We are. I can speak to this with a couple of perspectives though.
#1. I'm a black male in the Chicagoland area that's getting it in. I'm about to move up to another job in a couple of weeks that if you were to tell a young Iceberg I'd be making that kind of money I'm about to be saying, I'd be like
. However, I'm forever on the grind and I'm putting in work. That said, a lot of us (black males) aren't doing that. nikkas still be wanting handouts. I can't plug you where I am if you don't have credentials and if you don't have those, I'm damn sure not going to put my name out there to vouch for yours.
Also, in teaching at a university for nearly 4 years, I see way more women in college than men. Right now, there is a 4:3 balance in women to men. That's actually the closest, by far, of a ratio that I've had. I ask them their goals and more often than not, women are appearing to strive to go higher.
I only have one friend that I'd put my name to. That is disheartening in itself. In every place I've been in the past half decade, I'm the only one with my skin and my sex. I'm putting that black man flag down everywhere I go.