they're saying basically what I said in my post. They find people who are too focused on their careers to be boring and unattractive and that is in fact true. Nobody wants to hear about all the shyt you're doing in the workplace on a date. Women like/don't mind hearing about workplace nonsense and are even usually the first to ask because as they get older, a man who has a good career becomes more important than a man with swag or looks because a good career represents security which women value more than anything.
Really anything that a woman is checking for in a man boils down to security. She probably asks:
-Is he physically strong enough to protect me?
-Is he mentally strong enough to not freak out when met with adversity? and keep me calm if I start to wild out?
-Does he plan things out, but can also improvise, so we don't end up in a fukked up situation?
-Is he smart enough to argue us out of a tough situation?
By asking about the career women can draw conclusions like that in a conversation. Men aren't really giving a shyt about that kind of stuff when it comes to women. Its more like:
-Is she smart enough to not get taken advantage of by someone
-Is she humble enough to not try to rub any accomplishments in my face/argue with me over stupid shyt
-Is she open minded?
-Is she not prone to flights of fancy and petty behaviour?
-Does the carpet match the drapes?