Are we partly responsible for black women's self-hate issues?

[Elle Driver]

So your runing away from what i posted huh?

Your like 20 year older then me you should be able to outsmart me

You stooooooopid.

 

[Arishok]

damn, this chick is about to be the new "it" girl amongst black women. Let her get a white love interest in a flick and she'll be Beyonce status.

I don't know too many famous really dark skin women other than her. Plus I don't stalk normal women's instagram so sorry if I keep going back to her.

 

[philmonroe]

Comparing a person's height,weight or muscle size to systematic oppression based on skin color is crazy. In other words black people were not enslaved and discriminated against because of our height,weight or muscle size. We were enslaved and discriminated against because of our skin color.Now why would a black man turn around and use a shade chart when it comes to picking between black women? The notion that dark is bad was created due to white supremacy therefore any black man who regurgitates that bull shyt when it comes to black women should be put down.

@philmonroe

Nah either its all crazy or none of its crazy. You can't say similar things aren't the same and be taken seriously. Its ok to discriminate in certain instances but in the others for whatever janky reason you put its not. That don't make sense to me like men/women that say they don't like IR dating but it usually only applies when its the opposite gender. Just keep it consistent thats all Im saying. If one thing is bad all the similar things should be too IMO.

 

[Jone2three45]

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[Dman414]

This is bad logic son

sometimes the truth hurts

 

[marcuz]

I'm not saying every black feminist is bed wenching out here, but I've encountered quite a few 20 something tumblr feminists with cac boyfriends who feel validated to talk shyt about brothers not picking sistas. I mean, there is a certain type of black woman out here like that. You know they exist. They watch adventure time, they're on that begging white people for equality shyt. Basically, these people just want to live amongst white people and be their token friends. I think ya'll ignoring the ones who do because it makes the movement look bad when she wants to bring Chad along.

well ask yourself this, if white men all decided to ditch their own women, and marry all of these black women. would black feminism still exist?

 

[Killer Instinct]

I actually have a theory as to why dark skinned black men seemingly get more love from people than dark skinned black women, but people's self esteem aren't ready for that.

Does it have anything to do with the perception of masculinity that people have associated w/ skin tone?

 

[Matt504]

Dear Abiola,

My man keeps calling me a “****** bytch” during sex and I hate it.

I have been married for a year and I am at my wit’s end. My investment banker husband is from a White old money family. I am a first generation Black-American woman whose family is from the island of Jamaica. We met at a reunion for the ivy league school we both attended, and he proposed in six months.

We have the picture perfect fantasy life. He wines and dines me and we travel and shop the globe. Unlike all of the Black men I dated in the past, my husband is generous, loyal, committed and considerate. He courted me and I never have to pay for anything. He said I could quit my job and I did. He makes me feel like a woman.

I am a little embarrassed to share our problem. The first time he let the n-word drop was during sex on our honeymoon. When I reacted negatively, he explained that a Black woman he dated in the past enjoyed being called racial slurs. Another time he joked that he had purchased my freedom. He also speculated about whether his family could have owned mine because I have “good hair.” Then he made jokes about my pubic hair. He called it my “negro bush” and referred to himself as a “****** lover.” He says I am being overly sensitive because he loves me to death and should get a “Black pass” for marrying me.

I told him that I don’t appreciate these comments and he says that my friends and family probably use the n-word all the time. He also asked why Black people can use the word and he cannot. I don’t use the word or believe in the nikka/****** differentiation. Neither does my family. I am too embarrassed to tell anyone about this because I know they might say: “That’s what she gets for marrying a White man.”

Every time we try having sex again, the slurs fly. Our sex life is pretty much over right now because I pretend to be asleep every time my sexy, handsome man wants to be with me. I feel completely turned off. I love my husband deeply so please don’t tell me to leave him because that’s not what I want to do.

My husband was my first interracial relationship. Please tell me racial slurs aren’t normal between interracial couples? I would like to figure this out before we have kids but I can’t afford to leave him and still maintain my lifestyle.

How can I regain my sexual attraction for my husband?

