i honestly feel as if opinions like yours come from a perspective viewed through a black-oriented lens. due to the historical hardship we’ve suffered, our take on love is skewed, influenced by superficial criteria that has disproportionate weight when assessing dating prospects.
i live in boston, which has a lot of white people. i can tell you, from personal experience, that average-looking white guys REGULARLY get play with attractive women. these aren’t good-looking, “hot,” or extraordinarily handsome men.
they don’t have drip or drive expensive cars. but they date and marry attractive women.
i see it all the time.
so, this idea that you have to be good looking to have a shot at a relationship with an attractive woman is a peculiarly specific requirement in our community.