Boys are disappearing’ from mental health care as signs of depression go undetected

[maxamusa]

A lot of these facilities are selling snake oil.

they're usually not even qualified to be attempting to do what they do.

and if its a court mandated facility forget about it.

a lot of sickos in there 2 living their second childhood. Trying to be "down" with kids or sexually abuse them.

its a nasty scene.

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Witnessed it, lived it.

My ex used to wake up in tears at 5am.

If there are 52 weeks in a year he’s depressed 50 of them yet if you saw him you’d think he’s living lavish.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

Do you think these things will change at any point in the future?

If men keep regressing
Something will have to give
nikkas talking about survival of the fittest and a rapist who was molested by his own father are in here talking cash shyt
If nikkas like that who have violated and been violated are who we deem necessary to talk about topics like this
shyt will stay status quo and toxic
Men gotta start
Holding each other accountable
Actually listen, digest and stand up for one another
There are camps for young men or just bonding camps for men

And I have seen nikkas call that activity gay
Any time a group of men want to come together and just do things with other men
It’s a stigma attached
Until men start saying
Nah we need spaces to kick shyt, laugh at really horrific stuff, give unadulterated advice without a woman present to soften the blow
It will be the same shyt
Men have to take their mental health serious
and until then
It will just be crash dummies, weird nikkas and effeminate goofballs running amuck

 

[Belize King]

That's the issue if all men don't care why would anyone else? We have to be men and make the change.

Here is the thing IMO. You have to worry about you first. You have to care about yourself. Once you do that and become a complete person, then you are able to start a family.

When you intentionally start a family as a mentally whole/stable person, you will be in your child’s life and raise them to be mentally whole/stable.

The breakdown is children out of wedlock, men not being in their child’s life, ratchets taking care of children themselves, bums making children and not having the tools to raise them.

I would never tell my child, “you are soft, toughen up, what the hell is your problem, that boy can’t get right.” Unfortunately, we are products of slavery and our ancestors, grandparents, parents didn’t care about mental health. We are the first generation that’s taking care our ourselves. 100 years from now, there will not be a stigma and mental health will be at the forefront of our educational system.

We are slowly getting there. Culturally, recognition of a weakened mental state is key and acknowledging there is something wrong is a first step. How do we take that first step?

 

[Belize King]

If men keep regressing
Something will have to give
nikkas talking about survival of the fittest and a rapist who was molested by his own father are in here talking cash shyt
If nikkas like that who have violated and been violated are who we deem necessary to talk about topics like this
shyt will stay status quo and toxic
Men gotta start
Holding each other accountable
Actually listen, digest and stand up for one another
There are camps for young men or just bonding camps for men

And I have seen nikkas call that activity gay
Any time a group of men want to come together and just do things with other men
It’s a stigma attached
Until men start saying
Nah we need spaces to kick shyt, laugh at really horrific stuff, give unadulterated advice without a woman present to soften the blow
It will be the same shyt
Men have to take their mental health serious
and until then
It will just be crash dummies, weird nikkas and effeminate goofballs running amuck

You already know. A lot of insurance companies cover therapy for up to 20 sessions a year. Men need to consider how many times they have opened up about real shyt to their circle. Did their circle really care or have sound advice? Talk therapy is a start and it shows you why you are who you are. What is the underlying issue. If you are about to identify it and willing to address it, that’s a start.

I’m not saying everybody needs therapy. What I am saying is everyone should be able to have an open, honest conversation with their group, not be ostracized, and have questions asked to them that is thought provoking.

All talk therapy is is a person asking the right questions to you. Yes they give you “homework” but if you are talking to somebody that cares about you, they would suggest you to address your problems.

People need to understand their inner circle and see who they really are.

 

[rabbid]

we gotta find something different instead of trying to have what women have. that kind of support will always be insincere because its copycat. that's why i don't hate on passport bros. maybe that little columbian coochie gonna get him through a rough patch. it is what it is.

 

[maxamusa]

Witnessed it, lived it.

My ex used to wake up in tears at 5am.

If there are 52 weeks in a year he’s depressed 50 of them yet if you saw him you’d think he’s living lavish.

ex u said

 

[Cloutius Maximus]

spirituality, a sense of purpose, exercise >>>

most therapists are ass and if u are a introspective breh you likely already know what the issue is and where it stems from. question is what are you going to do to fix the issue

 

[Rice N Beans]

Boys are normally taught to be stoic and reject any expression of emotion not deemed masculine. Thing is you don't have to have the pendulum swing to the extremes.

Nothing wrong with being in touch with yourself. There's positives in recognizing your own emotions. Things like that become empathetic, potentially allowing you to become a better partner when the time comes, etc.

 

[Speaking Womanese]

ex u said

Indeed.

He cheated and insinuated I was weak for caring when he was battling depression.

He’s remorseful til this day and I forgave him but he’s never forgiven himself.

 

[Neuromancer]

And I have seen nikkas call that activity gay
Any time a group of men want to come together and just do things with other men
It’s a stigma attached
Until men start saying
Nah we need spaces to kick shyt, laugh at really horrific stuff, give unadulterated advice without a woman present to soften the blow
It will be the same shyt
Men have to take their mental health serious
and until then
It will just be crash dummies, weird nikkas and effeminate goofballs running amuck

Agreed whole heartedly. I would also question the mental acumen of anyone assuming that a group of men bonding would only be doing it for sexual reasons. That sounds like the thought process of an animal.

 

[Neuromancer]

we gotta find something different instead of trying to have what women have. that kind of support will always be insincere because its copycat. that's why i don't hate on passport bros. maybe that little columbian coochie gonna get him through a rough patch. it is what it is.

I agree but I don't think sex is the answer it doesn't give you tools to actually work through problems it's just another potential addiction. We have enough brehs turning to vices to get through that just leads to break downs.

 

[Neuromancer]

most therapists are ass and if u are a introspective breh you likely already know what the issue is and where it stems from. question is what are you going to do to fix the issue

Most brehs aren't introspective. And most men seem to pretend they don't have any problems at all. So this isn't even a logical response.

 

[Neuromancer]

Indeed.

He cheated and insinuated I was weak for caring when he was battling depression.

He’s remorseful til this day and I forgave him but he’s never forgiven himself.

Did he ever seek therapy? He's clearly battling some demons.

 

[Neuromancer]

A lot of these facilities are selling snake oil.

they're usually not even qualified to be attempting to do what they do.

and if its a court mandated facility forget about it.

a lot of sickos in there 2 living their second childhood. Trying to be "down" with kids or sexually abuse them.

its a nasty scene.

What would you recommend? Especially for people who can't identify their own issues?