UPDATE: she was absent today, gonna have to wait till tomorrow 🤦🏾. 2nd UPDATE: Tomorrow I'll have to make a new thread as this one is too incoherent

[Eternally Jaded]

I'm not afraid it's just I don't like to push myself on somebody and ask them a question as big like that right away, I like to take it slow because sometimes rushing can ruin whatever could come to fruition at least that's how I look at it

My dude, have you any kind of rapport or vibe with this woman at all?
Beyond knowing her name or anything surface level like that?

I've gotten more play off being my naturally funny self than anything else.

Be you and let that be what gets her and if it doesn't work, then it's not meant to be and kim.

 

[Wig Twistin Season]

She’s 6 years older, so first you want to ask how’s her health today. Make sure she’s had breakfast and just in case, have a bowl of warm oatmeal on standby.

Go ahead and take her vitals right after that and be sure her heart can take the shock of you being so… um… gentlemanly with her.

While your stethoscope is on her chest to check her heart rate, look at her, remove any stray hairs from her face and tell her you love her.

After that, it should be a piece of cake.

 

[UpAndComing]

"I already know how to approach a woman"

But makes a thread asking how to approach a woman

 

[goatmane]

A 33 yrs old women is on tiktok, snap and ig like a 19yr old

No difference in this generation

 

[Ahadi]

If you don’t go and talk to her

 

[Eternally Jaded]

Just ask her out in person. Have a specific time frame, no "one of these days", 'sometime", just say this week, or Friday, whatever.

Depending on what your convos consist of, ask her to coffee if she drinks it, ask her to take a walk, or get ice cream, gelato whatever. if you have a stronger sense of her tastes, go have dinner. Mutually enjoyable activity, that you have both expressed interest in.

You're in culinary school? Man. Just ask her to the hottest reservation in the city. Done.

I'd say nah to most of this.

If he's asking strangers to help him do this then he's probably not really there with her at all.
Imagine someone who has to do this now sitting across from someone they like in a nice restaurant and what's gonna happen?

Crickets and tumbleweeds over expensive plates.

If he was that guy to pull it off he wouldn't have had to ask in the first place.

 

[Boogie]

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[CrushedGroove]

If you want to pursue something with her, tell her to let you if you're being too forward or if your wires got crossed, then let her know you're interested in a more meaningful friendship with her and would like to exchange numbers to communicate with her more regularly. Do this at the end of your next encounter if it goes well.

Either she says she would be interested and part with her number or mace you then mush your face and say real nikkas don't talk like that and that you need to go find your nuts from under your mama couch.

 

[Controversy]

This what you do

Tell her

"Hey _________. I was thinking about you last night, and I told myself I wouldn't forgive myself if I didn't ask you out today. Let's exchange info and go to ____________ on Saturday"

Come off natural, confident, and you'll be fine...simplest approach is the best...know what you want, and go get it youngin'

 

[Rocket Scientist]

You 27 and asking this?

 

[re'up]

I'd say nah to most of this.

If he's asking strangers to help him do this then he's probably not really there with her at all.
Imagine someone who has to do this now sitting across from someone they like in a nice restaurant and what's gonna happen?

Crickets and tumbleweeds over expensive plates.

If he was that guy to pull it off he wouldn't have had to ask in the first place.

I mean, yeah lol ---but if he's already talking in person, better that, than some convoluted effort to task for her number, THEN have to do all that on text.

 

[Carl Tethers]

Virgin babble

 

[Starman]

"Excuse me, grandma..."

 

[Antwon Mitchell]

I'd say nah to most of this.

If he's asking strangers to help him do this then he's probably not really there with her at all.
Imagine someone who has to do this now sitting across from someone they like in a nice restaurant and what's gonna happen?

Crickets and tumbleweeds over expensive plates.

If he was that guy to pull it off he wouldn't have had to ask in the first place.

I think you're not understanding my point.

What I'm really asking about is how should I go about this, I'm not afraid of asking the woman it's more about when should I ask and how to go about it since she's older than me. If she was a woman in my age range (25-28) then I wouldn't have made this thread because I'd be right at home because of comfortability in talking with someone my age.

I don't usually mingle with women this older than me.

This woman is 33 and I'm 27. I've never dated a woman that older than me in her 30s. I'm trying to figure out how should I approach this, should I use my same technique or do I have to switch up because she's older and maybe even wiser than me?