What's the point of getting married in 2013?

[King Poetic]

As a single man today how can u get married, when u run into chicks who have 2,3,4,5, and even 6 kids..

How can any man married a chick with that much baggage. why married a woman who has kids and sits up and tell u she don't want any more.. so u can't give me any kids but i have to take care of yourS... GTFOH

 

[GoPro]

For some reason, some how, I know I'm gon find me a good one . And I'ma have to lock her down. Call it a leap of faith. To me, a life without kids or a spouse is an empty one.

 

[Deflatedhoopdreams]

I don't know. I don't want to deal with the same bytch everyday.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

• If you want to create a legally binding (not really) contract with someone for the sake of your kids.
• If you want a government contract to facilitate your loving relationship with someone.
• If you're absurdly worried about someone leaving you without said contract.

Men not wanting to marry seems to piss women off quite a bit. If a man doesn't want kids or to tie himself into a relationship with someone, there isn't a reason for men to get married. The reason that that women hate the idea of the men of generation Y going into a "marriage strike" is because it seriously puts a damper on their future life plans. But seriously, think about it: Why should a man want marriage and children? Are you going to shame men into thinking that they're not real men for not bending themselves to your views and society's view on how they should live their lives? Why not just live on your own, travel, and have many relationships with many women? Why not devote that energy to your career? Why should a man devote himself to a home life when he wants to commit himself to other plans? Why do any of these things if you don't want to? What is so special about this government contract that that women seem to value so much that it makes them angry when men refuse to adhere to it? Women have way more to gain and very little to lose from a divorce. It's why they initiate 75% of divorces, but before proposals, they whine about men's inability to commit to a marriage. It's essentially gambling half of everything you'll own that you'll actively love each other forever.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

 

[Reckless]

no clue, maybe people don't want to wait until 2014?

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Marriage like anything is a partnership... its not for everybody, but when it works its great

The problem with marriage isn't even marriage... its the dialogue surrounding it. You have people who profit from negativity. You have people unable to own up to their own failures and blaming everything from Facebook to feminism for their fukk ups and inadequacies. You have people with clear emotional issues jumping on soapboxes one way or the other. I'm more scared for young people trying to find themselves in all this madness than marriage. shyt is fukked up out there

 

[Street Knowledge]

i won't argue that point because it's true. but the point is people are avoiding commitment in general because marriage was traditionally thought of as the last step in a relationship. i don't think it's the case that people are just not marrying and choosing people to spend their whole lives with instead...

That's my whole point bruh. What's the married man getting that I can't?

Sex? children? Companionship?... What?

Women are offering all of that today without the ring

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

• If you want to create a legally binding (not really) contract with someone for the sake of your kids.
• If you want a government contract to facilitate your loving relationship with someone.
• If you're absurdly worried about someone leaving you without said contract.

Men not wanting to marry seems to piss women off quite a bit. If a man doesn't want kids or to tie himself into a relationship with someone, there isn't a reason for men to get married. The reason that that women hate the idea of the men of generation Y going into a "marriage strike" is because it seriously puts a damper on their future life plans. But seriously, think about it: Why should a man want marriage and children? Are you going to shame men into thinking that they're not real men for not bending themselves to your views and society's view on how they should live their lives? Why not just live on your own, travel, and have many relationships with many women? Why not devote that energy to your career? Why should a man devote himself to a home life when he wants to commit himself to other plans? Why do any of these things if you don't want to? What is so special about this government contract that that women seem to value so much that it makes them angry when men refuse to adhere to it? Women have way more to gain and very little to lose from a divorce. It's why they initiate 75% of divorces, but before proposals, they whine about men's inability to commit to a marriage. It's essentially gambling half of everything you'll own that you'll actively love each other forever.

What is so hard for you to understand about the idea that there are men who want to settle down and live a family life?

 

[Street Knowledge]

What is so hard for you to understand about the idea that there are men who want to settle down and live a family life?

You can do that without the ring breh breh

But I understand what your saying

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

What is so hard for you to understand about the idea that there are men who want to settle down and live a family life?

I can see that there are men that want it. It's just that I don't want it for myself so I'm tired of being shamed for it.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

You can do that without the ring breh breh

But I understand what your saying

I mean there is a lot of shyt people do that I don't understand. But it doesn't affect me, so I don't dwell on it or talk about it. A lot of single "happy" dudes are obsessed with marriage. It makes no sense to me. If you are living your life and doing your thing, why dwell on something as awful and pointless as marriage?

In my experience the people who dwell on this shyt are nowhere near as happy or eligible as they claim to be. You can see it here just with the types of posters who talk about this shyt on a regular basis.

I can see that there are men that want it. It's just that I don't want it for myself so I'm tired of being shamed for it.

What married people here have shamed you for not wanting to get married?

 

[Jahmal]

i wanna see these rates people keep talking about. if half marriages end up in divorce (like people say they do) what's the deal with these other married couples that haven't gotten divorced? how come we never hear their story or how they managed to survive?

Of the 50% of people that stay married , many of them would love to get divorced but stay because of the kids or financial reasons.I cant imagine being stuck in a loveless relationship just because I have kids. That would be hell!

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

I mean there is a lot of shyt people do that I don't understand. But it doesn't affect me, so I don't dwell on it or talk about it. A lot of single "happy" dudes are obsessed with marriage. It makes no sense to me. If you are living your life and doing your thing, why dwell on something as awful and pointless as marriage?

In my experience the people who dwell on this shyt are nowhere near as happy or eligible as they claim to be. You can see it here just with the types of posters who talk about this shyt on a regular basis.



What married people here have shamed you for not wanting to get married?

You don't know them, and it doesn't matter.

 

[bzb]

That's my whole point bruh. What's the married man getting that I can't?

Sex? children? Companionship?... What?

commitment and fulfillment.

Women are offering all of that today without the ring

not exactly. they'll have your azz in the wic office or child support court as soon as you get out of line...