The PEDO topic is CLEAR...YET very decisive. How DID (or do) you navigate these waters as an adult?

Ezekiel 25:17

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I'd mess with an 18 yr old as long as she's out of highschool. Relationship wise probably not, otherwise I don't care. I'm not that dude who grooms and I'm not pulling up to a highschool.

The highschool I went to had 18 year olds with grown bodies
 

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You are describing the exception. Also ur dealing with a lot of myths. Namely the idea that all women tend to mature faster than men do.

In today’s society that doesn’t always play out. In previous generations, women and men were forced to mature earlier b/c life was harder. And women were particularly forced to mature earlier b/c the social safety nets of birth control, delayed marriage due to increased educational and economic opportunities and lack of stigma around being single past a certain age—all of these options weren’t available back in the day.

So it’s very rare to see extremely young women being paragons of maturity. In fact when I mentioned somebody getting taken advantage of, I wasn’t just envisioning an older dude preying on a younger woman, but a younger chick running hella game and fooling older dudes outta 401ks and checks and to buy shyt for the younger dudes who getting the guts for the freeskis.

Too much of an age difference most of the time is indicative of some issues somewhere along the line.

I'm sorry.. it seems I did not clearly state what I meant by men and women being on different clocks.. I was not alluding to the rate of maturity of men vs women, but to the fact that women, especially family oriented ones, are in different spaces in their 30s when compared to their male counterparts due to time being a lot harsher on them. Men can still be on cruise control in their 30s with little to no effect on their future, while women are often forced to choose (career, family, kids, the right partner etc...). The only thing a single healthy male in that age range really needs to worry about is his finances.

Also, not saying 21-24 year olds are super mature or anything.. just stating that age is not the decisive factor when it comes to a person's maturity.

I'm gonna lay off on how the current state of the economy plays into all of this as I feel like it's outside the scope of this thread and should be a whole topic on its own...

This thread is simply about whether or not we should label dudes pedos for finding adults attractive because they are 10 years their junior.

fukking absurd..


The furious ramblings of a weirdo who has to trick little girls into sleeping with him because he can't deal with any woman who's actually me tally developed :mjlol:

I'm convinced some of you are just fukking retarded.
 
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Ezekiel 25:17

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I'm not understanding your logic...:jbhmm:
I knew females from 15 on upward...that were gettin ran thru...:jbhmm:

Again...I'm trying to understand the logic, behind being so infatuated w/ females 10+ years younger. Again these are usually the main culprits...

- Your immature (let's be clear..rarely do I encounter females mid-20s down that are mature or as worldly. Super-rare)

- Your makin up for lost time...and couldn't pull these jawns, at that same age (lame)

- Your attracted to petite, lesser built, immature body bytches
:sitdown:or :wrist:
(Plenty of older women have tight bodies...so age isn't an excuse)

- Your groomin (loser or pedo shyt)

- You lack the gift of gab to pull women your own age (cornball)...and older hoes see thru you

These are the only culprits, I typically see wit dudes, so which one are you? Just keepin it a bean...:hubie:


I'm neither of those you listed. So what does that make me?
 

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I know people will not like this, but in my opinion what is considered "legal age" in this country is still a child mentally. :yeshrug: Our laws were made by europeans so that explains that.


A majority of Africa has 18 as the age of consent. You were saying?
 
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*****There is a reason why we are the only mammals that stay with our parents the longest.*****

No disrespect but It sounds like you have 2 girls to raise:

Your child's mother should do what's best for your kid...not what is easiest for her (Mom). Kids like and respect consistency, rules & structure.
Instead of fearing losing your daughter think of parenting techniques that will draw her closer i.e. Open to communication, showing interest, etc.
She has 2 options. She can fear -
1. Losing her to the streets/predators.
vs
2. Losing her to sound, protective, loving parenting.
Note - When you operate from a place of fear/weakness the outcome will reflect that...

As for you - Step firmly, confidently & authoritatively into your role as father, leader, honorer, & protector of your daughter. You are the 1st man in her life - Validate her, instill knowledge into her (best gift a man could give a woman. life is all about decisions. when you have knowledge you make better informed decisions), and cover her.
Don't know the dynamics between you & mom of your kid but if they are "right" then she would defer to you and be on one accord. You should inherently know what I mean by this.


