Why Isn't Your FWB or Casual Sex Partner Your Girlfriend?

[Larry Lambo]

So you are saying that you have to somewhat like your fwb? If you have to be compatible with your fwb or like her personality, then why isn't she your gf or someone you're dating instead of just fcking?

Same reasons as I said before.

If I'm 30 years old and I meet a nice looking 44 year old woman with a cool personality, that's a FWB. I'm not wifing and I'm not making her my girl, she just a lady to kick it with and get intimate with.

Same thing with a chick with 3 kids. Same thing with a buttaface, chubby cute chick, a ratchet, etc.

The fact that I might "kinda" like her personality doesn't take away those relationship dealbreakers.

I think it's hard for many women to understand is because women don't make concessions when it comes who they have casual sex with. Most times the concession is casual sex, not the person they do it with. Sometimes they do have sex with guys they know aren't good long term material but they are choosing to do that on purpose instead of being relegated to that.

Now there are some guys that might try to have casual sex with every woman regardless of their "potential". I don't. If she doesn't have any dealbreakers, I'll pursue on a more serious level, and she will have to show me why she does not make a good long term prospect. But some women just don't have the qualifications for wifey to begin with, but they can serve a function as someone to sleep with.

 

[peppe]

when i had that situation it was mutual we only fukked each other and thats it

keep it simple

This is a recipe for failure, that's how me and my girl started out. 10 years later still together should have known something was up when she told me we fukk exclusively which is basically a relationship but I was happy for the constant p*ssy and was like turns out she's that ride or die chick

 

[DamienWayne]

Not attractive enough to cuff

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

U clearly dont know what ur talking about. Arent u a smart know it all? Why did u ask if u wanna tell us what we want? Use ur logic and realize men dont operate like women do.Ur trying to rationalize around this, stop it. If a woman is attractive enough to fukk and cool enough but has too many red flags, has kids, is a hoe , not cute enough to be seen in public with etc then once we make u fwb u are staying there. We will fukk u but never truly give a fukk about u in a romantic way. We seperate sex from emotion.


I know this is a research question for u probably because ur in this predicament and u want us to tell u what u want to hear. Well Im here to tell u, theres a 95% chance it will never work. Let him go.

/thread

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

i don't play favorites....with any of them

 

[wickedsm]

Old dudes commit quicker because they are desperate but its one of the flimsiest unions out there:

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Handy charts for future coli threads

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

She's inconsiderate and always got her hand out. As a man, I don't mind taking care of most of the financials, however, this girl don't ever chip in on nothing when we hang out, but always asking for shyt. At least tip, bytch, damn . I can already imagine the headache I'd be dealing with if I ever got her pregnant

You soft as hell breh. A friend with benefits is giving you these problems? Hand outs? No nikka!

I've had these arrangements and literally all we did was fukk. We might grab some drinks or food and back to fukking. No handouts tho. We split those bills. They come over with a bottle and something to smoke.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

You like her enough to talk to her frequently, listen to her, have xes with her, go out sometimes ect. So why isn't she your gf?

Cause why be tied down if I don't have to be

You getting all of the good with none of the bad. You getting girlfriend benefits and when she try to make you step up and do boyfriend things, you tell her you're not her boyfriend.

 

[Kings County]

Most men will fukk anything even if they won't wife it.

Cause men are animals. Like dogs.

Male Dogs don't give a fukk bout bytch appearance or breed, they down to fukk.

They'll fukk yo leg.

thats a lie
i dont fukk anything over 170 pounds
with missing teeth or with acne
her face gotta be at least a 7 lol
this a myth
ugly girls get fukked cause they got ass

 

[TinFoilSnapBack]

So are you saying you only saw her as a fwb until after those 2-3 weeks when you got to know her?

How about you ask her to be your gf before you fck her? What if you fck her and she doesn't want to be your gf, but you're already attached?

No. Chicks have potential to be FWB status or wifey status, until they show which one they are. The vast majority fall into the former category, and not the latter. I never looked at her as a FWB, but I didn't look at her as a gf candidate until very recently.

Listen to this Patrice O'Neal clip from 09:00 until the end.


"p*ssy is not all I want unless that's all you got."
"p*ssy is like the wheels on a car."

We, as men, want to fukk you either way. Fukking is the prerequisite. However, that is not ALL we want. I do want a companion, but I'm not just gonna wife up some basic broad with nothing to offer besides her twat.

To answer your final question, I would love to make her my gf, because I'm really into her. I would be disappointed if she didn't want that, but I would not be mad at just getting some ass, though .

 

[intruder]

You like her enough to talk to her frequently, listen to her, have xes with her, go out sometimes ect. So why isn't she your gf?

*lays down on therapist couch*

Well breh... I cant front this woman is good to me. SHe does things like

1. Comes over
2. fukks me
3. Buys me groceries with her own money
4. Feeds me
5. fukks me again
6. Sucks me off
7. Then LEAVES

I feel bad that i dont want her as my GF because i want my next GF to be the person that will be my wife. However I want my wife to be the woman that im passionate about. THe woman that i feel i cant be without. I want to be in love. Dont get me wrong i appreciate her and could say part of me loves her but im not in love with her. I need that infatuation part of love.
And i just dont feel that way about her.

 

[ball15life]

She has 2 kids

 

[surv2syn]

only had 2 serious girlfriends in my life. the last one I married.

had countless FWB's

some because they were white

some because they were crazy in the head

some because they were hoez/thotz

some because they werent the most attractive but the p*ssy was

 

[Prince Mongo]

I know most of y'all don't use condoms, so why are you sleeping with women who you don't even like and would never be with? Especially without a condom?

Most of these nikkas on here be capping their about sexual experiences in general

 

[Prince Mongo]

What kind of questions is that? You really are thinking we are idiots. What men don't have the mental power to put a girl in girlfriend category or not? Most fwb are just that fwb. Either they are a hoe, mentally unstable, bum bytch who will fukk for drugs or someone that isn't attractive enough to be girlfriend material.

What kinda nikka are you if you're fukking bytches who fukk for drugs, especially on a regular basis? You're being disingenuous if you think you and the hoe wouldn't be one in the same