40+ Successful professional black women are getting in vitro to be "single mothers by choice"

[GoAggieGo.]

Selfishness.

Creating more dysfunction, but when you only think about yourself, those thoughts don’t enter your mind. I hope those that go through this, or enter single parenthood willingly, aren’t on some heavy “pro-black” shyt

 

[daboywonder2002]

Majority of women have a natural maternal instinct, a yearning to be a mother. The problem is they they don't want to or even know how to be a wife. A woman will fight to the death for her kids, work 2 jobs, gave them her last dollar. But yet can't make their husband a meal after a hard days work, can't give a massage if he needs or just be there to listen.

 

[KidJSoul]

This is what happens when society to chooses to go against the natural order of things.

But: blah blah “oppressive patriarchy” blah blah “you can have it all”. Blah blah “I can do bad all by myself” etc etc

What you dorks who trot out this "natural order" stuff always ignore is that a lot of men aren't doing their parts either.

There's men put here that are abusive, immature, not leaders, don't earn enough money, not willing to help in the house if their wife works as much or more hours than him, etc.

If you want a "natural order", then men need to do their part. Otherwise, some women ain't gonna bother. It's that simple

And no, I don't think women are perfect.

My point is that men aren't perfect either. And it takes two to tango

 

[KidJSoul]

So many dudes in this thread pinning this all on women and willfully ignoring how many men aren't worth submitting for

Yall sound like LSA/twitter bytches that blame everything on men

Whatever this is just internet shyt anyway

 

[UpNext]

im confused. the same men who claim they love nonbw so much and how no one want black women have an issue with some older black women choosing to have babies by themselves? what the issue?

The only real loser here is the child. You've clearly never met a child who was raised by a parent like this and heard what they thought of it. It's pretty sad.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

You actually think this is a solution? . All it’s gon do screw up another batch of young men and create more toxic women who love toxic men who would do the same thing. Black men need to step up in our role and keep Eve/Jezebel in her place and start training up proverbs 31 women. This straight madness.

It’s not a solution. It’s reality.
The solution would be to eliminate white supremacy. But you see how you skipped right over the very real numbers disparity DIRECTLY linked to white supremacy to jump to trying to keep a foot on black women’s necks.

As I’ve said b4 black woken have MANY issues. But even if they were perfect there’s STILL only 88 men for every 100 black women. And that is by design.

So the solution could start with black men stopping their blame game to black women and redirecting that energy towards white supremacy that takes them out of the community and makes it hard for them to be protectors and providers.
But that type of energy is dismissed as bashing black men, while we focus on trying to reform Jezebels or convince Brittany Renner to lower her standards for incels.

MAP: Why Black Women Outnumber Black Men in the Bay Area and Beyond | KQED

For every 100 black women living in the Bay Area, there are only 88 black men, according to a KQED Lowdown analysis.

www.kqed.org

Where Have All the Black Men Gone?

There's a gender imbalance in many African-American neighborhoods. Mass incarceration is largely to blame.

www.governing.com

https://www.southerndigest.com/culture/article_306ac4c6-dfd7-11e9-928c-f3ec25dfe75c.html

“97 percent of African-Americans live in states in which prime-age black men are outnumbered by black women. By this metric, the problem seems pervasive.”

I didn’t make this stat up. If we want practical solutions, take the emotion out of the conversation and the Bible thumping and the blame game and let’s start there.It might be hard to confront but it’s necessary.

 

[Jcotton1]

So many dudes in this thread pinning this all on women and willfully ignoring how many men aren't worth submitting for

Yall sound like LSA/twitter bytches that blame everything on men

Whatever this is just internet shyt anyway

It's plenty trash ass brehs out here in real life. You have 40+ dudes out here just as lost as the young teens with the ghost guns.


I see the aftermath on IG grown boys with temper tantrums. Yet when Big Unc aka judges locally and state wise come and bring some structure and order to his life many wanna cry about it. Some brehs need a max security jail on a ship out on the water somewhere. Yes you have skill trades but many brehs young and old are gone beyond repair.

 

[GoAggieGo.]

leaving your kids is selfish and yet men do it alllll the time. lol

I agree, wholeheartedly. Which is why I think men who abandon their children are just as trash as this situation.

Did you think this was a burn, or it justified being selfish?

 

[CarmelBarbie]

there was a thread made a couple of weeks ago of a breh who said his homie got a surrogate women to carry a baby and became a single father by choice.

I think this is becoming a trend—not just for bw but women period. And I suspect more men who have the money may be interested in it too. But this trend is notably only happening by the subset of women and men who have the money. IVF is extremely expensive even with insurance. The average bw is not in this position.

A lot of people aren’t finding the partners they want in the time frame needed to have children, but whereas those who may not have the option to consider this or don’t want to be a single parent would adjust their standards or make compromises to find a mate, those who have the resources to utilize this option and aren’t willing to settle down unless it’s with the man they truly want are seeking non traditional ways to still have families.

