In real life i personally hear black women talk about black men amongst themselves but it's more on some battle of the sexes tip. But when you talk to them one on one, thry might throw a slick comment here and there but if you have the time and patience to breakdown the knowledge with them in a calm and rational way, all of a sudden they defend black men even more aggressively than us.I don't experience this in normal life.
Especially in the south.
It's up to us to lead and provide direction and not be emotional or needy.