THIS….
I remember about 5 years ago, me and an ex got into a terrible argument… I didn’t disrespect her at all but she was INSANELY drunk and she literally attacked me and hit me several times… after about 30 seconds of this, I had had enough… I pinned her against the wall and had my hand around her throat. I didn’t choke her … I just held her at bay so she couldn’t move and so she could realize how much stronger I was than her so she could get a grip and come to her senses.
When I finally let her go, this bytch had the nerve to TELL ME that I was abusive one….
The very next day, her sister sent me a voice text threatening me, telling me how she was going to get all their male cousins and all the street nikkas in their family to come kill me….
It was clear that my ex didn’t keep it 100 with her family and tried to make it seem like I whooped her ass which was soooo not the case, this bytch literally attacked me all because we were having a bad argument (that she was losing) and she couldn’t control her liquor. I simply defended myself to stop her from assaulting me.
The point is, if your family member KNOWS you getting abused, they wouldn’t waste any time with waiting for things to work out. The average relative would speak up on something like that almost immediately.
Most families don’t play that shyt, especially black families ….. ESPECIALLY black folks from the hood