I've dated almost every race of girls and my first girlfriend was half korean/half white, I'm a black guy but these are my experiences:
-I feel like a lot of black women are culturally "out of the loop" in terms of what they should look for in a guy.
-A lot of families grow up without a father so the women have daddy issues. Then when the father is home, he will often spoil her to death and give her a "princess complex" out of a sense of not being a "deadbeat" dad.
-Materialism is also rampant in the black community, especially with our women(A neauveau rich trait) which ironically is why so many have trouble building any sort of REAL wealth or power.
-Some black women refuse to ask what men see in other women but assume it's simply because of race.
-The whole single mother"I don't need no man!" black male bashing movement doesn't attract men. A large chunk of white guys HATE feminist with a passion and white makes are a lot less traditional than black men about gender roles. You do the math.
I think it's good for women to have an ideal salary because you don't want to marry a 35 year old broke, aspiring rapper. Okay, we all get it. Instead of looking for a salary, black women should be looking for "qualities" in men. Most women of other races do this but black women typically look for money and assume qualities instead of the other way around. Instead of looking for guys that make 80K+, they should be looking for guys that are honest, funny, genuine, a healthy self-esteem, ambitious, respectful, hard working, altruistic, responsible, etc because people with those traits typically go off to do things with their lives because they have a good head on their shoulders.
I have black male friends that were passed over because black women wrote them off as "cornballs" or "lames" who are now making 50K+ mid twenties at the very beginning of their careers with plenty of room to move up doing something they love. Some of them are still holding out for black women, some succeeded and others moved on and found happiness outside of their race.
Most women of other races know how to do this but quite a few black women don't want to build with a guy and date someone because of his character/personality. They date for status and money. It's weird because I know really hot white girls that date temporarily broke white guys coming up that had those qualities and rode it out with them because they knew the boyfriend had qualities that would lead to having a successful career and 99% of the time, the guy did. Because of this, the women had a college educated husband with a good career, kids and a nice starter home by the time they hit 30. No worrying about a biological clock, no worrying about settling down, no worrying about finances, etc. Usually the couple has a much greater grasp on personal finance so they aren't living paycheck to paycheck. SOME black women don't want to build or hear that because it's not as easy as simply marrying a rich guy.
When I date outside of my race, the woman usually tells me it's because they thought I was cute, funny, confident, I made them laugh, they always had fun around me and I'm such a sweet guy. They loved the fact that I was smart too. You know, traits that typically make good fathers and providers. I almost NEVER hear that when black women choose to date someone. I'm not turning this into a black woman bashing ceremony because there are a lot of good black women who are passed over or simply need a healthy boost of self esteem and weightloss but the amount of delusion some black women have is often intolerable. It's also why I see a lot of African immigrant americans who come here dating the motherly redheaded white woman who's a school teacher making 35K because she's a lot more wife material than the angry, materialistic, overweight, aggressive black girl pulling 80K with attitude problem like the whole world owes her something.
P.S. Most dudes don't care about how many degrees you have regardless of race. Quite a few black women love throwing degrees in people's faces but they will be BullShyt majors like childhood development, communication, etc. Nobody cares about your degree, it's about what you do with it that counts. Instead of getting 3 degrees, get 1 degree at an affordable price for you factoring scholarships, grants, loans, etc, go to grad school for your masters and do something amazing with your career. That is MUCH MORE impressive than a chick with 3 bachelor degrees at 40, up to her eyeball in school loans and absolutely no sense of direction or purpose in her life.
It comes down to people wanting to be superficial in the way that they choose their mate, while getting upset when they are hit with those same superficial standards.
Try as men might to make their superficial standards for women "different" and "better" than women's to men, they aren't.
I've dated almost every race of girls and my first girlfriend was half korean/half white, I'm a black guy but these are my experiences:
-I feel like a lot of black women are culturally "out of the loop" in terms of what they should look for in a guy.
