The PEDO topic is CLEAR...YET very decisive. How DID (or do) you navigate these waters as an adult?

[T.H.E. Goat]

Kids have to be raised in safe, non-toxic environments or else they don’t stand a chance. If you’re a parent who drinks or smokes around their kids, or treats you’re children like adults instead of kids then what do you think is going to happen? Too many parents blur the lines of being a teen/adult and it can lead to their kids falling victim to pedophiles

 

[JackRoss]

Exactly I so badly want to post the pics of the 18 y/o I was knocking down just to make the haters hate harder but out of respect I'm not... But nikka she was STACKED

Post that adult lady

 

[murksiderock]

I’m 32 my gf 21

Do you feel any type of generational gap with her? I'm 30 and my kids mom is 24 and I feel a generational gap with her, I can't imagine being with a woman 11 years younger than me and how difficult that seems...

A 16 year old "dating" a 26 year old??? @murksiderock Sugarfoot, you need to insert a foot in both your daughter and baby mama's ass. I'm not going to attack you as a parent because I don't know y'all relationship like that and it's none of my business. I just hope all three of you can come together and fix it.

As for me personally, I don't date men under the age of 40 and I'm 28. I haven't met men under that age that are serious about life in general. I won't even entertain a man in his twenties. My man is 51, by the way.

I'm only 30, my daughters are 1 and 2. So this isn't something going on right now, and hopefully never, it just spawned out of a conversation about how we'd deal with different parenting challenges...

You don't notice a generational gap between your man and yourself? That's a big ass gap, dude old enough to be your father, I'd be interested on what the allure was/is to a woman 23 years his junior...

no disrespect to her, but i think she is an idiot.

what does a 26yo and a 16yo have in common? Two different life phases with different outlooks in life. This is a breeding ground for abuse regardless of gender.

I’m 24 and can’t find a single overlap in commonalities with an 18yo.


Also, what type of parenting do you have that your child can be easily lured away by random? I am not trying to insult you, but the bond between my parents and I cannot be intercepted by a dude that just came recently into my life. Abusers look for individuals who have weak bonds with friends and family.

Nah I agree with you...

She one of these people who thinks she's the smartest person in any room she walks into, thinks she has an answer to everything, very much into herself. This is a scenario that likely never happens, I for sure hope not, but parenting is gonna be hard on her the older we get. She doesn't have the strongest adaptability skills and when you match that with already thinking you have the answer to everything, some challenges that pop up may be overwhelming to her...

So one of my biggest challenges now, as a new and young parent, is to able to responsibly offset her deficiencies so that it gives our daughters a mature and respectful balance as they age...

And it ain't just dudes, there are plenty of older women that prey on young men too but no one talks about it because it's seen as a badge of honor.

Female thots will prey on your underaged daughters and sons just like men.

This is all facts, I don't trust any women with my daughters more than I trust men...

 

[Milk N Cookies]

I try to avoid that area. I just picture it being a bunch of Mexicans. Same difference

It is but that’s not a reason to avoid it. Lmao. They got enough black folks to balance it.





for now.

 

[JackRoss]

It is but that’s not a reason to avoid it. Lmao. They got enough black folks to balance it.





for now.

I feel you. I got people in Cal Park. Something about that area kicks my spidey senses into high gear. I've always felt that way. I cant explain it. At least it's not Robbins lol

 

[paperbag]

Ladies of The Coli, what are your thoughts on the age spectrum/acceptable ages of dating? From a women's perspective, I'm interested in thi.

If they are 18+ and out of high school, have at it. I do look at anyone 30+ish actually dating teens and early 20s as a weirdo.

16 girl shouldnt be dating, so I can't really comment on the daughter scenario, but I'm sure being groomed by a 26 year old predator will have lasting damage so as aparent id try to put a stop to it.

 

[Fade Runner 2049]

I don't see that as a reach, bro. It's not ideal but 18 you still think and act like a teenager, still have teenage social circle...

For the record, I didn't know 18-year olds messing with 14-year olds, but I know it happens and I'm not really tripping on that...

