What has changed in America where nobody can stay married?

[sanityovar8ted]

which leads me to my #2 advice; being married ain't no reason to get ...... I feel better now, than I did at 30.....

dap/undap for the edit lol

 

[baracka zulu]

@ the married brehs thinking cuz they struggled with a bytch that means shyt

They still finna share that bytch @ some point if they haven't already.

Cuz deez hoes ain't loyal.

 

[SHO-NUFF]

Sorry it didn't work out for you mayne

@ the married brehs thinking cuz they struggled with a bytch that means shyt

They still finna share that bytch @ some point if they haven't already.

Cuz deez hoes ain't loyal.

 

[Midrash]

I think it's the type people who are getting married and the fact that it's a lot easier and less stigmatizing to get a divorce now. They were just as non -commital in the 60s and 70s but it was really hard to get divorce without a legit reason and they had the church/marriage counselors to help them through problems. Also there was more invested and on the line then too since you could afford a house, car, etc straight out of HS.

The marriages I noticed that lasted without infidelity were the ones where the two spouses understood what they were getting into, were mature people, good natured and they "clicked" compatibility wise. They weren't looking for a dyme piece or Ryan Goslin, they just wanted someone who they found attractive, was right for them and was mature enough to be able to stay married faithfully. When they had problems, they communicated them, worked it out, sought help, etc.

I think its wayyyy too easy to get a divorce now and the 24/7 celeb access isn't giving us any values/hope. People with college degrees are only 25% likely to get a divorce and I noticed that people from STABLE two parent homes had a lot less chance of a divorce due to their influence and being someone to go to when there are problems. Also religious participation affects divorce rates as religiously committed individuals are less likely to be okay with cheating and they also had a strong support system if they hit a rough patch. People from broken homes tend to enter broken relationships and perpetuate the cycle of shytty parenting. I noticed that materialistic/vain people were more likely to cheat from my observation and they viewed it as a okay as long as they didn't get caught. These were typically guys who are douchebags/scumbags and airheaded/vapid/bytchy women. I think their lack of maturity is why they were all divorced by their early/mid twenties or in adultery filled marriages. Some of them matured and finally got their shyt together and others continued fukking up. It is what it is.

The poor/young/uneducated/shotgun weddings are why are divorce rates are so high. Typically college educated, mature people from stable homes with a decent job don't get divorced very much because they tend to be responsible enough to raise a family, stay faithful, make intelligent decisions and communicate problems when they were arising instead of letting things fester for months on end until one spouse "explodes".

 

[Marvel]

Lots of things.

People getting married too young.
People not understanding what marriage is.
Facebook.
etc...

Bolded is a lie....the average age of marriage has gone up considerably since 1970.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

Bolded is a lie....the average age of marriage has gone up considerably since 1970.

And it's still too young.

 

[MikelArteta]

Oh, I forgot to mention, no Degrees, no Certs, nothing; just a bunch of call-center experience, actually that's how we met....
we both partied too hard, and flunked out of OU, and before I met her I went into the Army, which just made me worse
We both just grew up together, and fought, made up, partied, scraped up money, fought some more, and all that, and about6 or 7 years in, things started to click.....

Sometimes, the only thing we could do right was love each other...

Patience is the game, but you GOTTA GET WITH SOMEBODY THAT MAKES TIME FLY....
that's my #1 advice

CONGRATS

i mean it breh

i always preach from the mountain top that women don't want to build like that anymore, congrats on getting one that did, see y'all benen through everything together the storm and the sunshine, you could be brke penniless and she will remember how you rose up from the struggle

 

[MikelArteta]

Bolded is a lie....the average age of marriage has gone up considerably since 1970.

The average age of first marriage in the United States is 27 for women and 29 for men, up from 23 for women and 26 for men in 1990 and 20 and 22 (!) in 1960.

however life expectancy is 1960 was 70
its now 79

 

[Marvel]

And it's still too young.

You don't know what you are talking about. Our grandparent's married at younger ages stayed together until death did them part.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

You don't know what you are talking about. Our grandparent's married at younger ages stayed together until death did them part.

Neither my paternal nor maternal grandparents got married at age 22. ymmv.

 

[Marvel]

The average age of first marriage in the United States is 27 for women and 29 for men, up from 23 for women and 26 for men in 1990 and 20 and 22 (!) in 1960.

however life expectancy is 1960 was 70
its now 79

The thing is increase life expectancy is not making people divorce, people are marrying at 30 divorcing at 32/33...its the feminist ideals of this society that gave unstable women too much power. This is a society that pushes the goddess worship vibration where a woman is above reproach, when she is actually full of reproach. A lot of these dudes go into these marriages looking at their wives as equals when you are supposed to be over her. My dad NEVER relinquished his power as man to my mom. So even though she complained and bickered like most women, she realized she is dealing with a real man that has the demeanor of a lion. That is why she hasn't left him. My dad taught me that letting a woman lead you, is like letting your child lead you, once you do that you lose respect. Because woman will always try you and see if you will cave in but in actuality she wants you to give her that "woman shut the hell up" look and vibe.

 

[Mowgli]

White folks deviating from christianity
Through bigotry

 

[BlvdBrawler]

The thing is increase life expectancy is not making people divorce, people are marrying at 30 divorcing at 32/33...its the feminist ideals of this society that can unstable women too much power. This is a society that pushes the goddess worship vibration where a woman is above reproach, when she is actually full of reproach. A lot of these dudes go into these marriages looking at their wives as equals when you are supposed to be over here. My dad NEVER relinquished his power as man to my mom. So even though she complained and bickered like most woman, she realized she is dealing with a real man that has the demeanor of a lion. That is why she hasn't left him. My dad taught me that letting a woman lead you, is like letting your child lead you, once you do that you lose respect. Because woman will always try you and see if you will cave in but in actuality she wants you to give her that "woman shut the hell up" look and vibe.

I hear u. From my perspective, I want my wife (lord forbid) to be my equal. But she also needs to know that she can get the at any moment if she fukks up badly enough.

 

[Scott Larock]

Simple no one wants to sacrifice or build anymore.

There is always someone hotter, richer, a click or swipe away.

Monogamy is laughed
At and infidelity is praised.

Women were economically handicapped back then, of course when the gloves come off things are gonna change. Back then women couldn't really do much and conservative America was no joke, women stand in the kitchen and we're stay at home wife's usually.

You see why black women act the way they do they never had that benefit of what white women had for years but now even white men are forgoing marriage, doesn't make sense to fight with your equal.

 

[MikelArteta]

The thing is increase life expectancy is not making people divorce, people are marrying at 30 divorcing at 32/33...its the feminist ideals of this society that can unstable women too much power. This is a society that pushes the goddess worship vibration where a woman is above reproach, when she is actually full of reproach. A lot of these dudes go into these marriages looking at their wives as equals when you are supposed to be over here. My dad NEVER relinquished his power as man to my mom. So even though she complained and bickered like most woman, she realized she is dealing with a real man that has the demeanor of a lion. That is why she hasn't left him. My dad taught me that letting a woman lead you, is like letting your child lead you, once you do that you lose respect. Because woman will always try you and see if you will cave in but in actuality she wants you to give her that "woman shut the hell up" look and vibe.

many brehs are on that happy wife = happy marriage bs