In our current society we’ve created so many great things. The convenience and ease of being able to find anything and see everything with just your fingertips… but one of the disadvantages is the way it shapes our social experiences, relationships, and perspectives. Suddenly we realize that we can get a partner that is xyz, instead of the potential partners that are within proximity to us. We look online and see examples of celebs and high powered people that are raising children without a partner. We do the research and see we have options to do it that way too.

It will obviously impact that child—children need both parents. But they do need two good actively involved parents. And if it’s only one parent, I do hope they have a village of support and male role models available.

Anyways, if you don’t agree with it, best to just not entertain those women. Unfortunately bw are the least married women. The bw who weren’t able to find a mate to have children with before 40 but want a child and has resources and money to do this, will do this. Especially if they’ve always wanted children.

 

[BunchePark]

Crazy to think we have people walking around earth who were born with assistance of a 3rd party (crackers)

It should just be dikk beating up some p*ssy and then busting off to create life

Any posters in here willing to admit they were not a natural conception?

 

[dr. pill biden]

What you dorks who trot out this "natural order" stuff always ignore is that a lot of men aren't doing their parts either.

There's men put here that are abusive, immature, not leaders, don't earn enough money, not willing to help in the house if their wife works as much or more hours than him, etc.

If you want a "natural order", then men need to do their part. Otherwise, some women ain't gonna bother. It's that simple

And no, I don't think women are perfect.

My point is that men aren't perfect either. And it takes two to tango

it takes two to raise a child too. thats the real natural order being violated here. it’s worse than just being a baby mama because at least that child still has a father but he’s just not together with the mom.

these childrens father are literally some anonymous dude that jerked off in a cup for weed money. the adult unilaterally took away the child’s right to ever have a father at all just based off some well i FEEL i can do bad all by myself so i will shyt. that is dreadful decision making whether someone can afford it or not. money aint everything

 

[Peak]

Anyone else noticing this trend lately? is this the endgame? Over the past few months I have met so many black women who either already got the In vitro fertilization or are in the process of getting it to willingly become single mothers. They all fit the same archetype. Successful black women, career oriented, wanting a top teir man, single and over 40 years old. It's insane to me that these women would rather become single mothers from a sperm bank than date and marry an average breh but this is where we are.

I met a 42 year old chick off a dating app a few weeks ago with a 1 year old and when I asked about the father she told be she voluntarily got in vitro cause she wanted to be mother. I just couldn't take her seriously anymore. Even after they become single mothers they still think they can get a top tier breh. Are these women that delusional? Why would you willingly lower your value on the dating market?

Here is an article on it I found
Changing the Narrative Around Black Single Motherhood - Seattle Sperm Bank

40+ no kids and single??? I don't blame them...

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

i'm def thinking of having a child alone as i don't think i'm relationship material (like damn i gotta be around you for life?!). I know I have the means and wherewithal to raise a kid alone, compared to others that do it alone. but if i do..... sheeeiiiit, i'm just going to adopt an orphan. why would i put my body through that at an older age? just to say they have my blood? i mean... i come from some amazing genes but i don't think my ego is that tapped in lol

 

[concise]

Other races of women are doing this as well.

Paula Abdul wanted to have a baby by Shawn Wayans, but didn't want him to be involved in the child's life, so Shawn didn't go through with it. This was back in 98

Yep, just came in here to say this is just the evolution of that. Or getting into a relationship just long enough to get pregnant.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

So succesful black women are getting seeded by machine because OG thug is in jail?

Strictly by the numbers, it’s b/c there isn’t a 1:1 ratio of men to women in our community. And that is by design.

If you notice, I mentioned white supremacy and incarceration rates as being the largest factors to blame for this.
When men in your community can get tossed into prison at insane rates for smoking and selling something that is literally being decriminalized across the country, or when homicide is the largest mortality factor for men in your race, it takes millions out and leaves millions of women without viable partners. This isn’t black men OR black women’s fault.

But Some try to get into value judgements to deflect from the truth and blame each other.
“Oh black women are overweight.” Welp black men are overweight as well and lead in mortality rates for nearly all health disparities.
“Black women only want thugs” And some blacks men are just as delusional and only want to save strippers, hood rats, trifling chicks, or switch it up and only put non-blk chicks on a pedestal.
“Black women in debt.” Black men are also in debt and struggling economically.
“Some Black women are gay.” And some black men are gay as well either openly or on the DL.

Every complaint we make about black women can also be made about black men. So when all the mud-slinging against one another cancels each other out…we are still left with:

88 black men for every 100 black women in the U.S.
So for the women who made it beyond the statistics, who also aren’t interested in “divesting” (b/c they know the truth about non-blk men being just as bad if not 100 times worse), this is what they choose.

I have solutions for both genders in our community, but I doubt either side is going to be honest enough to accept them. This IS TLR of the Coli after all.