I appreciate his comments about black men and how we're attacked whether we open up or not. Especially in an era where it's open season on black men via culture, academia, medicine, courts, police, etc. At the same time I think it's worth pointing out once a woman is done, she's DONE. Due to the job I have, I've been around a lot of older, well off men going through expensive divorces. And the thing I've noticed in every case, whether the guy was cheating or not, is that the guys are always upset and describe their ex as being indifferent. It's almost surreal listening to a man admit to cheating, admit to ruining his relationship, and then bitterly describe his anger/shock that his wife calmly divorced him. They're expecting some type of cinematic, emotional act. But when a woman is finished with you, her brain erases you from the picture and she moves on man.
I don't know anything about Tyrese's relationship or how/why they broke up. I'm just saying as men I think we should recognize that final step of dissociation and be ready for it.
NaaaaaaaaaahWe call those women sociopaths and Aries. I refuse to understand it,because I simply cant understand how my cheating turns you into a whoooole other person. Difference is men are rarely that emotional or that clingy to begin with. Even if we do love a woman,we arent extra about it. Women be so extra,so clingy, wanting to have meetings about our feelings. Catch you cheating,and suddenly they act like theyve been cloned and are emotionless,and quickly move on. The best way to reconcile the hurt,is to understand the women are acting 85% of the time. When they really act like they dont care,its usually because they do. Thou does pretend not to care too much
But you dont want to be a begger or a stalker. So just go listen to some rnb and get the pain out and take the L.
Here’s the thing though…reread what you wrote.
These men knew they fukked up their relationships, yet expected some crazy, emotional response from their wives.
You knowingly do shyt that you know may end your relationship, and expect the woman you’re with to be an irrational ball of emotions after you purposely did something.
Why would I flip out if you’re doing things that you know will hurt me and cause a break up? You already made your choice with your actions. Why do I need to be upset?
Sometimes I wonder if some of y’all do messed up stuff just to hurt/humble your woman and watch her go through pain. Some women won’t give you that satisfaction
@Still BenefitedWe call those women sociopaths and Aries. I refuse to understand it,because I simply cant understand how my cheating turns you into a whoooole other person. Difference is men are rarely that emotional or that clingy to begin with. Even if we do love a woman,we arent extra about it. Women be so extra,so clingy, wanting to have meetings about our feelings. Catch you cheating,and suddenly they act like theyve been cloned and are emotionless,and quickly move on. The best way to reconcile the hurt,is to understand the women are acting 85% of the time. When they really act like they dont care,its usually because they do. Thou does pretend not to care too much
But you dont want to be a begger or a stalker. So just go listen to some rnb and get the pain out and take the L.
@Still Benefited
I cannot rock with that.
Y’all knowingly do stuff that will hurt your woman, she realizes that you knowingly did something that would hurt her and damage the relationship, yet SHE’s the weird one when she accepts that you make moves without caring about her feelings?
Y’all are some self-centered MFs
Then why do you fault women for not reacting when they discover that you wronged them?Correction,we may do stuff that we know will hurt you if you find out,big difference.You finding always seems impossible in our heads. The plan to get away with it is always masterful,something only Kaiser Soze himself could come up with. But thats usually just the lust talking. In reality programming another woman in your phone as "Pizza Hut" isnt genius at all in 2023.
But the point is,if youve ever stolen. You know the focus wasnt on how it would dissapoint your mother if she found out. The focus was how can I have this thing. And make sure my mother doesnt find out,so I dont dissapoint her. So actually when it comes to cheating,the immediate thought is how can we NOT hurt the woman we love. It may sound like the same thing,if you ignore the nuance
Then why do you fault women for not reacting when they discover that you wronged them?
It’s far healthier to come to the understanding that he cheated for himself/his desires and it has nothing to do with her. Win/win.
It’s not even that.Tyrese is figuring shyt out in his 40s that most nikkas figured out int their 20s early 30s. He keeps going thru it cuz he want a bad bytch knowing he looks how he looks. He just needs a chunky country bytch.