So, let me say this. Having grown up in nyc and gone to certain schools, i have clocked more unguarded moments with black immigrants than most ados. Theyre my family, former lovers, childhood friends, college friends, neighbors, service professionals, etc, etc.
From the super wide pool i was in, there were some who just didn't fukk with us whatsoever. They were so obvious, we had to start clowning them. Some kept it on the acquaintance level, hi and bye, but stuck to wp and other immigrants. Some actually reached out, organized actism together, kinda 'civic', general black shyt, could be cool, but maintained a slight barrier. Like, youd be friends, but never as close as others. This is the first level where they date us, but only for play, nothing serious.*
Then theres varying levels of cool ones. So, sometimes they marry us and go all in- the riders, the garveyites, the pan africanists.
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to them, theyre why we expended the political capital to get them here. Family. Then theres a level of 'will marry us, but are lowkey funny acting.' So you might get a black immigrant woman from a very anti- ados family who just fukk with YOU for whatever reason, but its always tenuous bc her fam is always in her ear. The relationship lasts as long as her resistance, terrible odds.
* The guys i dealt with were mostly in this category, a few in the last category, but i wasnt trynna marry them no way.
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I wanted somebody with SC roots like me. But, for what it was, they were great- no complaints, good times.
That said, its always like dealing with wp. So, politically, professionally, as we all know, a wp can marry us and still be racist. And so, we must at least be on guard. Yeah, theyre 'black', but theyre anti reparations bc, while they may love YOU, your family- and by extension, the rest of us, minus the handful of exceptional negroes
they know- is fukked up and dont deserve shyt. Or, they love YOU, but their professional network is completely foreign,
exclusively so. Etc.
As the result of my extended exposure, not much i see on the internet surprises me. Im sometimes shocked at the vehemence from the first few categories, but now i understand why they stayed the fukk away from us. Girl in the op could have been one of my college acquaintances: big family in nigeria, armed guards, rented estates in the tri state area, etc. (But there were nominally cool ones, we chilled, i visited said estates.)
But i need for ados nationwide to know what i know. We're left flat footed, esp in situations where theyre imported in as medical professionals. Ive seen and heard of
horrible situations as nurses, or for our elders in nursing homes, or as educators (got several stories myself). I fear that our pan africanism is being used against us in ways we cant fully discern and that, by the time we notice, it will be too late. Our best will have been absorbed by black foreigners and cacs. Kids will identify as anything other than ados because, America, and we're done.