No. Did you miss the following:
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We were a vanilla family, which was fine with me. We had two beautiful boys, now 11 and 16, and had typical dinners out and vacations up and down the coast of California and to visit S’ family."
"Had you asked me two years ago if I ever imagined S would cheat on me"
"My wife, to put it bluntly, was a cold fish in bed throughout our nearly two decades of marriage"
He's bragging about what women normally brag about. A vanilla family, kids, and trips up and down the coast.
For whatever reason, he wasn't on the same wavelength and didn't really understand what he was dealing with. Since we do we act like nerds have a great understanding of social dynamics and relationships?
Yea. Stay with this antiquated nonsense if you want to. First, he was struggling (financially) for years, so lets take money out of it.
Having or making money isn't a substitute for personality and social skills ("game") and keeping yourself in decent/good shape.
If you believe money is the cure all, just admit you're a trick and call it a day. Women want security, yes, but gone are the days where you can hold women in an emotionless relationship because you have a house and a car.
And you sound like a trick.
I agree with this. She was selfish as well.
She's not the one writing long ass victim narratives though, he is.
You're almost agreeing with me, but saying it in a different way. In order for women to play that role, you have to be the type of dude who satisfies them physically, emotionally, and sexually. Who anticipates their needs (not wants, needs), and who understands the person you're dealing with.
Most importantly, you have to set boundaries and expectations from the
beginning. You have to believe in yourself and your value from the
start. He obviously didn't.
Again, this proves my point. He should have been tapping into that side of her, he clearly wasn't.
She didn't want to lose her marriage and family, but she didn't want to live a passionless life.
Eh, "cock carousel?" Who uses phrases like that? Oh yea, dudes having trouble keeping women around.
Have you ever been in a relationship or even a long-term friendship? All of them grow stale, all of them become less exciting; you have to put in work, real work and effort in order to keep them going. People adjust, grow, and meta-morph, matter of fact, anyone worth kicking it with
is doing these things on a consistent basis.
It is what it is, but making it work requires effort from both sides. She was "selfish" in a way, but he obviously was as well. There are no victims here except the children. These are grown adults who got together and brought along their insecurities, weaknesses, and complexes; it didn't work out.
I agree, but
again, this is sort of my point. If he was this type of dude
to begin with she likely wouldn't have cheated like that. Instead he was the type of dude to beg her for sex and brag about living the "vanilla" lifestyle.
Yes, I said it without irony too.
Have you ever been around Silicon Valley or the tech community? Lot of squares, lot of autism (which is just a huge lack of social skills), lot of loserish behavior. And to some degree this is alright if you fit in or you're too young to really understand, but as you get older, you value and respect personalities, opinions, points-of-view, and so on.
You're a spec of dust but have the ability to do some amazing things during your time on this planet. Guys are losers and squares so they attempt to rationalize it using their work. Like, "oh I'm too busy for that other stuff."
It's funny though, because guys like Feynman and Einstein found ways to be interesting, to have personalities, to have opinions, to not live a "vanilla" lifestyle.
nikkas are just boring and don't want to change.
You're over here
for a grown ass man.