TheKongoEmpire
The First Men
I hear him. I don't "hate" children but I don't care enough about to sire them. If I were to become a father, I'm a disciplinarian.Hate children?
Y'all REALLY don't wanna get married brehs?
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Fill Collins
I didn't mean to verge!
No, I never really did, and for what? The most common justification I get from older brehs who want to get married usually goes like:
"You can run your own business while your wife cooks, cleans and takes care of your kids
"
A. I know a few small business owners, that shyt is stressful on the outside looking in and I want no part in that
B. Cooking and cleaning is shyt a child can do
C. I don't want kids
So why get married, brehs?
"You can run your own business while your wife cooks, cleans and takes care of your kids
"A. I know a few small business owners, that shyt is stressful on the outside looking in and I want no part in that
B. Cooking and cleaning is shyt a child can do
C. I don't want kids
So why get married, brehs?
Don't bytch about "the agenda" turning our boys gay and "bedwenches" if you ain't tryna become the man your potential bride wants to marry.
The fukk you look like talmbout "Get Married Brehs" only to catch feelings cuz CODY put a ring on it??You don't wanna get married, remember?
Scustin Bieburr
Baby baybee baybee UUUGH
I 'technically' was. I was in a common law area so after 2 years of cohabitation we were considered basically married. We filed taxes together, were on eachothers insurance policies, etc. When we split up we had to do all sorts of paperwork and confirm the date of our relationship ending and sign all of that shyt.
Marriage simply isn't something that makes any practical sense to me. 45% of marriages end in divorce, and over 70% of those divorces are initiated by women.
If I told you that if you applied for a job there was 45% chance you would get fired within the first month and a 70% chance that your boss would refuse to pay you, would that job be worth it to you? Do those odds sound worth it? Women select men for assets and earning power in addition to looks. What you put on the line is your financial, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. What they put on the line is...? Courts aren't keen to give fathers custody, they aren't keen to take the wife's wages and retirement money to give to the husband.
Nobody in my family has stayed married and in my friend group only one person is married and quite frankly I would never trade places with him. Whenever people ask about what the benefit to men of getting married is, people like to throw around buzz words like 'legacy' or 'stability' like those things aren't possible without the courts getting involved.
There's an old saying that goes something like "men enter a marriage expecting his wife not to change. Women enter a marriage expecting her husband to change. Both of them are wrong". People grow apart, their values and beliefs change, and events out of their control(health problems, death of a loved one, financial disarray due to shifting economy) can affect how they move and how they feel. Marriage takes the added stress of these events and then punishes you with alimony, lawyers fees, and custody battles. Its rare to hear about how a woman took a socioeconomic L from marriage, but ask the sons of divorced fathers what they witnessed or ask men over 40 whove been married and divorced how that turned out for them.
What’s your vision for relationships (if at all) after divorcing a common law?
Scustin Bieburr
Baby baybee baybee UUUGH
I still want to have a relationship, but im not willing to go crazy trying to get into one like I did in my 20s. I think a large part of why men get into relationships is because of social pressure and trying to experience what everyone else is doing. Once you get past that you start asking what it is that a woman brings into your life.
I'm enjoying being a bachelor. I have my own place with no roommates, I'm making money, I'm healthy, i have some friends with benefits/casual relationships. I'm on good terms with my friends and I'm enjoying life. I'm not ready to share my space unless its with someone who is bringing good energy to what I have going on and knows how to stay in her lane.
The women who I've met who meet that criteria have a man already and are 100% loyal to him and hold him down. The problem is, those women are more and more rare these days and men snatch them up immediately when they can.
Shyt is absolutely scary, but I’ll say this, if you’re going to marry, marry the fukk up. Stop looking at a pretty face and fat ass and start checking bank accounts. Make sure these women have just as much to lose. The women I know with good money don’t even want to get married because they not trying to lose their shyt in courtIt doesn’t matter what we have.. many married men have some sort of assets ie a home, vehicles, investments, savings etc.. get married get divorced and you gonna have to come up off a lot of that.
Imagine maxing out your 401k, Roth IRA, etc in preparation for retirement and your wife takes half or all of it? 20 years of work down the drain.
Plus you can only see your kids on the weekends or every other weekend. You can sign up for that shyt if you want
Why do I have to hire an attorney and spend tens of thousands of dollars to lose shyt I worked hard for and to see my kids???
I don’t deal with broke women, or women making significantly less than me. My main is 9 months away from completing nursing school and they are paying Registered nurses crazy money right now, especially traveling nurses(my mom is an RN and making $20K this month
). Once my girl gets on, her money will become my money 
,and she trust me 100% when it comes to finance. We gonna be good together or apart, but none of us walking away broke, that’s for damn sure.
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No.
now more than ever.
now more than ever.
SheWantTheD
Veteran
Definitely but she can easily say I don’t wanna go back to work especially after having children.Shyt is absolutely scary, but I’ll say this, if you’re going to marry, marry the fukk up. Stop looking at a pretty face and fat ass and start checking bank accounts. Make sure these women have just as much to lose. The women I know with good money don’t even want to get married because they not trying to lose their shyt in court
I don’t deal with broke women, or women making significantly less than me. My main is 9 months away from completing nursing school and they are paying Registered nurses crazy money right now, especially traveling nurses(my mom is an RN and making $20K this month
It’s a risk no matter what.
Very true. I think dudes who marry should establish that with their spouse early on by letting them know they WILL be working. Don’t let them guilt you into letting them stay home. Another reason to deal with women who have money, because most of them are ambitious and wouldn’t want to stay home anyway.
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I’m getting married this summer
Scustin Bieburr
Baby baybee baybee UUUGH
This is somewhat true. I can confirm this from having worked around nurses, but they usually come back to work at least part time after having a baby. Unless their man is insanely paid, like we talking 150k and up after taxes, they will come back but will not want to work full time until their child is old enough to be in extracurricular activities after school and can take the bus or walk back home on their own.
Work for 90% of people is hell. But women have a special advantage in that our culture tolerates a woman who isn't in the workforce but has ZERO patience for an unproductive male. You cant look at your girl and say "baby, I'm not really passionate about this work. I'm going to resign and take a year to find myself and go back to school" she'll laugh your ass right to the divorce lawyer. Women are not interested in financially supporting a man. Some men think it is their duty however to financially support their spouse or girlfriend and even think they're being masculine by doing so.