Literally reacting to the first few seconds of the first video and what I read: no matter how old I get, I will never soften on this.
Always check the CarFax. You don't take a car to a dealership with VIP service if they are used to Jiffy Lube. If you gotta pay, make sure thats her baseline, cause its never good to buy a game and someone else got the pre-order bonuses already. Treat them exactly how they like to be treated or leave them alone. Trying to civilize/upgrade a chick is how you end up feeding her and kissing her cheek while she goes and gets her back blown to bits. You paying for the toes to get done and Darren is sucking them later

you give her cash and she treats the other man. Reward the dutiful and serve the others the same burger they normally get.