What is benching? The latest dating trend has some feeling ‘disposable

[Scustin Bieburr]

Lot of women realizing they aren't the hot friend, they aren't a 10 etc and it's making them mad. You see a lot of articles about "toxic" dating practices or experiences that really just boil down to average people being mad they're treated averagely. Applies to brehs too. If you know you're not tall, handsome, charismatic etc then it's time to lower your standards fellas. Your grandad married a 6/10 and built a good family life. What are you waiting for?

They want the kind of men that can attract a lot of women.

But want that man to only have eyes for them. They are destined to agonize over something they can never have. To roll the rock up the hill and be forced to do it over and over again like sisyphus

I'll await the inevitable article of the hot new craze of people having realistic standards and being happy meeting people organically and getting into relationship based on shared values and interests.

 

[Scaaar]

These increasing labeling classifications of somewhat normal and in some ways healthy behavior as toxic is probably not healthy, and a lot these things are all ego based (the list has become endless

ghosting, breadcrumbing, benching, zombiing, you are labeling basic human behavior as this deviant thing.

there's this idea that you meet someone and get on a fast track plan to marriage and anything else is unacceptable

life is often more complicated. Sometimes people probably "bench" me, and I probably "bench" others, sometimes it's not even on purpose

but the underlying theme is that it is intolerable to some people that you aren't the priority, to me that's all part of the game.

Definitely all part of the game. People just get it twisted and think they're more important than what the other person has going on in their life. When you're dating out here. They're no boundaries until you both agree to be mutually exclusive. until then just keep interacting with people while you get to know yourself at the same time

 

[Neuromancer]

Most chics didn't mind and just went about their lives but there was one that still tried to say I manipulated her. It comes with the territory when you're moving out here.

women own the market share of victimhood.

 

[Scaaar]

women own the market share of victimhood.

It's about a 70/30 split. Women were just raised in a way that when they don't get their way it's a shock to the system. That's why that princess stuff is real. But they're alot of salty dudes out here complaining about the game too. Brehs used to just have to take it on the chin and keep it pushing but with social media a lot of them are whining about it just as much as the women. It's never been an easier time to date. Finding something worth sacrificing for and settling down with is the bigger problem

 

[Neuromancer]

Finding something worth sacrificing for and settling down with is the bigger problem

It's the issue that we kind of face now adays.

But they're alot of salty dudes out here complaining about the game too. Brehs used to just have to take it on the chin and keep it pushing but with social media a lot of them are whining about it just as much as the women.

These are men who lack introspection and don't have anyone to tell them the truth or keep them ground.

 

[Canon]

women have strung dudes along since the beginning of time. Like I always say women don't like the same treatment they are accustomed to giving out.

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

Not to change the subject(kind of) but If @Another Man is ur wife's pickle ball partner u already lawst on GP alone.

 

[Piff Perkins]

Whoa RedPill Piff.

fukk no lmao. I'm just saying average people should date each other. Stop harassing hot people, accusing them of various things, etc.

 

[Neuromancer]

fukk no lmao. I'm just saying average people should date each other. Stop harassing hot people, accusing them of various things, etc.

But if they did that they'd have to hold themselves accountable and they can't do that. Too many people online told them they deserved what they wanted.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

And "Benching" is not new....we've been managing rosters for years

Exactly

It’s not benching. One chick on the team just putting in better work than the other one. You rock with the other one because the Toto is fuego but you’re not trying to spend any real time with her

Ultimately you’re one person and can’t chill with all of them at the same time. So you pick. But no one of these chicks are a priority

 

[Ahadi]

Whenever a woman you’re dating creates “confusion” or a “grey” area, they aren’t interested or they’re benching.

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

Whole Lotta bench warmers on the coli

 

[Scaaar]

It's the issue that we kind of face now adays.


These are men who lack introspection and don't have anyone to tell them the truth or keep them ground.

Yeap that's why so many gravitated to the red pill stuff. They just didn't have no one to give them the game. Or they didn't step out and take the bumps and bruises and learn it that way. Unfortunately they're getting bad advice from brehs who literally are a mirror image of them. They just have money smh.

 

[BeeCityRoller]

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

It's about a 70/30 split. Women were just raised in a way that when they don't get their way it's a shock to the system. That's why that princess stuff is real. But they're alot of salty dudes out here complaining about the game too. Brehs used to just have to take it on the chin and keep it pushing but with social media a lot of them are whining about it just as much as the women. It's never been an easier time to date. Finding something worth sacrificing for and settling down with is the bigger problem

Social media has changed everything. People now want to be able to show off their person on the page and give off an image of living life. They find someone that ticks off their boxes in a superficial sense but much like their posts its fake. They don't actually even really like the person as much as they like the IDEA of that person. The image they've built up in their head obscures the reality of the human being in front of them. Social media magnifies any latent narcissistic tendencies a person has and it dehumanizes people, turning them into the background characters on your show where you're the protagonist.

Dating apps have actually messed up the minds of many women. They're simultaneously given more choices than they could ever want and most of them they don't want. The ones they do, are just people they're attracted to and have to work backwards to justify their shallow interest in that person. He may be boring, he may be unfaithful, he may even be an abuser but they stuff down the instincts telling them they've chosen an unserious person. They have to convince themselves that the man is a great guy actually until the charade eventually breaks down and they break up with him and wipe him off their Social media like he never existed. Like he was never even a person.

🌨 cold world