.

Recognizing the problem requires placing blame where it is deserved. If that means Black women have to take some heat too for their part, then so be it. This unilateral blame we have been doing for years has not worked.
 

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The consequences of “just ignore it”.

Now we have women who have access to our children, who are a few steps away from suggesting we castrate young black boys.

Just wait for it and quote me when someone says it, because one of these goofy bytches will. :wow:
Nah nah, this is ONLY on the internet.

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Other groups of men don’t go through this, because no other group of man would sit back and “ignore” the radicalization of their women for decades on end.

Not to say that this is 100% entirely our fault, but it’s a shame that pretty much up until this year you had clowns on here downplaying it.

It wasn’t until registration opened up and younger/newer posters started pushing back against these old nikkas that we’re finally able to have conversations about this.
I've noticed it's only us younger millennials and gen z that even recognize the non-stop propaganda.
 

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But that’s the thing it’s hard to have community’s without nuclear families. That’s why all these other races Asians, Indian and Mexican populations are rising while on the western side the birth rate is decreasing. These culture will spill into the west and you think they will care about black folks and the community? fukk no. We over here with gender wars and all kind of bullshyt meanwhile they having more kids and eventually will intercept into American culture.


Similar shyt happen to Rome and that’s how the empire fell.
I don’t disagree.

But I sometimes feel like we have discourse about “woulda/coulda/shoulda” scenarios for the future, without seeing shyt for what it is. We can talk about how great our community would be if there were more two parent households, less single parenting, less poor mate choosing, but we also have to be grounded in reality.

If we understand that this has been an ongoing issue for years, and has not gotten better, no matter the discourse on the need for more two parent homes, then we have to also work from the frame of mind that things likely are not going to just randomly go from mostly single parent households to majority two parent households without major, major reset and there are no signs or work even being done for that reset to even occur at a large scale across our community.

Our current reality is this: our community has a low marriage rate, high divorce rate, and high single parent rate. We can acknowledge what ideally would need to happen to build more families and strong communities, but again acknowledging it alone has not and is not offsetting any of the issues in our community. At this point it’s just talk.

And ultimately what control do you have over others choosing to not marry or marry, and have children or not have children? we cannot force people to marry or not have kids in single parent households. We don’t have that power.

We cannot force traditional households especially in a society where a man with a dikk is now called a woman, non traditional marriage is a thing (gay marriage is talked about in schools and really everywhere now) single parenting has become very normalized for black women and men, atheism is on the rise and religion is on the decline(religion was a huge contributor to people marrying).

I think at this point trying to address the reality with solutions to deal with things as they currently are is going to make more of a difference than talking about what we wish would happen but can’t make happen.
 

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No one has blamed everything on Black women. What you seem to have a problem with is Black women receiving any blame at all. We blame Black men every day of the week for our fukk shyt, but "Lord have mercy!" if we blame Black women for theirs.

Recognizing the problem requires placing blame where it is deserved. If that means Black women have to take some heat too for their part, then so be it. This unilateral blame we have been doing for years has not worked.
I'm talking about dead women. I just posted a list of black women killed just for not giving out their phone number or turning down a date. How exactly are you justifying that? I feel like the goal posts are being moved here. This thread is about the killing of black women, and now we're talking about everything but that.
 

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Everyone needlessly injected politics into the story where it had nothing to do with it. The commenter in OP reminded me of that. A couple of black boys felt emasculated that a girl beat them in basketball and suddenly there's 450-word think pieces of why black men are mindless savages who need to 'do better'.
Our existence was made political :mjcry:
 

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That is an atrocious statistic
Yea when I first read it I thought it couldn’t be true, then I started thinking about a lot of the black mothers I know, including the older ones. And yea damn near all of them had children by multiple fathers.

It wasn’t all baby daddy’s, some were married at one point then separated and remarried or linked with an old boyfriend, some had children before their first marriage but still that’s a crazy stat when you compare it to other groups.
 

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I'm talking about dead women. I just posted a list of black women killed just for not giving out their phone number or turning down a date. How exactly are you justifying that? I feel like the goal posts are being moved here. This thread is about the killing of black women, and now we're talking about everything but that.

