Sorry but as a black women who has dated non-black men since high school my experience has been the complete opposite of what you have suggested. There are a few things that I want to address in your post that highlight the larger issue of interracial relations between WM/BW and the reaction of the black community. Your comments are based on your own biases and reflect your low opinion of the desirability of black women.
1) I have NEVER been called a "black bytch", "N-word", "C-word" by a white guy. I would never date or be in a relationship with any guy who would disrespect a woman in that manner. But I will say that I have been called a "bytch" more in the past few months since being on this site then I ever have in my life.
2) In my experience I have always been protected, supported and included by the non-black men in my life and their families. I have travelled and gone on family vacations with my boyfriend's family. I have lifelong friendships and connections with many of these people.
3) Contrary to the popularly held belief of paranoid black men, white guys aren't talking about you. They aren't thinking about you. You aren't really a factor. You are not a topic of discussion. I think that many black guys feel that white guys who are with black women are bashing them because that's what black men do when they are with non-black women.
But I would like to address something else in your post which is the overall attitude that (in your opinion) black women aren't desirable so we should just deal with whatever black men decide we should be. This attitude is far worse than any derogatory comment a non-black man could hurl at a black woman. In your effort to make your point you have diminished the black woman as a desirable object of femininity and that is the problem. There was no LOVE for black women in your post but it was tinged with a certain disdain that is reserved for an unwanted stray cat.
The marriage rate between WM/BW has been low not because white men aren't approaching black women but because MANY BW flatly rebuff the advances of WM. Many black women in the past would never consider a not black man as a romantic partner but this is changing.
The marriage rates between white men and black women are increasing (I will post stats when I have the time to source) and out of all interracial marriage pairings, WM/BW marriages are the most stable. WM/BW marriages are also more stable than ALL same race pairings with the exception of Asian men/Asian woman (
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1741-3729.2008.00491.x/p
So you firmly believe that insulting black women and our desirability is beneficial? I feel really sorry for the black women who will read what you wrote and co-sign in agreement.
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You do realize if 99% of a given ethnicity is racist that means the women are racist too. I never understood the mentality that the majority of racists in the world are men and the women are just by standards. There are more than plenty of racist women in this world, however unlike the men they are just more covert with it. What's sad is how many black men are willing to look past that to get their dikk wet. 
) and many black men don't have a problem being fetishized for obvious reasons.
If black women had the option, they would be hopping over the fence to get with non-black men. And as for non-black people like 