Signed,Black and Proud

http://m.essence.com/2013/04/08/intimacy-intervention-my-husband-uses-racial-slurs-during-sex/

"girl his black ass called me a bytch one time and I left his ass right there, he lucky I ain't cut him"

 

[Jone2three45]

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[Theraflu]

Really? Despite the fact that you referred to her as a "dark butt", some of you clowns truly expose yourselves for being absolute, complete herbs fishing for daps. You know good and damn well you wouldn't bring anyone's fukking mother into a debate in reality without getting dropped through concrete. Make your point w/o insulting someone's mother & cut that shyt out.

I have insulted people's mothers to their face in real life LOL.
Haven't you ?
I had a friend who I told the 'your mum is midnight and you chase beckies' thing. He didn't do shyt.
You don't know me in real life but trust me I can be a disrespectful c*nt when I want.
I stand by all I said.
Now stop caping for another nikka and fukk off.

 

[360crazy]

By responding to this I'm acknowledging you more than your pops ever did, but if you were half this tough offline, then maybe you wouldn't be so discontent with life and trying so hard to pretend to be here. You're certainly polite and cordial in person, so cut it out. You're not getting that dap & you're not convincing anyone.

yeah ok u ol

ass nikka

 

[marcuz]

You mad cuz you don't look like Idris?

nah, i'm moreso mad that every time marvel discusses a black super hero; idris elba's name is the first to get mentioned

 

[Spoonz]

I said I SEE it all the time, with my ACTUAL EYES in REAL LIFE.

not via a YouTube video.

these Black feminists hate Black men and are only concerned with empowering themselves while completely destroying patriarchy and masculinity, this is something I've observed.

these strong Black feminist women get around white men and it's like they magically turn back into "normal women", they're docile, nice, sweet, flirty, if a white male shows any interest, they won't speak a fukking peep about black feminism in his presence.

there's a lot of black feminists fukking white men on the low and some of the are even called ****** while in bed with these white men but no one is ready to speak up on that tho.

but let me go toast these bagels.

Where's the proof? The receipts? And not those same ten porn pics y'all post. Those natural hair earth mother pro black girls are really the ones getting smutted out by white dikk if you wanna know the truth.

 

[Dman414]

"girl his black ass called me a bytch one time and I left his ass right there, he lucky I ain't cut him"Dear Abiola,

My man keeps calling me a “****** bytch” during sex and I hate it.

I have been married for a year and I am at my wit’s end. My investment banker husband is from a White old money family. I am a first generation Black-American woman whose family is from the island of Jamaica. We met at a reunion for the ivy league school we both attended, and he proposed in six months.

We have the picture perfect fantasy life. He wines and dines me and we travel and shop the globe. Unlike all of the Black men I dated in the past, my husband is generous, loyal, committed and considerate. He courted me and I never have to pay for anything. He said I could quit my job and I did. He makes me feel like a woman.

I am a little embarrassed to share our problem. The first time he let the n-word drop was during sex on our honeymoon. When I reacted negatively, he explained that a Black woman he dated in the past enjoyed being called racial slurs. Another time he joked that he had purchased my freedom. He also speculated about whether his family could have owned mine because I have “good hair.” Then he made jokes about my pubic hair. He called it my “negro bush” and referred to himself as a “****** lover.” He says I am being overly sensitive because he loves me to death and should get a “Black pass” for marrying me.

I told him that I don’t appreciate these comments and he says that my friends and family probably use the n-word all the time. He also asked why Black people can use the word and he cannot. I don’t use the word or believe in the nikka/****** differentiation. Neither does my family. I am too embarrassed to tell anyone about this because I know they might say: “That’s what she gets for marrying a White man.”

Every time we try having sex again, the slurs fly. Our sex life is pretty much over right now because I pretend to be asleep every time my sexy, handsome man wants to be with me. I feel completely turned off. I love my husband deeply so please don’t tell me to leave him because that’s not what I want to do.

My husband was my first interracial relationship. Please tell me racial slurs aren’t normal between interracial couples? I would like to figure this out before we have kids but I can’t afford to leave him and still maintain my lifestyle.

How can I regain my sexual attraction for my husband?

Signed,Black and Proud

LOL these CACS have it good boy. I wonder did that CAC dress her up as slave and make her pretend to pick cotton? yes, black queens indeed

 

[Arishok]

nah, i'm moreso mad that every time marvel discusses a black super hero; idris elba's name is the first to get mentioned

I think we all know Michael Jay White should be playing Green Lantern or Luke Cage.