Weird ass nikka.

 

[King Khufu]

16 year old girls should not be dating, so I can't really comment on the daughter scenario,

If you're a parent of a daughter someday you should instill that it's okay to have feelings for others but channeled productively so instead they become successful for a bigger purpose.

Too many of you on here get uptight at the thought of their daughters dating which I can feel that but my take is girls do what they like to whether it's permissible or not so if you give them the truth about the things they feel and why they will no longer wonder and pursue better things they actually like over false acquirements.
(Because teens want things, give 'em what they need they never will look back.)

 

[Milk N Cookies]

I feel you. I got people in Cal Park. Something about that area kicks my spidey senses into high gear. I've always felt that way. I cant explain it. At least it's not Robbins lol

In that case u clearly avoid the 159th part beyond cal city and south holland. And you go back once it’s Orland Park I take it...

 

[SouljaVoy]

A majority of Africa has 18 as the age of consent. You were saying?

A majority of African countries were also colonized by European countries. A lot of laws and systems were adopted even after nations gained independence.

 

[JackRoss]

In that case u clearly avoid the 159th part beyond cal city and south holland. And you go back once it’s Orland Park I take it...

I love Harvey and Markham. Cal park and blue island is a bit too much for me lol

 

[truth2you]

I used to think like this, but once you have chicks of all age types wanting to get with you, things change. I don't want a chick under 21 because they still see shyt from a kids point of view, but once they are 21 & up, IDGAF, as long as she is living an adult life(working, paying bills,etc.). Society is wild, and has major issues with sex.

You meant to tell me she can go in the Army at 18 which means she can be maimed or kill someone then develop PTSD, drive a car that is can be a lethal weapon at 18, can vote for fukked up people at 18, can drink alcohol which can kill you at 21, BUT if she messes with a grown man at 21 yrs. old something is wrong? shyt makes no sense. Its even worse for other men to call him a weirdo because he likes the ass, and titties, he see's everyday. Are yall still living in the 70's? The chicks show all types of skin LOOKING for attention, but I'm supposed to say "oh she is just going to church with her titties out, bless her heart"

Its really people having an issues admitting the chick is fukking. See, if the guy is her age, most people can trick themselves into thinking they are just growing up together, then they can ignore the fukking. If the guy is older, the first thing you say is "what do they have in common" because no one wants to admit she likes fukking an older man!

 

[Harry Sax]

Do you feel any type of generational gap with her? I'm 30 and my kids mom is 24 and I feel a generational gap with her, I can't imagine being with a woman 11 years younger than me and how difficult that seems...

at the allure was/is to a woman 23 years his junior...



Nah I agree with you...

She one of these people who thinks she's the smartest person in any room she walks into, thinks she has an answer to everything, very much into herself. This is a scenario that likely never happens, I for sure hope not, but parenting is gonna be hard on her the older we get. She doesn't have the strongest adaptability skills and when you match that with already thinking you have the answer to everything, some challenges that pop up may be overwhelming to her...

So one of my biggest challenges now, as a new and young parent, is to able to responsibly offset her deficiencies so that it gives our daughters a mature and respectful balance as they age...



This is all facts, I don't trust any women with my daughters more than I trust men...

She’s an old soul so not really sometimes I forget she’s much younger, it’s not u til the attitude comes they I see the immaturity

 

[Luken]

Havent read any of this thread but here's my take:

If she's 18 or older, it's fair everywhere in the universe.
If your old as hell and like 45 dating a 19 year old, it can still fly just as long as you don't look like her dad.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Speaking from experience, it’s the lack of attention from parents, and the lack of constructive activities that send young boys and girls into early unhealthy relationships.

You are an active and attentive parent and keep your kid busy, they won’t be looking for companionship and attention from the wrong places.

As a parent it’s not about dictating who/when/how ur daughter dates. It’s about giving her the tools and confidence to do it in a healthy way when it’s right.

As for old nikkas messing with teenagers cause they are “legal” y’all nasty and should be ashamed of yourself