Good luck in coparenting & childrearing. I do not envy your job as a parent.


great post lady libra
 

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Ladies of The Coli, what are your thoughts on the age spectrum/acceptable ages of dating? From a women's perspective, I'm interested in this:

@BlackPearl The Empress @gogogubari @fckyoupayme @Rawtid @RehReh @CinnaSlim @CarmelBarbie @Tiffrock @Nicole0416 @paperbag @Token @Rawster @Brocka @13473 @Booksnrain @sanityovar8ted @dora_da_destroyer @ThiefyPoo @DanniC @Kalon @brandy @Ashley Banks @Sassy @Lady.Libra. @Blacque Butterfly-est @LovelyOne @Elle Driver @Elle Seven @Nightmare

My daughters mother doesn't have an issue with high schoolers dating older men, but "within reason" though she won't explain what that means. Her take is if our 16 year old daughter wanted to date a 26 year old man, we could lose her if we forbid it, like how those R Kelly chicks stopped communicating with their families for years...

So she says we should find productive ways to allow that kind of relationship...

For the record I think this is the same with women, works if the shoe is reversed to me...

no disrespect to her, but i think she is an idiot.

what does a 26yo and a 16yo have in common? Two different life phases with different outlooks in life. This is a breeding ground for abuse regardless of gender.

I’m 24 and can’t find a single overlap in commonalities with an 18yo.


Also, what type of parenting do you have that your child can be easily lured away by random? I am not trying to insult you, but the bond between my parents and I cannot be intercepted by a dude that just came recently into my life. Abusers look for individuals who have weak bonds with friends and family.
 

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I'm sorry.. it seems I did not clearly state what I meant by men and women being on different clocks.. I was not alluding to the rate of maturity of men vs women, but to the fact that women, especially family oriented ones, are in different spaces in their 30s when compared to their male counterparts due to time being a lot harsher on them. Men can still be on cruise control in their 30s with little to no effect on their future, while women are often forced to choose (career, family, kids, the right partner etc...). The only thing a single healthy male in that age range really needs to worry about is his finances.

Also, not saying 21-24 year olds are super mature or anything.. just stating that age is not the decisive factor when it comes to a person's maturity.

I'm gonna lay off on how the current state of the economy plays into all of this as I feel like it's outside the scope of this thread and should be a whole topic on its own...

This thread is simply about whether or not we should label dudes pedos for finding adults attractive because they are 10 years their junior.

fukking absurd..
I gotcha. I was confused.

As for the bolded, I don’t think dudes should be shamed as pervs for liking younger chicks 18+.

However, I’m just referring to the generation gap and power dynamics and in most cases there’s people being taken advantage of in those dynamics and who is taking advantage of whom just depends on who is playing games and who isn’t.

I’ve rarely seen a huge gap in ages where this wasn’t the case. Exceptions withstanding.

You can’t get around the weirdness of a 30+ male/female seriously courting an 18 year old. Most people are products of their environments. Most relationships are formed within wide social circles. Access to people outside of ur own generation isn’t something that just naturally occurs in most cases. I’m just speaking in practical terms here.

Ask any 30+ person the general age group of their peers and friends. And there’s a reason for that. Normative social bonds over shared experiences and background...even communication styles can be bound by age.

So even beyond the logistics of finding young chicks which is already straying into weirdo land, that generation gap ain’t going nowhere. Thus a lot of these unions tend to be situations where one or both partners are using one another.

Not saying it can’t work out, but I’m can’t lie on how I’ve seen it play out. And for the most part either the chick is using the old dude for Gucci bags, or he is trying to groom her.

