Why Isn't Your FWB or Casual Sex Partner Your Girlfriend?

Larry Lambo

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U clearly dont know what ur talking about. Arent u a smart know it all? Why did u ask if u wanna tell us what we want? Use ur logic and realize men dont operate like women do.Ur trying to rationalize around this, stop it. If a woman is attractive enough to fukk and cool enough but has too many red flags, has kids, is a hoe , not cute enough to be seen in public with etc then once we make u fwb u are staying there. We will fukk u but never truly give a fukk about u in a romantic way. We seperate sex from emotion.


I know this is a research question for u probably because ur in this predicament and u want us to tell u what u want to hear. Well Im here to tell u, theres a 95% chance it will never work. Let him go.

If you go on the female messageboards you see this question a lot.

A female 6/10 will throw the P at a male 8/10 and hopes that he gets so sprung and falls in love with her level of cooperation/cooking/sloppy toppy that it turns into a relationship. Although I've seen that this is rarely beneficial to the woman, I also realize that they are biologically programmed to behave this way so that she can be fertilized by the highest value male possible.

Throughout history, society has instituted various mechanisms to prevent this from happening in favor of the more sustainable family structure with "even" partners, but the biological urge is still there. The ones that have been reared to place a high priority on family and having a long term partner usually can overcome their instinctual urges and make a rational decision to be receptive to men on their level. However, there's a lot of women that weren't raised that way and don't place enough priority on finding a long term mate, so they continue to sign up to be side pieces, jumpoffs, and fwb, in search of that male with superior dna to mate with, and then hope that he magically decides to wife them.
 

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Either they are a hoe, mentally unstable, bum bytch who will fukk for drugs or someone that isn't attractive enough to be girlfriend material.
Why would you fukk with a woman who meets any of these criteria? Are you that desperate for a nut that you would fukk with a drug addict :picard: :wtf:
 

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@InquisitiveHeaux I read halfway through.

Honey I like your questions with the brehs but sometimes people do things that just don't make sense.

People not only do things that don't make sense but they do things out of selfishness.

All you need to focus on is making sure the guy who court you is genuinely interested. It won't be easy but it's possible.

Like @Hennessypapi said most of the time men actually have their mind made up at "hey". They can change their mind and "get to know you better" etc. but understand some of them mean getting to know your vagina not YOU and they will drag shyt out like its progress and it won't be.

You have to vet as thorough as you can (which again can be tricky) but if you was to fail the first time. Keep your partners minimum and enjoy life. Don't become bitter. We all get played.

Remember in every relationships, from family to romantic people will look out for their own interest.

And again people will do things that doesn't make sense but has interest.
 

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With my first friend with benefits, I haven't cuffed because she lacks ambition, big time. I feel connected to her, because she gave me her virginity, but she is very naive due to being so sheltered growing up. The lack of ambition is the biggest thing stopping me though, I need a chick that is willing to go out there and get it to take herself to the next level.

With my second friend with benefits, I'm not with her because I feel like she is only with me because she feels like I would be a good role model to her son. She has hinted at it a couple of times.

With my third friend with benefits, she is horrible with managing her money. No offense to anyone, but she also likes to do a lot of CAC s***, and puts off a bedwench-ey vibe sometimes. She's also going to be moving four hours away for engineering job in Savannah.

With my last friend with benefits, she didn't tell me she was married when we met each other, which caused me to cut her off. However, we started back messing with each other because she got divorced a couple of months ago. I would go over her place to smash, she said that her and her husband have been separated for years, and don't live together, but you know how that goes.

A lot of women that are friends with benefits with us with claim that we ain't s*** for not getting with you guys, but that's not the problem. The problem is that we don't tell you what your flaws are, so you just thinking that you're the perfect woman. In reality, we just keep this s*** to ourselves because the truth doesn't get us the p***y.
 

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I hear you brehs.:mjcry:
Some of these fuglies be sitting on some gold-mine type p*ssy while the cuties be having they whack shyt

probably the best chick ever for me on a consistent basis...never, ever hit and not bust after 100 hits maybe. would never be seen with her in person. she is big and she is extremely plain looking in the face. if you saw her out in the street you would never think about looking twice. just plain ole maid looking. (when she dresses she is ok, but nothing great). we would look like the odd couple in person. they stay wet because we make them feel attractive. she just told me recently that she hasnt had sex in over a year. :snoop:
 

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Cuz shes a thot
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What I don't get is why women are playing dumb. Nobody is getting used for sex from a FWB. This isn't a one night stand

If it's MONTHS and YEARS in... he still hasn't tried to make it official and he says no every time you try to make it official... then you as an adult, know exactly what it is. You have the power to walk away, make demands, or simply say no more sex, only friends.

Men keep you as a fukk buddy cause you let them. Ain't no mind control or psychological manipulation going on. You know what it is, your girls know what it is, the men you ain't fukking have explained, and everyone you ask tells you the same

And yet you still do it. You want to be there
 
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