Why do so many men not take care of their kids?

[filial_piety]

i mean, @thereheis is basically calling these women flat out whores. i'm not even doing that. i'm just saying they make shytty choices when they do decide to spread for a nikka.

It's the unfiltered cold reality that few will admit to lol...

I have a friend/associate, who's now 40 and racking up numbers like Hank Aaron...and you would never know it just by looking at her...she has her "own", is sexually liberal/independent...she 'dates' very often...now all of this 'dating' could lead to a birth...and lord knows how many abortions...

 

[BeBorn]

This is no easy answer because it could be a bunch of reasons.....I'm 32 out west lawndale area so I'll speak on what i've seen and been thru....first off none of these kids are planned most of the time it just happen in the heat of passion...and all that could use protection sh1?t...going raw is a double edge sword....I know I don't want kids ever but I'm shooting up clubs like shyne in 99....it upsets me to no end waiting on periods or finding out they popped off but it was my homies kids because she was a big slut...wtf
are we talking nikkaz or men?
Nikkas just wanna fukk and have fun....men about handling business and all that...most males don't want out of wedlock kids and the women they seeded up ain't wife material...they have no outs....celebrity or lame...women make the final call on that....if nikkas could push the eject button they would..
plus the whole destruction of the black family....babies having babies looking for love loving losers....most the nikkas I know with kids love them and take care of them but despise they BM if they ain't still with them....but my brother is married and has a daughter that he hasn't seen since she was a baby and she should be around 12 now...but that because the mother left without ever telling and never tried to get back in contact with him...this sh1t ain't cut and dry...alot of.nikkas don't wanna take care of shyt they own self if they didn't have to...plus add in the factor most people are struggling as is so a mouth to feed is no blessing to some....judge of character or whatever doesn't really matter because you won't even know the true self of a person till sh1t gets real...
it's a nikkas life

 

[Blackout]

Breh

minus all this talk breh, I live in Berlin, we have a high HIV % among blacks. I used strap up regardless breh, when I was single, I always strapped up with hoes.

I hope you're the same breh

Breh I hope ur not fukking every hoe off the street raw and waiting for her to ask for condoms

I always strap up but thats just me.

I cant control all of these men which is why I need women to do their part and make any immature man who they have sex with wear condoms.

Are you saying men are child like in mind that they can't deduce I don't want to or have no resources to raise a child therefore I need to put on a condom? They need a woman to tell them that?

"Running the dating game" has nothing to do with an adult being responsible for their safety and not having a child. Each adult is responsible for their own actions. Both parties.

Yes "some" of these men are child like and immature.

I agree that both are responsible but thats just me, you and a few other smart people.

The rest are immature.

So if a woman makes a choice to have sex with an immature male she should take the necessary precautions which will stop those immature men from doing what they do.

 

[Raava]

You honestly believe that dead beats arent addressed and shamed by society, celebrities and general media?

I am talking about this thread.

 

[rogue_riezo]

Are you saying men are child like in mind

Yes.

I'm not saying that it's the womans responsibility to provide the condom but chances are the guy would move forward with no condom if she doesn't stop him and ensure it's on.

 

[Raava]

I always strap up but thats just me.

I cant control all of these men which is why I need women to do their part and make any immature men who they have sex with wear condoms.


Yes "some" of these men are child like and immature.

I agree that both are responsible but thats just me, you and a few other smart people.

The rest are immature.

So if a woman makes a choice to have sex with an immature male she should take the necessary precautions.

Everybody should be responsible for themselves and the repercussions that come forthwith.

 

[Raava]

Yes.

I'm not saying that it's the womans responsibility to provide the condom but chances are the guy would move forward with no condom if she doesn't stop him and ensure it's on.

That doesn't negate his responsibility or give him pass to run out.

 

[Rawtid]

and this is exactly what i'm talking about. you're just being more procedural about it, but most BW just want the seed; who cares about where it comes from.

with more BW choosing to use legitimate sperm banks, how could y'all still turn around and blame absent fathers?

I personally feel there are more black men who would walk away from the situation, than step up and co-parent. So because I feel this way, I would rather not even deal with knowing who the father is. I'm not saying that's the RIGHT way to think but that's just how I feel. It's natural for a woman to want to have children but at the same time most do not want to raise them alone and I don't feel I'm the norm.

Also on the flip side, I don't feel a woman should keep a child from it's father...EVER for any reason.

 

[Blackout]

Everybody should be responsible for themselves and the repercussions that come forthwith.

They should but this world isnt perfect so many are not.

Therefore we must act accordingly to protect ourselves from them.

 

[filial_piety]

And dare I say...in the black community...believe it or not....there is a very strong resistence to having a male dominate the household at any cost...

In otherwords, some of these [black] women get pregnant on purpose with no intention of ever including the father....because she aint about to have 'no man' tell her how to raise her child...

 

[Raava]

They should but this world isnt perfect so many are not.

Therefore we must act accordingly to protect ourselves from them.

You keep wanting to shuffle blame mostly to the woman. We are going to have to agree to disagree friend.

 

[chief_keef_stan]

nah your mom was a hoe. thats why you was born with herpes on your forehead.

hoes tryna call ppl out dafuk
who be gassin these bytches sit your dusty ass down

 

[rogue_riezo]

That doesn't negate his responsibility or give him pass to run out.

It wasn't meant to negate his responsibility, there were 2 people in that bed. One did it, one allowed it to happen. Both need to accept the responsibility, unfortunately for the woman she is often the one that has to bear the consequences alone.

 

[marcuz]

I personally feel there are more black men who would walk away from the situation, than step up and co-parent. So because I feel this way, I would rather not even deal with knowing who the father is. I'm not saying that's the RIGHT way to think but that's just how I feel. It's natural for a woman to want to have children but at the same time most do not want to raise them alone and I don't feel I'm the norm.

Also on the flip side, I don't feel a woman should keep a child from it's father...EVER for any reason.

you typed all that and still didn't answer my question. lets try this again.

with more women choosing legitimate sperm banks. who will y'all have to blame when these kids turn out "less than ideal"? are you going to claim its still our faults cus nikkas didn't want to "step up" and co-parent another mans kid? or do you accept full, 100% responsibility for your choices

 

[Taadow]

That doesn't negate his responsibility or give him pass to run out.

I agree with that.

Now - say he doesn't "run out", but rather is "pushed out" by the mother. What kind of sense does that make?