Beyond those dynamics, however, that doesn’t make the dudes pedophiles b/c they lured by the illusion of easy p*ssy due to them thinking a young chick will be easier to impress or simply because she’s attractive.
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Ladies of The Coli, what are your thoughts on the age spectrum/acceptable ages of dating? From a women's perspective, I'm interested in this:

@BlackPearl The Empress @gogogubari @fckyoupayme @Rawtid @RehReh @CinnaSlim @CarmelBarbie @Tiffrock @Nicole0416 @paperbag @Token @Rawster @Brocka @13473 @Booksnrain @sanityovar8ted @dora_da_destroyer @ThiefyPoo @DanniC @Kalon @brandy @Ashley Banks @Sassy @Lady.Libra. @Blacque Butterfly-est @LovelyOne @Elle Driver @Elle Seven @Nightmare

My daughters mother doesn't have an issue with high schoolers dating older men, but "within reason" though she won't explain what that means. Her take is if our 16 year old daughter wanted to date a 26 year old man, we could lose her if we forbid it, like how those R Kelly chicks stopped communicating with their families for years...

So she says we should find productive ways to allow that kind of relationship...

For the record I think this is the same with women, works if the shoe is reversed to me...
Y’all are sick.
 

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I gotcha. I was confused.

As for the bolded, I don’t think dudes should be shamed as pervs for liking younger chicks 18+.

However, I’m just referring to the generation gap and power dynamics and in most cases there’s people being taken advantage of in those dynamics and who is taking advantage of whom just depends on who is playing games and who isn’t.

I’ve rarely seen a huge gap in ages where this wasn’t the case. Exceptions withstanding.

You can’t get around the weirdness of a 30+ male/female seriously courting an 18 year old. Most people are products of their environments. Most relationships are formed within wide social circles. Access to people outside of ur own generation isn’t something that just naturally occurs in most cases. I’m just speaking in practical terms here.

Ask any 30+ person the general age group of their peers and friends. And there’s a reason for that. Normative social bonds over shared experiences and background...even communication styles can be bound by age.

So even beyond the logistics of finding young chicks which is already straying into weirdo land, that generation gap ain’t going nowhere. Thus a lot of these unions tend to be situations where one or both partners are using one another.

Not saying it can’t work out, but I’m can’t lie on how I’ve seen it play out. And for the most part either the chick is using the old dude for Gucci bags, or he is trying to groom her.

Beyond those dynamics, however, that doesn’t make the dudes pedophiles b/c they lured by the illusion of easy p*ssy due to them thinking a young chick will be easier to impress or simply because she’s attractive.
:yeshrug:


I'll disagree here again..

I can't speak for most of these dudes, but I live in south FL.. you'll bump into attractive women of all ages damn near everywhere you go.. sports bars, social spots, clubs, grocery shopping, etc.. if I'm out and see a chick I find attractive and I decide to approach... her age is a secondary thought at that point and only becomes an issue if I find out she's not old enough for me to buy her a drink.. at that point I'll tell her to enjoy the rest of her evening in a keep it moving... you're making it seem like people of different age groups don't socialize or can't be in the same vicinity for a given reason.. that's not an exception to the rule, depending on your social life it may very well be the norm.

There's a lot of assumptions in this thread that makes me question whether or not these dudes actually socialize..

Ironically the chick i got a thing for right now just turned 40, and I'm here defending commonsense.. :coffee:
 

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A broad over 21 is fair game. Just turned 37 and I got several 20 something year old broads in the stable.

How does dating a legal adult, in any way equate to being a pedophile? Pedos like prepubescent kids, who are under the age of 12 or 13. Y'all sound like a bunch of bitter old ladies.

So now nikkas are running with the idea you can be a "pedo" for being attracted to girls in their 20s?

OP comparing being a highs school to dating grown men lmao, he don't get p*ssy he fronting that's why he sound crazy.

But being in your 30's and having a wife in her 20's is called winning, anybody who disagrees is just mad they can't do it

Reading is fundamental. You some learning disorder nggas. If u actually read and comprehended what I wrote...you would have clarity. Obviously, we know what a pedo is. My other point was....nggas that constantly, target young 20 somethings, are usually corny...creepy ass nggas that's can't bag older women. Agree to disagree. I never said that made you a pedo (your lackin somewhere, at some capacity tho). But its understood your no pedo. It's legal, obviously. It's creep shyt to me tho...if that's how your always livin. Nggas don't get points for baggin a bunch of young bytches as a grown ass man...:scusthov:

Been there done that. We run thru women playboy. Nggas are low-key distant cousins to pedo nggas. I hate you cradle robbin nggas too...:mjlol:

Personally, I prefer women my age. From my experience, the only dudes that constantly got younger girls, can't pull older women on the reg (or of the same calibur). I could pull both, but choose NOT, to fukk wit young jawns on that level. If you hit...you hit tho. They're of age, and you do what you do. To each their own, but it's not my steez.

