Y'all REALLY don't wanna get married brehs?
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Youseenmywork
KING
Jokes and fukkery aside
I don't mean RIGHT NOW.
Actually, I don't even think I mean the title
If YOU don't wanna get married then that's you, but to make it a campaign???We need marriage and strong black families... If you don't get that, then...
It's eitheror
And I'm not concerned with the
You fo realize it a campaign outside of the coli to not get married right . Like men have been walking away from marriage for at least the last 5yrs ...
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin
Superstar
Jokes and fukkery aside
I don't mean RIGHT NOW.
Actually, I don't even think I mean the title
If YOU don't wanna get married then that's you, but to make it a campaign???
It's either
And I'm not concerned with the
breh 99% of this board is nikkas fresh outta high school...in college....or fresh outta college
marriage and long term relationships should be the LAST thing on any of their minds
save marriage until you in your 40s
Youseenmywork
KING
What exactly does marriage offer men today? “Men know there’s a good chance they’ll lose their friends, their respect, their space, their sex life, their money and — if it all goes wrong — their family,” says Helen Smith, Ph.D., author of "Men on Strike." “They don’t want to enter into a legal contract with someone who could effectively take half their savings, pension and property when the honeymoon period is over.Men aren’t wimping out by staying unmarried or being commitment phobes. They’re being smart.”
Unlike women, men lose all power after they say “I do.” Their masculinity dies, too.
What’s left of it, that is. In the span of just a few decades, America has demoted men from respected providers and protectors of the family to superfluous buffoons. Today’s sitcoms and commercials routinely paint a portrait of the idiot husband whose wife is smarter and more capable than he.
There was a time when wives respected their husbands. There was a time when wives took care of their husbands as they expected their husbands to take care of them.
Or perhaps therein lies the rub. If women no longer expect or even want men to “take care of” them — since women can do everything men can do and better, thank you very much, feminism — perhaps the flipside is the assumption that women don’t need to take care of husbands, either. And if no one’s taking care of anyone, why the hell marry?
For women, the reason is obvious: kids. Eventually most women decide they want children, no matter how long they put it off to focus on their careers. So they often nab the best guy they can find, usually the one with whom they’re currently sleeping, and convince him to get married.
If the man refuses, we call him, as Smith notes, a “commitment phobe.” But is that fair? Perhaps these men know all too well that women initiate the vast majority of divorces — anywhere from 65-90 percent, depending on demographics. And when they do, they take the kids with them and hang hubby out to dry with the help of a court system that’s heavily stacked in their favor. In the past, Mom got the kids because she was home with them doing the thankless, unpaid, mountainous work associated with that role. Today, neither parent is home, so there’s no reason the default custodial parent should be Mom.
So remind me, why would a man marry today?
No, really. What’s in it for him?
Unlike women, men lose all power after they say “I do.” Their masculinity dies, too.
What’s left of it, that is. In the span of just a few decades, America has demoted men from respected providers and protectors of the family to superfluous buffoons. Today’s sitcoms and commercials routinely paint a portrait of the idiot husband whose wife is smarter and more capable than he.
There was a time when wives respected their husbands. There was a time when wives took care of their husbands as they expected their husbands to take care of them.
Or perhaps therein lies the rub. If women no longer expect or even want men to “take care of” them — since women can do everything men can do and better, thank you very much, feminism — perhaps the flipside is the assumption that women don’t need to take care of husbands, either. And if no one’s taking care of anyone, why the hell marry?
For women, the reason is obvious: kids. Eventually most women decide they want children, no matter how long they put it off to focus on their careers. So they often nab the best guy they can find, usually the one with whom they’re currently sleeping, and convince him to get married.
If the man refuses, we call him, as Smith notes, a “commitment phobe.” But is that fair? Perhaps these men know all too well that women initiate the vast majority of divorces — anywhere from 65-90 percent, depending on demographics. And when they do, they take the kids with them and hang hubby out to dry with the help of a court system that’s heavily stacked in their favor. In the past, Mom got the kids because she was home with them doing the thankless, unpaid, mountainous work associated with that role. Today, neither parent is home, so there’s no reason the default custodial parent should be Mom.
So remind me, why would a man marry today?
No, really. What’s in it for him?
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Take your time with them and get to know them and their family as much as possible. I didn’t do that, however I knew two weeks in I was going to marry her. Granted I got to know the ugly side two months later but it didn’t scare me off. Relationships are not for the scary.
BK The Great
Veteran
Yea for me to consider getting into a relationship let alone marry someone we will have to know everything about each other. It's a scary thought at times. Everything takes time, can't rush into something as serious as that.
LIKE WHAT?? These nyggas aint rich.. They aint gonna pay alimony and have to fork over a house to the ex spouse.. lmao
Most of what Coli nyggas would lose is a person paying half the rent with them.
What nyggas need to be scared of is child support.. But most nyggas just go into that all willy nilly.
But they are scared of marriage??... You cant make this shyt up
Youseenmywork
KING
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I want to get married, but I will not get pressured into it nor will I get desperate and just take anybody. If I find the right one great...otherwise I'll take being lonely in my 40-50's kowing the wrong decision would have me a lot worse off
I want kids and I want them in my house every day of the week. That's the only thing that makes me want marriage in the future more than the average guy right now. being a baby daddy doesn't appeal to me in any shape or form
I want kids and I want them in my house every day of the week. That's the only thing that makes me want marriage in the future more than the average guy right now. being a baby daddy doesn't appeal to me in any shape or form
Youseenmywork
KING
I want to get married, but I will not get pressured into it nor will I get desperate and just take anybody. If I find the right one great...otherwise I'll take being lonely in my 40-50's kowing the wrong decision would have me a lot worse off
I want kids and I want them in my house every day of the week. That's the only thing that makes me want marriage in the future more than the average guy right now. being a baby daddy doesn't appeal to me in any shape or form
whats worse off? like what?
On some real ish I don’t think you ever know everything about a person. There are some things you won’t learn about your partner until a situation arises. Sometimes there are things you don’t even know about yourself until you encounter an unwelcome experience.
It’s ok to be scared but don’t let the emotion rule you or cause you to miss out on a good thing.
BK The Great
Veteran
so at what age should you have kids? preferably