@Booksnrain @Thomas Let's clear the air about the high out of marriage wedlock stat.
I don't have time to list references but the list below is what you need to know about out of wedlock birthis in our community, which I don't think is positive overall, and how it happened. Draw your own conclusions on how to stop it.
1. Unmarried Black women's fertility has been
decreasing since the 1960s overall. The boost in the 1990s was due to a teenage pregnancy boom which has reversed back to the level in the 1960s.
2. The key factors driving the increase in Black kids born out of wedlock since the 1960s are not because Shaniqua on welfare has five kids. Those welfare single mothers have had declining fertility. The reasons are:
a. #GMB The decline in marriage amongst Blacks. Note that those who don't get married into their 30s and 40s and don't have kids actually add to the stat since they would have been married and had kids under historical circumstances, raising the amount of kids raised in marriage.
b. The decline in fertility amongst Blacks who are married. Black married people's fertility has dropped like a rock since the 1960s and its fast decline, faster than unmarried Black women's fertility drop, is what has largely driven the rise in the ratio of births out of marriage. Married Black people are typically educated and higher earning and thus kids are more expensive for them. Also they get married later (average marriage age of 30+) which limits the possibilities for many kids for several reasons, some biological.
Even getting married, married Black women have less fertility and have less kids over their life on average than married White women. Part of it is probably economic and part of it may be marriage age. Getting married 3-5 years older probably accommodates one more kid.
c. The Black married woman's fertility rate is so low, that if we put a gun to unmarried Black womens' heads and said "don't have kids", while not helping them get married, we would have one of the lower rates of fertility in the developed world. Not quite as bad as Asia but under replacement like much of Europe setting us up for population stagnation and then decrease. The only long term solution to maintain fertility and lower the out of wedlock birth rate is to increase marriage and/or have married people have more kids. That's the only way the math works.
d. The out of marriage rate had already nearly peaked near 70% by the time rap and hip hop became the culture in the early 1990s. Could you argue they perpetuate it? Maybe but they didn't start it just like they didn't start the rise in homicide. Both were peaking when NWA came on the scene.
Also of interesting note, though not widely discussed by the people who demand telling 'hard truths' to us, is that the rise in White out of marriage births, about 30% for those under 30 I think, has been driven by the increase in unmarried White womens' fertility. Namely, it is being driven by the exact factor they claim (falsely) drove ours and that they wrongly berated us for (Welfare queens etc.) for 40 years. Declining White marital fertility is also playing a role but married White women still on average have more kids over their lifetime than married Black women as I explained above.
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I didn't say that. Also, marriage can be farce. It's like having a beautiful house on the outside, but it's dirty af inside. It doesn't automatically lead to men being better fathers, women not feeling like a single mother, or a stable family overall. It just appears that way. Again, it's ideal, but I don't feel a woman with an expiring uterus should wait. 
A person looking for marriage, while making themselves marriable can definitely find a partner within their race.