If I was out here chasin down young hoes I'd feel like a creep...:scusthov: And it's too easy. I finesse grown ass women. You know how many young thots a ngga could be runnin thru LOL? Dem bytches are dense. I wouldn't even feel comfortable doin em like that. Your bein too predatory at that point. These young hoes, aren't worldly and aint been thru shyt. Maybe your green too tho, so yall can relate to each other on that level...:sas1:

If your dealin wit an older chick, and she don't know the game by 24-25ish...that's fair game IMO. I'm a real one tho...so I know the truth about corny nggas like yall, that can't habitually pull women your own age. Pump-fake for other lames tho...and brehs on the board that don't pull bytches or get puss...:umad:

These hoe ass memes don't make any sense, say it witcha chest fam

"Say it witcha chest"... Online? Clown...:mjlol:

This is your rambling ass below right? That's why I put what I put.

There are women in their 20's who look younger than their age, and there are girls under 18 who physically matured early and look like they are in their 20's or even early 30's, and some of those girls are already single moms so they def look older. Especially since this new 2000's born generation is a bit taller than previous generations

I'm neither of those you listed. So what does that make me?

Your one of those...or some other inadequacy I didn't list. That's for certain...:coffee:
 
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Reading is fundamental. You some learning disorder nggas. If u actually read and comprehended what I've wrote...you would have clarity. Obviously, we know what a pedo is. My other point was....nggas that constantly, target young 20 somethings, are usually corny...creepy ass nggas that's can't bag older women. Agree to disagree. I never said that made you a pedo (your lackin somewhere, at some capacity tho). But its understood your no a pedo. It's legal, obviously. It's creep shyt to me tho...if that's how your always livin. Nggas don't get points for baggin a bunch of young bytches as a grown ass man...:scusthov:

Been there done that. We run thru women playboy. Nggas are low-key distant cousins to pedo nggas. I hate you cradle robbin nggas too...:mjlol:

Personally, I prefer women my age. From my experience, the only dudes that constantly got younger girls, can't pull older women on the reg (or of the same calibur). I could pull both, but choose NOT, to fukk wit young jawns on that level. If you hit...you hit tho. They're of age, and you do what you do. To each their own, but it's not my steez.

If I was out here chasin down young hoes I'd feel like a creep...:scusthov: And it's too easy. I finesse grown ass women. You know many young thots a ngga could be runnin thru LOL? I wouldn't even feel comfortable doin em like that. Your bein too predatory at that point. Dem hoes aren't wordly and aint been thru shyt. Maybe your green too to tho, and can relate...:sas1:

If your dealin wit an older chick, and she don't know the game by 24-25ish...that's fair game IMO. I'm a real one tho...so I know the truth about corny nggas like yall, that can't habitually pull women your own age. Pump-fake for other lames tho...and brehs on the board that don't even pull bytches or get puss...:umad:



"Say it witcha chest"... Online? Clown...:mjlol:

This is your rambling ass below right? That's why I put what I put.





Your one of those...or some other inadequacy I didn't list. That's for certain...:coffee:


Stop it man you don't get p*ssy or take to females

lmao at targeting 20 years old lmao, flabby ass nikkaz wish they could target some 20 year olds lmao, you think its easier for an older man to pull a younger woman shows you retarded and don't get p*ssy

Yes its easier for 21 year old to came up a 16 year old than a woman is old age

its not easy at all for a 35 year old man to pull a 23 year or 25 year old than a woman in her 30's, it's not period

older man have to be rich or the younger girls have to desire them sexually in order to poor young woman

The average nikka in his 30 year old has no chance with 20 year old, let alone can consistently pray on them

now underage girls can be persuaded and manipulated, that's not the same thing, as a older man courting a younger woman
 
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