And knowing the bolded is exactly why a man should exercise responsibility and put a condom on. By not doing so, doesn’t he see how he is essentially placing the fate of his seed in her hands? By putting a condom on, she loses the ability to make any decision about a potential baby.
And I know so many men who avoided children by doing what I said that’s why I know it’s possible. Otherwise I agree with what you said, both parties are responsible for the outcome. Rather than placing the blame on one, both need to be held accountable. The failure of black doesn’t just lie with the woman who raised them on her own, it’s also on the men who didn’t help raise them at all.
9 times out of 10, the man knew he didn’t want a child with that woman. So why did he not condom on, when he knew the obvious risk of pregnancy? and then act brand new when she show him that pregnancy test.
See y’all expect so little of men who ain’t shyt, but a lot more is expected of women who aren’t shyt. In nothing you said was there any mention of the kind of women they are, outside of some of them being educated. Educated doesn’t mean they aren’t scummy women, poor decision makers or good candidates to seed up. Y’all refuse to believe that a lot of these women end up with those men for a reason—they usually got their scummy ways too.
I don’t care if a man is bad, good, square or a motherfukking circle. He is just as responsible for his role in creating his seed, as the women. And if y’all expect her to rise above how scummy she is and make better decisions, then it stands that these ain’t shyt men can do the same.
And let me throw something back at you: if after all this time, these women still are not choosing who y’all think they should and aren’t doing a good job raising boys, then it’s beyond me on why y’all still keep expecting as much from them as y’all do while not seeming to expect much from the men.
At some point, it’s okay to acknowledge both messed up and are equally at fault.
And I didn’t say the bolded….