-A lot of families grow up without a father so the women have daddy issues. Then when the father is home, he will often spoil her to death and give her a "princess complex" out of a sense of not being a "deadbeat" dad.
-Materialism is also rampant in the black community, especially with our women(A neauveau rich trait) which ironically is why so many have trouble building any sort of REAL wealth or power.
-Some black women refuse to ask what men see in other women but assume it's simply because of race.
-The whole single mother"I don't need no man!" black male bashing movement doesn't attract men. A large chunk of white guys HATE feminist with a passion and white makes are a lot less traditional than black men about gender roles. You do the math.
I think it's good for women to have an ideal salary because you don't want to marry a 35 year old broke, aspiring rapper. Okay, we all get it. Instead of looking for a salary, black women should be looking for "qualities" in men. Most women of other races do this but black women typically look for money and assume qualities instead of the other way around. Instead of looking for guys that make 80K+, they should be looking for guys that are honest, funny, genuine, a healthy self-esteem, ambitious, respectful, hard working, altruistic, responsible, etc because people with those traits typically go off to do things with their lives because they have a good head on their shoulders.
I have black male friends that were passed over because black women wrote them off as "cornballs" or "lames" who are now making 50K+ mid twenties at the very beginning of their careers with plenty of room to move up doing something they love. Some of them are still holding out for black women, some succeeded and others moved on and found happiness outside of their race.
Most women of other races know how to do this but quite a few black women don't want to build with a guy and date someone because of his character/personality. They date for status and money. It's weird because I know really hot white girls that date temporarily broke white guys coming up that had those qualities and rode it out with them because they knew the boyfriend had qualities that would lead to having a successful career and 99% of the time, the guy did. Because of this, the women had a college educated husband with a good career, kids and a nice starter home by the time they hit 30. No worrying about a biological clock, no worrying about settling down, no worrying about finances, etc. Usually the couple has a much greater grasp on personal finance so they aren't living paycheck to paycheck. SOME black women don't want to build or hear that because it's not as easy as simply marrying a rich guy.
When I date outside of my race, the woman usually tells me it's because they thought I was cute, funny, confident, I made them laugh, they always had fun around me and I'm such a sweet guy. They loved the fact that I was smart too. You know, traits that typically make good fathers and providers. I almost NEVER hear that when black women choose to date someone. I'm not turning this into a black woman bashing ceremony because there are a lot of good black women who are passed over or simply need a healthy boost of self esteem and weightloss but the amount of delusion some black women have is often intolerable. It's also why I see a lot of African immigrant americans who come here dating the motherly redheaded white woman who's a school teacher making 35K because she's a lot more wife material than the angry, materialistic, overweight, aggressive black girl pulling 80K with attitude problem like the whole world owes her something.
P.S. Most dudes don't care about how many degrees you have regardless of race. Quite a few black women love throwing degrees in people's faces but they will be BullShyt majors like childhood development, communication, etc. Nobody cares about your degree, it's about what you do with it that counts. Instead of getting 3 degrees, get 1 degree at an affordable price for you factoring scholarships, grants, loans, etc, go to grad school for your masters and do something amazing with your career. That is MUCH MORE impressive than a chick with 3 bachelor degrees at 40, up to her eyeball in school loans and absolutely no sense of direction or purpose in her life.
It does in pretty much any argument in this thread thoLike I said earlier, not every bad thing a woman does can be matched by a similar thing by men. "bu bu bu men" wont cut it ALL the time.
sadly this is why yet again I don't feel sorry for most black women out there. Ray rice make smillions a year y'all would marry dude, same with chris brown. The average black man making 30-50k a year, no criminal record, whose faithful and loves you, you look down upon him
Black men don't get the breaks black women do, if companies are hiring a minority they will hire a black women to fill the quota ofa minority and a woman before a black man.
This is why i'm marry a latina or filipino or even dare i say a cac
My parents pool their money together, so I'd like to do that with my future husband. I don't agree that one person should carry all the weight and pay all the bills.