Only an unstable person is going to kill because they got rejected. Trying to explain the actions of a mentally unstable person is pointless.
 

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I don’t disagree.

But I sometimes feel like we have discourse about “woulda/coulda/shoulda” scenarios for the future, without seeing shyt for what it is. We can talk about how great our community would be if there were more two parent households, less single parenting, less poor mate choosing, but we also have to be grounded in reality.

If we understand that this has been an ongoing issue for years, and has not gotten better, no matter the discourse on the need for more two parent homes, then we have to also work from the frame of mind that things likely are not going to just randomly go from mostly single parent households to majority two parent households without major, major reset and there are no signs or work even being done for that reset to even occur at a large scale across our community.

Our current reality is this: our community has a low marriage rate, high divorce rate, and high single parent rate. We can acknowledge what ideally would need to happen to build more families and strong communities, but again acknowledging it alone has not and is not offsetting any of the issues in our community. At this point it’s just talk.

And ultimately what control do you have over others choosing to not marry or marry, and have children or not have children? we cannot force people to marry or not have kids in single parent households. We don’t have that power.

We cannot force traditional households especially in a society where a man with a dikk is now called a woman, non traditional marriage is a thing (gay marriage is talked about in schools and really everywhere now) single parenting has become very normalized for black women and men, atheism is on the rise and religion is on the decline(religion was a huge contributor to people marrying).

I think at this point trying to address the reality with solutions to deal with things as they currently are is going to make more of a difference than talking about what we wish would happen but can’t make happen.
I agree with you, that is why I know this issue will only degrade even more. There is saying:

OIP.Ghx_bGkRXJz30jMQnjqTBAHaHY


Hard times are coming, and those times may do what arguing, discussing, and plan-making have not been able to accomplish. So I have not lost complete hope concerning the situation. This is why I am trying to make sure my descendants and the descendants of my extended family will have the best possible tools to weather that storm. Besides mentoring and helping those who honestly desire help, that is all I can really do.

All this arguing is just an earnest hope that some will listen and change course if they are not on it.
 

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I've noticed it's only us younger millennials and gen z that even recognize the non-stop propaganda.
Black Feminism became mainstream in the past 20 years, younger generations have to deal with it in a way more direct form.

Black women have been slandering black men in the American media for 40+ years, but only now did “nikkas ain’t shyt” become the dominant messaging of all black media.

Even in the entertainment industry, black men have been made subservient to black women behind the scenes as well, and those black women are college indoctrinated black feminists most of the time.

Get used to it, the black boys of today are nothing like the black boys of yesterday.

They get on COD/Fortnite and hang out with little boys from other cultures all day, white, Asians, Hispanics, Arabs.

They escape the black cultural bubble early and will probably never desire to go back.

I think it’s a good thing.

I remember posting this and people hitting me with the :mjpls:

But I stand by it, most black boys will learn more and be exposed to more information from having non-black friends than they will staying in the American black media cultural bubble.

Black media in America doesn’t have anything good or positive for black boys/men anymore, that’s the reality.
 
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I'm talking about dead women. I just posted a list of black women killed just for not giving out their phone number or turning down a date. How exactly are you justifying that? I feel like the goal posts are being moved here. This thread is about the killing of black women, and now we're talking about everything but that.
I can post a list of dead Black men killed by Black men at the urging of Black women using them as attack dogs. That is not the focus of the thread and tweets of that Feminist who took normal trash-talking on a court and used it as a means of pathologizing all Black men.

You want desperately for the topic to be changed, instead of actually contributing to the topic. Right now sisters are getting the focus. Especially sisters like the woman in the tweets, and perhaps even you with the deflection attempts.
 

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I can post a list of dead Black men killed by Black men at the urging of Black women using them as attack dogs. That is not the focus of the thread and tweets of that Feminist who took normal trash-talking on a court and used it as a means of pathologizing all Black men.

You want desperately for the topic to be changed, instead of actually contributing to the topic. Right now sisters are getting the focus. Especially sisters like the woman in the tweets, and perhaps even you with the deflection attempts.
Yeah, maybe. As a sexual assault and suicide hotline volunteer, I'm probably way too close to this topic. Carry on.
 
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