It’s hard to understand what she wants to come from this article—at first it seems like she’s speaking on the differences in the dynamics of relationships/marriages in white culture vs black—then it becomes clear that she’s only exploring it to get white people to see how unfair it is for bw to guilt-trip WM.
When I went to a PWI the majority of black girls there were in a relationship at some point during their four years of college. Some dated/got in relationships with bm on campus, a few were with WM, and a lot were in relationships with bm who went to other schools or who were in the military or trades. I didn’t know any black girls that didn’t have a relationship at all during their four years in school and who weren’t actively dating even when they were single.
What happened is that those relationships ended by the time graduation came. Duh. Just because you date or get serious with someone doesn’t mean it’s going to last or result in marriage. There were many white girls, even the ones who slutted it out during college, who were in relationships at different points of college too. And only some of them left college with an engagement ring.
Even now most of the recent White female college graduates that I work with are as single as a dollar bill. To act as if engagement upon college graduation is the reality for most White women is false. To act as if bw arent simultaneously dating, having relationships, or trying to find a man while focusing on getting their degree is also false.
Further to get engaged, requires a man to propose. Here is the reality that no one talks about while they are blaming bw for not getting engaged to square Brehs in college lol: many young bm aren’t proposing to any woman whether she is black brown or white because they aren’t ready to get married.
Many Brehs don’t have the family money/resources, family support, or pressure from their family to marry a good LTR gf the way white men do. On top of that marriage rates are incredibly low for both bw and bm of all ages. So whether she wants to get engaged in college or not, the reality is that most bm and bw aren’t getting married let alone when they’re in college.
most young people are not even financially or emotionally ready for marriage. That’s why 60% of marriages under 25 result in divorce. It’s not a flex to be married that young, when divorce is the likely outcome.