ARTICLE: Black Women Should look for husbands, not extra degrees
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why is finding a significant other, and getting a higher education mutually exclusive? If anything, finding a mate at college is the ideal setting. SMH...discouraging black folks to pursue education, now if that aint demonic I dont know what is.
You're right about this, but the average age of graduating seniors is what, 22? I don't see why even a semi-attractive male with good career options would get married before 30
Only black men put up with the "baggage" black women bring.
it's not a matter of black women finding men of other races, it's a matter of whether men of other races will put up with them.
Have you noticed a black girl who dates white boys "tries" to act white?
Have you asked yourself why????:obama3:
Truth hurts
Here yo ass go
EVERYBODY has baggage... black, white, ect. Please don't act brand new sir
The fact of the matter is who are black women supposed to marry if most black men (for those who opt to date within their race solely) are either gay, locked up, or aint worth shyt (has baby mama's, unemployed, uneducated, not driven in life, has a criminal record, ect. )?
The ones who are equally as educated and have equally as much earning potential or more typically date white women... which is fine, but just stating facts.
I give no fukcs about who dates who whether they be black or white.
You know what I don't think they are but one thing I know about a nice amount of women is when they get money they think they are the equivalent of a league dude to them. That's where I think they go wrong. Some start getting money then don't want to settle and that is a big reason reason some women are nowstatus but trying to get a max deal(aka marriage). It's a gift and a curse cause women (as a group) are funny to me on this. They want to goto school get money then want a guy with more than them to take care of them but when they see dudes marrying rite aid workers chicks
. You can do both but know the pros and cons and for fukks sake please take real shyt in college (both genders) not just basket weaving.
this just reads as insecurity tho, breh. You're basically saying that if a woman goes to college, shes likely to gain self-esteem and seek a higher caliber or quality of man. Thats neither here nor there, but I dont think its necessarily a bad thing.
Its crazy, because a lot of you cats (i cant say you specifically, but a lot of niqqas around here) bemoan divorce laws endlessly, when women get broken off in settlements. Those settlements are because a gang of women are unemployed or under-employed and uneducated, and thus are financially dependent on the man. Well, if they have their own career, and possess a degree than one sided settlements are less likely. Now thats a problem! Pick a side.
All I know is this...anyone discouraging my people to better themselves though education is on some ol' bullchit.
SouthernBelle
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I'll try to tackle this.....
I agree and advocate that black women should spend less time going for the highest degrees and more time looking for husbands or potential long term partners. Many don't want to admit it but a big reason why black women go to school at record rates is because they don't have that safety net of a man to provide for them so they're faced with no other choice but to be independent and get their own shyt. There's nothing wrong with that but it's just the fact of the matter.
But at the same time I think that it's a tad unrealistic and a bit unfair to expect black women to all find Mr.Right in college because assuming that black women are interested in black men they're gonna have a hard time finding a man because of the sheer numbers alone. It's a well known fact that black women outstandingly outnumber black men in institutions of higher education so the odds are already against them to find a man on their level. There are many colleges where black men are a small minority on campus especially at hbcu's where some are 70% female and 30% male. And you also have to factor in compatibility once you meet someone just because you're both college educated doesn't mean you will click.
So I agree with the theory but it's kinda skating on thin ice when you look at it.
when did you get some damn sense? This is probably the best post you have EVER made.
If y'all read the article, which you didn't, you'd notice that the author is talking about woman in their 30/40/50's who are single
She's pretty much saying that your quality of life is more important than the added loans you'd take out by going back to school.
She's pretty much saying that your quality of life is more important than the added loans you'd take out by going back to school.
Here yo ass go
EVERYBODY has baggage... black, white, ect. Please don't act brand new sir
The fact of the matter is who are black women supposed to marry if most black men (for those who opt to date within their race solely) are either gay, locked up, or aint worth shyt (has baby mama's, unemployed, uneducated, not driven in life, has a criminal record, ect. )?
The ones who are equally as educated and have equally as much earning potential or more typically date white women... which is fine, but just stating facts.
I give no fukcs about who dates who whether they be black or white.
None of that sewage was fact.
If everyone has some baggage like you claim, why do some black women accuse black men of not being able to "handle black women", that's why we decide to date other races of women?.Here yo ass go
EVERYBODY has baggage... black, white, ect. Please don't act brand new sir
The fact of the matter is who are black women supposed to marry if most black men (for those who opt to date within their race solely) are either gay, locked up, or aint worth shyt (has baby mama's, unemployed, uneducated, not driven in life, has a criminal record, ect. )?
The ones who are equally as educated and have equally as much earning potential or more typically date white women... which is fine, but just stating facts.
I give no fukcs about who dates who whether they be black or white.
What makes a black woman separate from other races of women that she needs "handling"
Ghostface Trillah
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nobody should be telling anyone they need to go get married.Especially in this day and age. Just because your degrees wont keep you warm at night doesn't mean you should force yourself into a bad situation or stop educating yourself.
Whoever wrote this article needs to be telling black women to stop bringing up degrees at every instance cause black women specifically love play the I have a degree card when it comes to dating. I'm not going to say it has nothing to do with nothing but a degree doesn't and shouldn't validate who you are and I don't think they know how stupid they sound saying it to someone who has a degree or is successful without one.
Whoever wrote this article needs to be telling black women to stop bringing up degrees at every instance cause black women specifically love play the I have a degree card when it comes to dating. I'm not going to say it has nothing to do with nothing but a degree doesn't and shouldn't validate who you are and I don't think they know how stupid they sound saying it to someone who has a degree or is successful without one.
Did any of you guys actually READ the article, it isn't about why black women in their early 20's didn't find a husband while at college.
It is asking why black women in their late 30's are choosing to acquire student loans and debts going back to school in hopes of bettering themselves, when sometimes it doesn't rather than finding a man to ease their financial burdens. It's basically saying a lot of black women who go back to school in their 30's are wasting their time and it won't benefit them and instead they should find a husband.
Personally I don't really agree with seeking a husband to help with finances.
You're right about this, but the average age of graduating seniors is what, 22? I don't see why even a semi-attractive male with good career options would get married before 30
ur taking it too literally tho, I mean for starters you can meet someone in college and not get married until far after post-graduation, but in general college is as good of an atmosphere as any to meet someone of the opposite sex, date, and overall experiment with preferences, leanings, and romantic wants/desires.
This is hella square of me, but I dont care. Some of my greatest moments of the opposite sex have been burning the midnight oil on some study session ish, with someone Im really feeling.
I think (IMO) that there is a sense of security some get from higher education that they have never experienced in their personal life. I can understand why a woman would continue to get degree after degree in her 30s and 40s only to end up alone if that is all she knows.
Especially if she believes that she has to do everything by herself and that she cant expect a man to be there for her.
Did any of you guys actually READ the article, it isn't about why black women in their early 20's didn't find a husband while at college.
It is asking why black women in their late 30's are choosing to acquire student loans and debts going back to school in hopes of bettering themselves, when sometimes it doesn't rather than finding a man to ease their financial burdens. It's basically saying a lot of black women who go back to school in their 30's are wasting their time and it won't benefit them and instead they should find s husband.
hell naw we didnt
I went back and read it and low key agree with the lady. However, I will never be against someone going back to school to better themselves if as they see fit. it's all about priorities.