Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps

[No1]

True, but why do you think so many men fight against this, especially the ones that claim to have little to no success with women?

Because they see bum looking cacs with hoes.

 

[Sbp]

The prestige of the bottle girl

The crazy thing is that plumber is 10 times more valuable than the bottle girl.

 

[zerorequiem]

Step 1: Be attractive to women.

To be honest dating apps are an awful way to meet people.

 

[LordLyons]

True, but why do you think so many men fight against this, especially the ones that claim to have little to no success with women?

Honest question. Who is fighting against the bolded? Most of that stuff he listed is basic. Dressing well isn't too advanced. Working out isn't too much. I don't think you have to be a bodybuilder to attract women. Basic exercise and diet management to make sure you're in shape isn't too much. And neither is having a lineup and facial hair. That's basic grooming and hygiene.

I would argue that there's a good portion of men who do all of the above and have to settle for bottom of the barrel women. Single moms. Overweight women.

 

[The ADD]

Honest question. Who is fighting against the bolded? Most of that stuff he listed is basic. Dressing well isn't too advanced. Working out isn't too much. I don't think you have to be a bodybuilder to attract women. Basic exercise and diet management to make sure you're in shape isn't too much. And neither is having a lineup and facial hair. That's basic grooming and hygiene.

I would argue that there's a good portion of men who do all of the above and have to settle for bottom of the barrel women. Single moms. Overweight women.

Are they really “settling” for long term relationships with single moms and overweight women? That seems like a reach in terms of not wanting those things at all and ending up with them.

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

Illusion (and in some occasions the reality) of choice. Women will generally have a considerably larger number of potential suitors

men don’t usually go into dating thinking about nor ruling women out because of their finances, height, popularity/active social life etc. Being relatively attractive tends to be the filter most used by men - and that’s a lower barrier of entry than the filters women use.

With the imbalance of access to sex - women can afford to be more particular and specific about what they want, whereas a significant number of men employ a “spray and pray”/numbers approach to dating.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

The crazy thing is that plumber is 10 times more valuable than the bottle girl.

to whom though?

 

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

i feel sorry for you brehs who missed the golden age of apps before the algorithm changes and push for subscriptions / monetization.

It was truly a magical time when they first came out.

I’m out of the game now but there’s no point being on anything now besides Hinge from what I see

 

[Vandelay]

I watched. I can agree. Dudes, we sometimes swipe on everything in desperation for how bad the app makes us feel. And because girl's queue gets overloaded and they never get to Ideally go through every profile. Gives them an inaccurate sense of demand... well, maybe not inaccurate but misguided or overinflated. It's an inverse correlation relationship.

Dudes need to stop swiping on everything because it makes it worse. I believe the algorithms will downgrade your profile when do that as well.

I still contend dudes makes trash profiles too.

 

[Braman]

When you learn that dating app algorithms are tuned for the validation of female egos then you can adjust your expectations

Also they want people to buy premium accounts.....and surprise surprise who do you think those premium accounts with the extra features are geared towards......men who are willing to pay for them

I paid for premium on Hinge and it was damn near an addiction I literally couldn’t engage all my matches if I wanted to.

The way I look at it is what used to be the breeding ground to get bytches? The club. You go once a week $20 cover plus a drink or two youre at MINIMUM spending $150+ a month

Well I don’t do clubs anymore so yes, yes I will absolutely pay an extra $9.99 a month for unlimited swipes.

The experience on apps when you have limited swipes vs unlimited is night and day.

 

[Ahadi]

Met my wife on an app, I was doing ok while on there. I was in my late 20s at the time, I think once you start getting near 30 it gets a lot better for men. I know it did for me. My wife's single, 30+ friends ask me all the time if I have single friends or coworkers I can introduce them to.

Yeah cause they’re leftover, rushing to grab just anybody.

 

[Ahadi]

this is the secret sauce to dating apps hell dating in general,, focus on the women who like you first.. women control the sexual market, and as a man it don't matter who you like as much as who likes you, the type of women I'm diggin are the women who dig me before anything else is considered..!

to @010101..! Not saying he has the same view as me,, but his posts did help me learn this for myself a few years ago..!

+ if she messages you first.

You’re in.

If you find yourself having to do a lot of the heavy lifting, dip.

 

[tay1]

They made a 9 minute video to highlight that nikkas have no game, are ugly fat/washed, and women get an excessive amount of attention

 

[Justin Nitsuj]

shyt is too transactional. these women nowadays ain’t looking for the good brother to build a future with, they looking for what a man can do for them right now without doing the bare minimum.

and if you actually find a traditional woman in today’s world, do whatever you can to keep her. it ain’t shyt out here.

 

[getmoney310cpt]

shyt is too transactional. these women nowadays ain’t looking for the good brother to build a future with, they looking for what a man can do for them right now without doing the bare minimum.

and if you actually find a traditional woman in today’s world, do whatever you can to keep her. it ain’t shyt out here.